Guys and girls: 10 points: kinda long, but need advice please.?

me and my ex had been dating for about a month (I know not alot...but we鈥檝e secretly had a crush on each other for about a year but were both shy). When we broke up about 2 months ago, (through texting), i agreed to never talk to him again.





We haven鈥檛 spoken since the day we broke up...at around midnight. I miss him dearly and we only broke up because when he asked me to do a favor for him (give him head), I overreacted and cursed him off soo many times. He recently started to date this girl in my grade (and yeah hes older than me). I don鈥檛 hate her or anything in fact, we use to be good friends, but, now shes knows as the slut because she literally hooks up with every1 else鈥檚 boyfriends.





I was kind of angry about the fact he was dating her, but I tried to move on, and I still cant.. he lives close to my house, so we see each other every single day. He hasn鈥檛 been avoiding me or anything, until about a week ago. The day before he hooked up with that girl, he told my friend that he was only dating her to forget me, but he told her that he sill liked me. All of a sudden, hes been going out of his way just to make sure im nowhere around.





We take the same bus, and he use to sit right behind me, until he moved one seat back, and doesn鈥檛 sit with anybody. Why is he reacting this way, after about a month of dating her, and after its been 2 months since weve talked?Guys and girls: 10 points: kinda long, but need advice please.?
\Well first of all, he probably is just going out with some random girl to forget you. But if you ever want another chance with him, then you need to talk to him. If he still likes you then try to forgive and move on together. Its been two months and he still likes you, so it was probably tough for him when you broke up. Tell him your sorry if u want back with him, if you dont then just moe on.











good luck!Guys and girls: 10 points: kinda long, but need advice please.?
This is a very tough situation.


I think he's acting like this because he's actually falling in love with this other girl.





And I think he's avoiding you because he secretly still has feelings for you but he wants them to go away because he wants to fall in love with that other girl.





He doesn't want to get hurt again.
he probably feels guilty for hurting you and is avoiding you to try to forgive himself, but its not going to help him. He still likes you, but you should move on. If something didn't work once, it won't work no matter how hard you try again because subconsiciously, you'll never forget the past.
if he loves or likes you back then he should have enough respect for you and your decision. giving someone head is gross, not worth your time. besides thats not wat a relationship should be based on.
well if he loves you then he'll respect your wishes to not giv him head .better yet. if he wants it so bad and thats all it takes to get back together with him make him give you head first or at the same time
I think he's just embarassed of what he did and is nervouse of being around you turning into an aquard situation.
Try and get over it


of if u really want him back then go back to him then
i think you should just find a differnent guy. i know thats not exactly like easy...but that guy sounds kinda jerkish..
i'd move on, he's not worth it if he's now avoiding you even after 2 months of not speaking
well thats a toughie.....





but i think that if he told your friend that he still likes you then chances are he does~ has the thought ever crossed your mind that he was probably trying to make you jealous?!





what i think happend was that... he liked you... got mad at you... then tried to forget you by going out with another girl... then realized that he does still like you.... and now hes avoiding you because he knows that ur friend told you and hes embarrassed because he thinks that maybe u dont like him like that.....





my advice...... go up to him (in person prefferably) when his gf is NOT around and tell him that you still have feelings for him... and say something like ';um.... i cant believe im about to say this but, um i still like you, and i know that u might not feel the same about me, but, i just really needed to tell you how i really feel'; ...... chances are he'll tell you that he likes you to!!!





good luck!!
I'm not sure how old you are.. Especially when you mention that he is older than you. But if your under 18 and older than 13.... you must understand that having unprotected sex is the fasted way to contract HIV.. ESPECIALLY oral sex.


Please rethink that if you are ever asked again...


Well, If you still want him back then just take him out or ask him to come over and sit him down and talk to him... If he has done things to you, or behind your back simply because he was mad at you.. again.. maybe you might want to rethink that relationship. Certainly you don't want to be with someone that walks out everytime he doesn't like something about you, or he doesn't like what you said to him... because he'll find every excuse in the book to cheat on you... One day he may wake up and see the sky red, theres no milk in the frig, you wore green yesterday and blame you , then use that for a reasons to cheat...


You have to decide what is enough for you , what is it that you won't tolerate and make him respect you like you deserve to be respected.


And if he wants oral sex and your not giving it to him.. and you won't give it to him... what do you think he's going to do? You guessed it ! get it from someone else... You are better than that and you certainly don't want your life ending over his cheating with dirty girls...


Talk to him.. Find out what he really wants in a relationship... and the both of you agree on it... because this is something that can be resolved quickly. Good luck to the both of you ok..
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wow for this guy it seems it's all about revenge for him.he doesn't like the new girl he's with and he's only obviously with her to show that he's moved on and is over you.now even though you can't seem to get over him make up a list of pro's and con's about what was good and bad about your relationship.(after a breakup i always do this because it makes me realize weather our relationship was even worth it or not)as a con right off the bat for you is:he obviously pressured you into doing things and didn't respect you enough.I am guessing your high school aged and many high school boys just aren't ready yet to settle,many of them just want to have a ';high school experience'; filled with random hookups. If he still like you he has to be the bigger man and apologize and admit he was wrong. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG AT ALL.you may miss him still but its your job to just get over him as much as you possibly can-i mean he is now dating ';the easiet/sluttyest girl in your school';that just goes to show he really isn't in it for a genuine relationship.if you honestly just like him so much and can't take it(and you mention he lives close to you)walk to his house and just ask him to talk.DO NOT text or call him cause he can make up an excuse/just walk to his house when you no he is home and ask to talk to him.just explain to him how your not over him and needs to hear it from him whether he's over you or not.that's it---it will definitely give you closure.





good luck and remember your not the only one boys can be difficult,every girl wants that perfect guy but if that perfect boy on the outside wants a relationship for the wrong reasons,you should automatically no you deserve better.





-daniella-
GIRL YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! IF THIS BOY TRULY LOVES YOU THEN HE WILL RESPECT YOU AND YOUR DECISION. YOU ARE THE STRONG ONE AND YOUR MORALS AND STANDARDS SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES! YOU USED THE WORD ';SLUT'; WELL NO ONE CAN USE THAT WORD TO DESCRIBE YOU. YOU DIDN'T OVERREACT!!! YOU STOOD YOUR GROUND! I AM PROUD OF YOU FOR THAT.


THE ONLY REASON YOU FEEL A LOSS FOR HIM IS BECAUSE YOU ARE SECOND GUESSING YOUR INITIAL REACTION. GIRL... MOVE ON!!! THERE ARE MORE FISH IN THE SEA. ONE DAY THE GUY THAT RESPECTS YOU FOR YOU WILL COME ALONG AND YOU WILL THANK YOUR LUCKY STARS YOU DIDN'T DO SOMETHING YOU WOULD HAVE REGRETTED!! THUMBS UP FOR YOU!!!


HE IS OLDER AND OBVIOUSLY HE HAS BEEN AROUND. DO YOU REALLY WANT A GUY THAT HAS GONE WITH OR DATED SO MANY OTHER GIRLS??? THINK ABOUT IT!!


TO GET OVER THIS GUY IS TO FIND ANOTHER. JUST MAKE SURE HE RESPECTS YOU THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE RESPECTED!!
wow! you fall in love quickly.....well, first of all have you called him since the break up? I mean really because only you know the truth....it really sounds like he's avoiding you because he knows you're in his business.....are you telling his friends things about him, where you know it's getting back to him? people do NOT like to be chased...also why did he break up with you about the BJ thing..........that's stupid and immature.....his hormones are just on fire that's all .....the fact that he's shy could be another reason.....Why don't you try to have a heart to heart talk with him especially because you are not over him and you believe that he's not over you too? Good luck and best wishes.....
He is clearly acting this way because he still likes you, the reason he is avoiding you is because it hurts to see your face knowing that you are not his anymore, I say text him out the blue and ask him how he's been and see where it goes from there, when you love someone sometimes you have to go out on a limb. Good Luck
If he dumped you because he asked you to give him head and you got annoyed then that's a little bit childish - sure you should have said it a nicer way but by the sound of it your still a teen , right ? . If you like him and he has a girlfriend then it's not a good situation to be in especially if he told your friend he's only dating this other girl to forget you . You should text him of send him a e-mail nothing whiny or pathetic but something like this ,


';hi [ his name] , I know we haven't talked in a while but i miss you , we can still be friends can't we ? , I mean it will be hard because I still like you be if you and [ insert his girlfriends name here ] then I'm happy for you , text me back ? [Insert your name ] . '; Then he'll either text you back and end up dumping his girlfriend and going out with you , which is harsh I know , or he won't text you back/ dump his girlfriend . If you don't get back together here are somethings you need to remember


* just because your not together now doesn't mean you can't be in the future


* it's not his girlfriends fault - don't take it out on her


Good Luck x


* you have your whole life to fall in love again


*wounds heal


and if you do go out again remember


* you don't have to do anything sexual you don't want to and if he can't respect that then he's not worth it .


* relationships need work , you can't expect everything to be perfect


* enjoy it , don't worry about saying I love you , if you really love each other do three little words really make a difference ?
honestly i think he still likes you and is now hiding from you as he's embarrassed to be with the other girl. basicaly the sooner you both get it out in the open that you like each other the better. i know its easier said than done but just be brave and let him know how you feel. im pretty sure he's still into you too. good luck =)