Any guys that read this I need your advice??????

Ok I told this guy that I work with that I liked him and not just as a friend and we exchanged numbers. We talked for a couple of months and then we had a bit of a fall out because of course we work together so rumors started and we had a bit of a fall out. I stopped talking to him but then he started talking back to me first. He sends me mixed messages all the time. Sometimes he acts like he likes me and he's all over me and hugging me and such, but yet sometimes he acts so different towards me and he'll just say hi from a distance. We have tried to hang out togehter outside of work a couple of times and something always comes up wether it be from or myself. I'm not sure what to do anymore and sometimes I feel like just leaving him alone. if anyone can give me their advice I'd apreciate it.


Thanks Alot


A girl in distressAny guys that read this I need your advice??????
It sounds like you've spent enough time trying to figure out if something can happen or not.


So I'd leave it and be open to something new. If you're going to do that make sure you either tell him not to touch/hug you any more or you make it clear that you just want to be friends/work colleagues and nothing more. Don't give out mixed messages and he'll get the point - he may be as confused by your actions, but you don't say what you do when he is 'all over you'.


If after this he says he does want to be with you seriously, maybe give ahim acouple of weeks to prove it by acting like an adult, otherwise forget it. He sounds a bit childish, but his actions may also be affected by your own.





Good luck!!Any guys that read this I need your advice??????
Sounds like he has a girlfriend.
I'm not a guy but here is my opinion. If you really like him you need to try and work it out. Try to talk to him about your concerns. You also need to agree to be totally truthful and that way when rumors start you can ignore them and tell each other what you heard and that will stop alot of problems.
You should find someone away from the work place, because, work place relationships cause a strain on the job at hand. Think about how bad it becomes when you experience sometime and he does not give you the love you want, because he is concerned about how others will look at him.





Here's a book on communication skills, which can help with this problem.





Good Luck
what it do ma?well let me say one thing so far you sound like a nice person.and that's good.back to him if he doesn't know what the HELL he wants then leave his *** alone he's not worth it.if I were attracted to males then what I would do is KICK HIS NO GOOD *** TO THE ******* CURB.he'not what you need to be stressin 4.fo real.if you were gay I would talk to you because you sound like a nice person.and if it's 4 looks it's not all about that it's about how thay treat you as a person.and he's showing that he doesn't give a ****.
rumors started so what?


do u live for urself or people?


do u have to make other people happy by not dating?


that is not right...


it looks like the guy is effected to that is why he is mixed up...


sometimes he acts like a lover,and sometimes like a stranger...


that is not cool...give the relationship a chance girl...


and try to date him outside the work circle...


goodluck...bbye
It sounds very much to me like he doesn't know what he wants, and quite possibly neither do you!





Working together shouldn't be a barrier to a relationship, and while it obviously can have repercussions they are nothing that can not be resolved if the will is there.





It seems to me like the two of you need to sit down and have a chat about what each of you wants / expects from the other. Under the circumstances, you need to be prepared to walk away from this relationship if you don't hear the answers you are seeking, but there's a good chance that you might.





This definitely seems a case of don't ask us... ask him!
I think he's not certain if things could work out between you two and he wants to see if he could still have a chance with you. If you would like to persue something with him then just say to him ';hey, i would really like to hang out with you sometime';, or if you don't then sometimes reply to his ';hi's'; but not all the time.
ask him whats up and clear the air so your not all worried about it at work.
It took too long to happen hes not interested anymore.
if u like him that much, then call him and meet him somewhere and tell him what u feel, just be honest. do whatever u feel like doing dont think.
i am sure that there are plenty other guys out there that would appreciate u more so give it up as a bad at the office and go and find that special person that lives just for u
just let it go take a break don't let anything or anyone get in to your heart