Guys advice needed,please?

I`m feeling a bit confused about a guy so would like your opinions please.He gave me his number last week and we had been texting and calling each other.He said he really liked me and didn`t care about the fact i have a son as he wanted to take me out at least once to get to know me.





He then text me on friday and said that he is interested in me and if i`m not interested in him then just let him know.He text me again later on and asked if he could call me soon but my battery went dead and he didn`t call,i sent him a text the following day and explained what happened and he didn`t reply.





My mum saw him last night in his work and got talking to him but she said he wasn`t his usuall chatty self and he told her he`d give me a call.He then text agin and asked if he could call me soon and i said yes,he didn`t call.So i just sent a text today and said if he`s not interested it`s totally fine and not to worry about it and he hasn`t even replied.Has he lost interest do you think,help??Guys advice needed,please?
When you like someone, you'll do almost anything to connect.


He hasn't made the effort, so far, and my guess is he's lost


interest (..or, wasn't interested in the first place..).


Chuck him aside and move on.Guys advice needed,please?
Maybe his battery is dead now.
for f u c k s sake woman just ring him an make him take u out! life is to short to mess around. just do it.
stop keep saying if he is not interested.


give him an ultimatum. either meet you for (pick something somewhere you like) or to forget you all together, because you are tired of his games.


that said if he is not his normal self, may be he has had a personal tragedy in his life, the death of a loved one for example or something equally devastating.


so phone and speak instead of texting. now ask him if there is anything on his mind he would like to talk to you about. and stress to him whatever it is you would like to know especially if you and he are ever going to be a couple. you have to start to trust each other and talk (text is fine but not in this case).


make sure that what ever it is you try not to judge him on what you hear.


be a friend to him first. without friendship how is a long term or even a mid term romance ever going to get off the ground.


this situation seems to have been going on for a while now. it is time you make the bold move to break out of being shy and in to outgoing and confident (even though you are not and it will be a nerve racking emotional rollercoaster).


i've said several times that you have to TALK face to face with him. arrange to meet up. or may be on monday go to his workplace and force the issue. make your visit around lunchtime and force him to go to a local restaurant or out for a pic nic with you. now talk about why he has suddenly become distant and not showing any interest. be prepared for him to say the worst that he is not interested for (what ever his reasons). or may be he is interested and is just showing you that it does not botherhim one way or the other if you get together or not.


to be frank here having your potential girlfriends mother talk to you about dating her daughter especially if he is a shy guy is going to do your relationship more harm than good.


your mom should stay out of it and say nothing to him about you. and she should not be asking him to call you. that is a definate pashion killer.


so that could be the reason behind him not calling you.


next time you text him as no doubt you will, make sure to add:


';please tell me if you are not interested';.


that should get you a response. if no response after that within 24 hours then move on and lose his number. after telling him:


';sorry time is up i asked you repeatedly if you were interested and wanted a relationship, you ignored me. i'm moving on to find someone who is not so child like. I need a real man, one who can treat me how i want and deserve to be treated';.


the above message should be sent in as close to your own words as possible without changing the overall clarity of the message. and make sure to type in the clear not the sms short hand.


as far as has he lost interest, YES he could well have lost interest especially if your mom is confronting him about you and him.


before you write or speak to him get a pan and paper and write down all the questions you need an honest answer too from him.


instead of are you interested, ask :


are we friends?


do you want to be more than just friends?


are you looking for just fun?


do you want a full blown romantic relationship?


complete the list with your own questions.


make sure to ask him not in a text but on the phone by voice to voice communications.





now tell your mom you love her, BUT please butt out of interfeeering between you and this guy.





speaking as a shy guy, the absolute best way to kill the passiion a guy may have for a woman is if her mom gets involved and asks him to call. to the mothers face he is likely to say yes of course i'll call your daughter (substituting the daughters name for the words your daughter). however once the mother (potential mother in law goes away the guy will not call. no guy wants the mother in law interfeering in the romance he may have planned for the woman he wants to date. honourable and not so honourable intentions included in this.


he is likely to think if she is interfeering now what is she going to be like if i ever decide to marry the girl. not many guys want an interfeering mother-in-law. an interfeering mother in law is the best pasion killer on the planet.


sorry but I have to say you are acting like a school girl with her first crush here. if you are over 18 it is time to stop texting and start talking! if you're under 18 then time to go for a guy your own age.


good luck!!
When you are confused by a behavior pattern, suspect a lie. I suspect he's lying to you about being interested. If he acts like he's not interested (even though his words say he is interested) he's not interested. You can't make filet mignon out of turkey.
give him a couple of days if he likes u he will be in touch
Leave it a day or so and give him a call rather than a text.
sounds to me like he is a bit immature forget him because if he is this unreliable just now then further down the line it could only get worse and i`m sure you would agree that you are worth more than that, take care xx
personally i think you are putting him off. you still havent arranged anything yet so he isnt sure about you liking him.





i say stop texting him and talk to him instead. arrange to meet him ASAP





either that or he is playing about behind your back. talk to him.
Unless you are desperately in love with him, it would be better for you to leave the thing as it is.


You'd better not take your move first. He will get in touch with you if he really fancies you.
To be honest it sounds like he has, sorry xx