Guys-over 30- Please give me some advice.?

I met this guy about 6 months ago. He was great, but I noticed a change after a month or so. Come to find out that he was getting over a previous gf of 3 yrs. but he has known her for 25 years. They had only been apart 8 months.





All of a sudden, she seems to be back in the picture. She doesn't want him, but she wants him to still want her.





I really care about this guy, but I am beginning to feel taken for granted, and somewhat used.





What can I do to make him realize what he has in me? He says that he loves me, but I know that he still has love for her too.Guys-over 30- Please give me some advice.?
She is definitely the problem and if he is afraid to hurt her feelings then it is time for you to hurt his. She takes him back because she does not want anyone else to have him, tell him to either **** or get off the pot!Guys-over 30- Please give me some advice.?
have you ever heard of the saying having your cake and eating it too? (well there it is she is the cake that he is keeping and your the cake he is eating) Tell him that he can not have his cake and eat it too and then dump his sorry butt you can do better.
it's none of your business





jam out with your clam out and you'll get what you want
As strange as the first answer sounds, it is actually a really good solution. I had the same problem. I was in love with two girls but a threesome fixed everything. For me, my attraction to my ex was purely physical and after the ';encounter,'; I was easily able to move on with my life.
Hello from England, Peggy. Well, I almost refrained from answering this question - because I have no wish to upset you in any way.





This person is, I fear, using you and taking you for granted. He is using you simply as a substitute - nothing more, nothing less!





Get rid of him pdq, meaning pretty damn quick! You honestly deserve better. And no, you will NOT change him, so please don't waste your time on a loser.





Good luck. I wish you well.
Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel about it, but keep it simple and don't let it get out of control and end up in an argument.
have a three way with them.
you gotta give him time and space. seems like he's still not over her. he's known this girl a majority of his life. if you force /persuade him to do something he might not want to do, you may lose him forever.
just be patient and try not to be so pushy with him. it takes time to get over a relationship, concentrate on making him happy as well as yourself, and things shall work out, he needs to see that she is just playing games for himself, and he will see it soon. if you really love him you will hang in there.
It is hard to give advice without physically being there and knowning those involved. But the question should be do you trust him or not...truely trust him.





If you do trust him then just talk about it with them, try to not offend anyone and never go off the handle.





Just calmly explain that you are uncomfortable with this situation. But never go between them, if they have known each other for 25 years, then try to be fine with them at least being friends. But, that is if you trust him.





I have been in this situation before, and have decided to not talk with my ex because it was ruining my life after the relationship. But in the end I believe you two will do just fine and make the right choices. Patients and constant communication is the key to this kind of situation.
stop being a selfish little **** and share him
I'm not 30, but here's my advice: Take the other woman out of the picture, if you know what I mean.
You thought the key to a man's heart was powertools or TV's.





In fact, is buried deep within his colon, you must use your tongue as the shovel, and relieve him of his sexual tension. Show him that you understand the way he works....inside AND out.





I tend to favor a small circular pattern of short gentle licks.
Murder her.


I mean, really. Is there any other reasonable solution?


Extra points if you tie him up and make him watch you do it.





And how does a guy not realize he was in you? Are you THAT loose? Congratulations!
Well, I'm sorry to hear about your strange new guy.


After a month, you noticed he still has a friendship or something with an old gf. (this is a very bad sign)


Why? Because when I'm with a new gf, you can be 100% certain that I'm ready, willing and able to forget ALL things about my old gf. No half steppin', no regrets! I'm moving up whole-heartedly to a better girl and I'm not in anyway looking back at somebody who dumped me or who I dumped.





Don't believe the ';just friends'; nonsense. It is often used as a smokescreen to hide a hidden relationship or potential for relationship.





';All of a sudden, she seems to be back in the picture. She doesn't want him, but she wants him to still want her.';


This is truly not good. You need to lay this on the line and be tough about it. The only sure way to make him realize what he has in you is to have him go without you for a month or so. Dump his backward-steppin', tryin'-to-be-a-player, non- committed, hypnotized, sorry butt. Take charge of your rights in this relationship and don't be his door mat. That's what I did and I am really good at that kind of stuff. (with a girl of course) Hopefully, he'll soon snap out of it. Clinging to an old gf is no way to impress another gf. Be tough about it. Or he will really use you. Saying he loves you and then doing the opposite just means he's using the ';I love you'; line to control you and not tell the truth. Actions speak louder than words and are the truest test of a person's character. If his actions show he is a potential cheater than it is best to avoid him. Before something really bad happens (like you get pregnant) and then you're tied to this guy for good.


Only been apart for 8 months? That is a very long time!


It took me less than 8 weeks to move from old gf to new gf.


If he gets mad at you bringing up things, (talking is pretty harmless) that's just a sign that he's being overly defensive for some reason. I didn't mind to talking about my silly old gf to my new gf. (and to let her know how much better she is)


Shoot you got a really strange, confused, unsure guy.


Tell him to take some time and come back when he's 100% certain that you're the only one for him.
You have to confront him and talk over w/ your situations. You have the right to ask because you are his present girlfriend. If he doesn't want to talk and clear it over.., then you have to think.., twice and deeply. You can never trust him anymore, unless he became honest w/ you, and please.. don't expect too much from him.. or you may end up suffering most.