Admitting that you are hurt is the first step in moving on. You have every reason to feel hurt, she dumped you, and led you on. You must also accept that you made assumptions, like she had moved on if she told you he wants to get back together with her, but that also appears to mean that she was also thinking about getting back with him.
The relationship was short between the two of you, and in that sense it was a good thing... imagine if she had told you this a year from now, and that she had been cheating on you during that time? That doen't minimize your feelings.
The pain will pass, you have to give credit to your feelings, accept them, and then put them aside and move on. Another rule of thumb that has been effective for me, is no dating for 6 months after a break up, from either side... that way it lowers the chances of a bounce back realtionship.
When you see her, don't give into your negative feelings, accept that things didn't work out, that you are better off, and don't give her any more power over you by letting her hurt you more... for example if she starts playing games about wanting to be friends with you or hang out, or start dating you again... she had she chance, she made her decision and she blew it. There will be more women in your life, more love and pain, and unfortunately, you can't experience one without the other.
Good luck, and try to just pass by or not look at her too much when you notice her... and that will also empower you and let her know that you are doing just fine without someone who can't make a commitment and stick with it.I beg you guys please help me. I beg uu. Please..Please...Please .. I am desperate for some help and advice?
Wow, that really sucks. I would just tell her something like this:
I don't want you to go because I think there is something special between us and I really enjoy being with you. However, I know you can make your own decisions, so if you want to do something else, then I'll just have to accept it. I probaby won't like it or agree with it, but you are in charge of your own life and decisions.
That's it. I wouldn't add anything else. If she wants to go, let her go. There is nothing you can do to stop her if she really wants to leave. Constantly trying to maker her stay will probalby just push her away more anyways.
So I'm sorry to hear about the situation. My advice is to move on and don't look back.
Well..most of us have been through the same kind of pain. It will take time, but it WILL go away. I know that it seems like it won't, but it will. The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy. Don't dwell on it. When you see her you need to ignore her. Don't be rude, just act like she doesn't exist.
Call her cuss her out. Change your number and ignore her. If she tries to talk to you tell her to **** off. Don't talk to her. Pretend she is dead to you. Don't forgive her. The pain will go away it just takes time.
listen do this see if it work for u tell her that u understand that she have move on let her no your feeling tell her you respect her chose in respect it but you wish that she would had let u no before your your feeling got involve with her then leave this statement with them her heart i thought u was different from all women i guess i was wrong them walk away
girls sometimes do that, you know. they become so indecisive about a lot of things. but don't let it get to you that much. you just have to move on. you can try not talking to her or steering clear from her in the first few weeks just to get it off your chest. but eventually, everything will be OK. i assure you. then when everything's ok, you can start talking to her.
you can also try going out with other girls, too. but make sure the dates stay friendly at best. that way, you do not get totally poisoned girls. they can be really nice, too.
Getting over a relationship breakup is like losing a drug addiction. You need to have absolutely no contact (try not even thinking about her) for 3 weeks. After you have proved to yourself that you can still live without her, you pain will gradually subside.
It is clear that she has established a longer relationship with this other individual. 2 months investment will not cut it for her, but I guess it did for you. I suggest that you move on. It looks like the older relationship has a advantage...As the saying goes: ';There are more bigger fish in the sea';. Good luck...
#1 She used you.
#2 Get rid of her NOW.
That's putting it simply,
Now for the explanation:
She still has strong feelings for her ex, and never really had closure even though she told you she did. She went with you on the rebound. .
The handwriting is on the wall, her ex wants her back and she has feelings for him. They will definitely reconcile, and go back to each other.
For your own sake, you should tell her that you can't continue with her anymore because she still has feelings for her ex., and her ex still want to get back with her.
Just be glad that your relationship(which never really was) was only 2 months. Look at it this way what if she led you on for 6 or 7 months. You were used, and that is disgusting of her. Why would you want a girl that used you just to make her ex jealous. Your not thinking with your head, your thinking with your emotions.
She is going to break up with you anyway very soon. If you don't break up with her you will have double trouble. The pain that you feel because you are so obsessed and care for her. And the pain of your ego being hurt. That pain is much worse, because you lost your pride.
So behave like a man, and just do it. Move on. Your relationship is over already and you know it also, but you are in denial. She is just going through the motions with you. So when you get dumped the pain you feel will devistating.
Time heals all wounds, and eventually you will look back at it as a really bad bout with the flu.
it's hard but doable u need to put one thing in your mind that she used u as a tool to get her boyfreind back and after that she threw u out keep that in mind each time u see here think about here or any thing from here side and you will be fine
i understand wot u feeling...me and my bf of over a year broke up yesterday...it really broke my heart...i think u should just try to get over her coz it seemed like u were the rebound 4 her like a comfort when she needed one and now she doesnt...u should try to find some one who will love u exactly how u love them so its equal...i found out the hard way :(...
Think of it this way, you only knew her for 2 months and she was doing stuff behind your back, telling you one thing and doing another. Now imagine being with her for many years of marriage and she went back to her ex. At least you two didn't accumulate a lot of things, except for your emotional scars. Now be happy that you will no longer have to deal with her and her hurting you. You, my friend, should count your blessings that that's all she did.
You can't force anybody to love you or meet you. When she doesn't care for you then why do you care for her. Life is long. Keep on going. You will find millions of girls ahead. Don't let her cover your heart. If she loves you she will come back to you.
Last week my girl friend married a rich man and yesterday I got a new one. Don't get hurt for any girl man. Life is once. Live it in enjoyment ................
-----forget her----time will be the only thing to ease the pain---don;t let her use you again------
That would hurt, but you should move on. If she tries to come back to you, tell her that she was right about the conflicts, but those conflicts also incluce her going back to her ex, and not being honest with you about any issues you both had together.
Time.
Dump her and forget about her. She might just be using you to get at her ex. Better quality stuff out there.
it's hard but if i were you i will make her jealous by dating another girl..hehe,,
Put a period. Move on.
i know its hard buddy girls can be cruel too...u have to realize that she never stoped caring about him. Truth hurts. But let me tell u something, a man will never lose in these types of situations.. You have to have to remember that u are the man and no female is gonna bring u down... she played u . And she lied to u but, she is just another female so it doesnt matter..they are a lot of them out there ...trust me .. just remember no female can bring u down ...EVER!
Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. I would lay it out for her, everything you want in a relationship. She can take it or leave it. Which in turn means she either settles with being exclusively with you or she's out of the picture.
If you stay with her, trust is going to be a major issue.
If you dont, good for you! Be strong.
BTW, why did someone give a lot of good answers thumbs down?
Dude, I feel sorry for you, but you gotta look at it this way. You only dated her for 2 months! Just be glad you found this out now rather than 20 years later! You will be able to move on with time. In the meantime, go out with your friends, find a new hobby, take a vacation far away, and start dating someone else. Whatever you do, don't take her back. She will just do the same thing to you again, and it will be a vicious cycle with you getting hurt again and again. Good luck!
I know how you feel. Dont give her the satisfaction of knowing that your hurt. She should of been honest from the start. When you feel that way let that person go if they come back fine, if not then thats because something better is in store for you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder :)
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