My boyfriend loves to make jokes and sometime i dont exactly find his jokes to be very funny...for instance he'll say we're not dating if i bring up a memory and atart it with since we've been together... He also doesn't tell me he misses me and he loves me as much as he used to. Could this be because he doesn't anymore or just to keep me interested?Guys plz... all ur answers welcome girls i need serious advice?
Not knowing the guy it's hard to say for sure. However, I would guess that he doesn't know the jokes are hurting your feelings (which you need to tell him) and the i-love-yous and whatever is because he's gotten comfortable with you and doesn't feel the need to prove it anymore. So if these are the only things wrong I would try not to worry. HOWEVER. If there are other things wrong too then these things can be a symptom. Basically, by themselves they're not a big deal, but compounded with things like being more distant, breaking plans, not wanting to see you as much, just acting weird around you, picking fights, staying angry longer, etc...be careful.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Guys? Gurls? please read this and give me some advice please!?
Okey so i hang around a lot of juniors and im a freshman girl. and they are all guys. but they are the goood kind of people. THey get good grades, they are very kind, they treat me with the utmost respect and they are sooo nice. I feel i should be hanging out with people my own age but they are soo nice i dont want to not be friends with them. they make me feel special and good about myself. I feel that im rly cool to hang out with the older kids. not like it makes a difference but it really makes me feel good. but i like hanging around them. SHould i hang out with people my own age? i have girls that i hang around that are my own age but guyS? And what if i develop a crush on one of these guys???? help pleaseGuys? Gurls? please read this and give me some advice please!?
Well, you don always haf to hang out with them, maybe a lil mix because i do that sometimes and hang out with sophmores and seniors when i was a freshmen. now i am a junior and i hang aroun with both upper and lower class to get to know everyone in each grade. I can help them and the upper class can help me. So depends on you, if you want to stay with the juniors, you should have some of your girls hang out with you, either way, you can decide on what is better for you..
Well, you don always haf to hang out with them, maybe a lil mix because i do that sometimes and hang out with sophmores and seniors when i was a freshmen. now i am a junior and i hang aroun with both upper and lower class to get to know everyone in each grade. I can help them and the upper class can help me. So depends on you, if you want to stay with the juniors, you should have some of your girls hang out with you, either way, you can decide on what is better for you..
Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
On our date he asked me if I think he is more interesting now than 3 days ago when we met in the club.
Is he asking me if I am interested in him? Or is it something else?
What do u think?
I know I posted this question before but I only got 1 response. I need more.
Thanks.Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
well it seems he is asking if you like him... He wants to know if you acutally like his personality or if you dont want to talk to him anymore. I think you should tell him how you feel so he knows because he is definitely interested. It seems like he wants to know if he is boring you or if you enjoy talking/hanging out with him.Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
yes simply he is..
Seems to me that this guy is insecure if he is seeking your approval so openly as that, rather like a small child who needs assurance from his mother that he is a good boy.
he is just asking if you are more into him then when you first met
like do you think ';it'; is going somewhere
hmm.. i think he is interested in you. :)
yes I think he does
Well since it's your first date, he is probably asking how he did. You were able to get to know him more so he is asking how you think of him and if your interested or not.
Is he asking me if I am interested in him? Or is it something else?
What do u think?
I know I posted this question before but I only got 1 response. I need more.
Thanks.Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
well it seems he is asking if you like him... He wants to know if you acutally like his personality or if you dont want to talk to him anymore. I think you should tell him how you feel so he knows because he is definitely interested. It seems like he wants to know if he is boring you or if you enjoy talking/hanging out with him.Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
yes simply he is..
Seems to me that this guy is insecure if he is seeking your approval so openly as that, rather like a small child who needs assurance from his mother that he is a good boy.
he is just asking if you are more into him then when you first met
like do you think ';it'; is going somewhere
hmm.. i think he is interested in you. :)
yes I think he does
Well since it's your first date, he is probably asking how he did. You were able to get to know him more so he is asking how you think of him and if your interested or not.
Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
i am a 23 year old muslim male living in usa, and this girl who is almost 22 living in bangladesh, we r deeply in love with each other. we really want each other but unforetunetly she got nikah (married) not willingly with someone else, and now after 2 weeks she has to leave her house officially. and stay at her the new place. she is going crazy, she wants to be with me and i am going crazy as well, but we dont know what to do now, if we elope that would hurt our families, and its bound with family respects and all, but we cant live without each other thats for sure, now what can we do, what can i do. i have no idea, so plzz guys help me out give me ur best thoughts to overcome this nightmare.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
Married is married, willing or not. She is off limits now.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
have you ever met? face to face? do you know her personally, or over the internet?
unless you have a deep personal real life relationship with her, then please for your and her sake, let it go.
If you truly know each other, having actually met and spent real time (not internet time) together then you will have to either honor your and her traditions or forsake them.
I'm guessing that at the young ages you are both at, it would be best to let it go. Stop all contact for the sake of both of your emotional well-being. She cannot try to make a life if she is contacting you or if you are contacting her. You will not be able to mourn the relationship and move on if you are continuing to spend time with her in any way.
As a Muslim man you are bound by honor to do the right thing and look at the big picture.
To overcome the sadness, volunteer somewhere that gives you a sense of doing something positive. Do not focus on the ';what if's'; or the ';if onlys'; that will only bring you grief.
Move on....
It's hard, but it's the right thing to do.
Marriage is sacred.
If you dishonor her or if she dishonors her vows or her life she has, what sort of future would either of you have?
It will be hard, but you will have peace and pride in yourself knowing that you did the right thing.
Blessings to you....
pal you got problems where she.s married try going to miami you both my opion?
My friend...Listen to me carefully...This matter is not one to be dealt with lightly. It appears that the two of you love one another and you are in a great deal of pain dealing with her current situation.
The fact that she's in Bangladesh and you're here in the states make your situation difficult at best. I ask that you respect the tradition and wishes of her country and parents ';for now';...Honor the rich history surrounding this event in which she has entered. You must allow her to move forward...yes...Move forward with this arrangement. No were in your message did you say that she was willing to forsake her family for the rest of her life. So given this absolute, I must assume that she loves you but isn't willing to go against the traditional cultural arrangement of her native land.
Please give this matter some time...You're both so young and I do know that you care for this young woman. I'm not sure of how long you've been in this country or if you're native to the US but one things for sure, know what it is that you're messing with here. You need to do some soul searching and grow some more...don't look at her situation as out dated or behind the times...for the tradition of Nikah has existed for centuries.
Give it time okay......and...If you truly love her, you MUST give her some room...that means stay away, no contact...Give her time to adjust to this arrangement. If she wants to be with you and only you, then she'll need to make the decision...Not YOU...but...make no mistake about it...Her family will disown her for her actions...So tread carefully through these murky waters my friend.
Good luck
If you want to stay 'married' to your family then do nothing, pal!
If you want to still abide to ancient %26amp; foreign customs while residing in the US - well that's your problem.
Ask some cleric of your own faith to give you a solution.
Ever read ';Romeo %26amp; Juliet?'; Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. tell the family to goto hell and go get her dude.
well you guys are in deep situation this is really bad, i feel bad for you guys. well i dont think you guys have any options, but if you guys really want each other you guys have to sacrifice something either familiy or either each other, its upto you, but if u cant live without each other than i say stand for your love, for your life and get marrie and enjoy life, take care and good luck.
Married is married, willing or not. She is off limits now.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
have you ever met? face to face? do you know her personally, or over the internet?
unless you have a deep personal real life relationship with her, then please for your and her sake, let it go.
If you truly know each other, having actually met and spent real time (not internet time) together then you will have to either honor your and her traditions or forsake them.
I'm guessing that at the young ages you are both at, it would be best to let it go. Stop all contact for the sake of both of your emotional well-being. She cannot try to make a life if she is contacting you or if you are contacting her. You will not be able to mourn the relationship and move on if you are continuing to spend time with her in any way.
As a Muslim man you are bound by honor to do the right thing and look at the big picture.
To overcome the sadness, volunteer somewhere that gives you a sense of doing something positive. Do not focus on the ';what if's'; or the ';if onlys'; that will only bring you grief.
Move on....
It's hard, but it's the right thing to do.
Marriage is sacred.
If you dishonor her or if she dishonors her vows or her life she has, what sort of future would either of you have?
It will be hard, but you will have peace and pride in yourself knowing that you did the right thing.
Blessings to you....
pal you got problems where she.s married try going to miami you both my opion?
My friend...Listen to me carefully...This matter is not one to be dealt with lightly. It appears that the two of you love one another and you are in a great deal of pain dealing with her current situation.
The fact that she's in Bangladesh and you're here in the states make your situation difficult at best. I ask that you respect the tradition and wishes of her country and parents ';for now';...Honor the rich history surrounding this event in which she has entered. You must allow her to move forward...yes...Move forward with this arrangement. No were in your message did you say that she was willing to forsake her family for the rest of her life. So given this absolute, I must assume that she loves you but isn't willing to go against the traditional cultural arrangement of her native land.
Please give this matter some time...You're both so young and I do know that you care for this young woman. I'm not sure of how long you've been in this country or if you're native to the US but one things for sure, know what it is that you're messing with here. You need to do some soul searching and grow some more...don't look at her situation as out dated or behind the times...for the tradition of Nikah has existed for centuries.
Give it time okay......and...If you truly love her, you MUST give her some room...that means stay away, no contact...Give her time to adjust to this arrangement. If she wants to be with you and only you, then she'll need to make the decision...Not YOU...but...make no mistake about it...Her family will disown her for her actions...So tread carefully through these murky waters my friend.
Good luck
If you want to stay 'married' to your family then do nothing, pal!
If you want to still abide to ancient %26amp; foreign customs while residing in the US - well that's your problem.
Ask some cleric of your own faith to give you a solution.
Ever read ';Romeo %26amp; Juliet?'; Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. tell the family to goto hell and go get her dude.
well you guys are in deep situation this is really bad, i feel bad for you guys. well i dont think you guys have any options, but if you guys really want each other you guys have to sacrifice something either familiy or either each other, its upto you, but if u cant live without each other than i say stand for your love, for your life and get marrie and enjoy life, take care and good luck.
Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
I like this girl, we went out on our first date but she didn't want to come alone, she came with some friends, same as me! we hold hands in the theatre but she didn't want a kiss or anything like that! I really like this girl but I don't know, it's like I have to say hello every time I see her in messenger and stuff... I say like '; your really pretty in this pic and she's like ';Thank youuu XD'; so I don't know. I want to make her my girlfriend this upcoming friday that I'm gonna play with my band! Right before I get on stage or after! but I don't know if she is that interested in me or I don't know... I don't wanna screw things up with her or anything because i really like her, she does want to go out with me again but I'm confused, should I ask her to be my girlfriend, or ask her if she is interested the same as me?
some tips please!
Thanks to all in Advance!Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
Hey:)
First off i'm a girl and I really like this guy who does the same stuff you do to me. He always tells me I'm pretty in my pictures and in person. I always just say thanks because I never know how to answer showing how I really feel. If this girl hung out with you with her friends she probably does like you ad she's just nervous. Try not going to such a public place for the first time that way she won't be embarrassed around strangers. I think you should tell her that you like her first (not ask her out right away) Then she can tell you how she feels. Maybe she feels the same way. I wish the guy I liked would just tell me he liked me. So i'm sure she likes you, any guy who flatters a girl will make a girl happy. She is probably just to shy to express her emotions.Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
No offense, but it is no use fretting about it. If she wants to go out with you again, it is likely she likes you a bit. Ask her out to some places and get to know her better if you like. I think you should ask her out though, I mean, there's no harm in trying. If she says know, it doesn't mean you can't still be friends. If she tells you that she doesn't want to be your friend after you ask her out, then she isn't really worth the time.
Just ask her if she is interested! From the way you describe it, it seems like she does like you, and if she wants to go on another date then go for it! Just because you didnt kiss on your first date doesnt mean that she doesnt like you it just means that she was unsure and didnt know enough about you! Go for it!
go ahead ask her and I would do it after u go on stage with yur band
if she says no then tell her it's alright maybe it would just be better if we were friends act strong it will be ok there are plenty of girls out there and one is bound to like you maybe that girl isn't the one
I Wish You Luck Though
:D
ask her to be your girlfriend. shes probably the conservative shy kind that doesnt always kiss on the first date. if you really feel that she likes you...GO FOR IT! if you dont your gonna be stuck with ';if then maybes'; seriously dude ask her. even if she says no? whoooo cares? theres PLEEENTY of fish in the sea
you're rushing.
just take it a little bit slower.
talk to her a lot. and start callingheron the phone.
do not let the phone calls get awkward.
make her laugh A LOT.
and then in about a couple of weeks, if it seemslike shelikes you, ask her.
then wait a couple days and ask her out.
she didn't want to kiss because it was too soon.
=)
hope I helped!
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Hmm..does seem a lil confusing. It could mean anything but if shes willing to hold your hand than she must be interested. Next time u take her out make sure its just u 2. Dont bring friends along cuz that just shows that u guys are really nervous and scared. I say let her know how u feel and see what she says and base that on wanting to make her ur gf or not. good luck
Okay, bro, you gotta keep it chill. Just go up to her, look her deep in the eyes, and tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. If she seems happy, then you can proceed to ask her out. Suavely stroke your hair, and subtly ask ';So i herd u liek buttsecks?';
maybe she doesnt want to kiss on the first date? just ask her out AFTER the show because if she says no you will be bummed. if you held hands thats good. wait why would you even try to kiss her if you arent even going out?! what is she a whore?
I think she only wants to be your friend but then again i might be wrong since guys and girlz dont really hold hands if there friends so maybe she likes you. Just ask her out and if she says no then who cares go on with life she will still be your friend trust me.
while you were in the theatre yal were holding hands so if she ain't let go of your hand then my guess is that she likes you. I think you should go for it.Let her know what you are about. Or just ask her how she feels about you.
How old are you.
But (Im a girl) When a girl holds a guys hand in that sort of situation, it usually means a crush..
Whats there to loose ask her out..
In person, e-mail/text is a no no.
Hopefully that helped. I've never been asked out. But... lol.
she might not have wanted to kiss you because there were a lot of people around. just go for it! you'll regret it if you don't at least try. good luck :D
flirt some more and then read the signs, like if she flirts back then she likes you but you also cant ever really tell with girls cause she might be shy so you just have to take the chance and aask her out .
well you should probably start off by just asking her what she really thinks about you and if she says that she has feeling that are similar to yours then you can ask her to be ur gf.
well she likes you..i know that if i went with a person to a movie i know that i would have to be interested..id ask her out...
Maybe she is shy and doesn't want to be alone with you. Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090615194451AA8bnSs%26amp;r=w
There's a good chance that she likes you. Make a move and ask her! :)
haha heehehhehahhaha HO
well...seems insecure. i think you should ask her whatever you think you should ask and START OFF SLOW. from holding hands to hugs and then to kisses. she will feel much comfortable by then
go for it :)
she probably is in to it just as much as you are but doesn't want to open up so fast soooo. yeah.
ask her if she's interested in you and if yes ask her.
Sometimes girls need a little time. Wait a little bit and don't go to fast. talking and Communication is the best.
if she went on the date with you then she probably likes you. just go for it and ask her.
stop thinking about it so much, it shows and makes you seem insecure.
Why don't you tell her?
WHat if she dies tomorrow?
(not saying that she will)
What's the worst she can say, no?
Show your love today, man.
Sounds like she's pretty into u! I say go 4 it ! XD good luck!
ask her dont be afraid if she sais know dont get depressed move on.
Go for it!
You have to take chances in life!
well if u really like her u should ask her 2 go out with u
just ask her out and dont seem to ancxious
some tips please!
Thanks to all in Advance!Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
Hey:)
First off i'm a girl and I really like this guy who does the same stuff you do to me. He always tells me I'm pretty in my pictures and in person. I always just say thanks because I never know how to answer showing how I really feel. If this girl hung out with you with her friends she probably does like you ad she's just nervous. Try not going to such a public place for the first time that way she won't be embarrassed around strangers. I think you should tell her that you like her first (not ask her out right away) Then she can tell you how she feels. Maybe she feels the same way. I wish the guy I liked would just tell me he liked me. So i'm sure she likes you, any guy who flatters a girl will make a girl happy. She is probably just to shy to express her emotions.Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
No offense, but it is no use fretting about it. If she wants to go out with you again, it is likely she likes you a bit. Ask her out to some places and get to know her better if you like. I think you should ask her out though, I mean, there's no harm in trying. If she says know, it doesn't mean you can't still be friends. If she tells you that she doesn't want to be your friend after you ask her out, then she isn't really worth the time.
Just ask her if she is interested! From the way you describe it, it seems like she does like you, and if she wants to go on another date then go for it! Just because you didnt kiss on your first date doesnt mean that she doesnt like you it just means that she was unsure and didnt know enough about you! Go for it!
go ahead ask her and I would do it after u go on stage with yur band
if she says no then tell her it's alright maybe it would just be better if we were friends act strong it will be ok there are plenty of girls out there and one is bound to like you maybe that girl isn't the one
I Wish You Luck Though
:D
ask her to be your girlfriend. shes probably the conservative shy kind that doesnt always kiss on the first date. if you really feel that she likes you...GO FOR IT! if you dont your gonna be stuck with ';if then maybes'; seriously dude ask her. even if she says no? whoooo cares? theres PLEEENTY of fish in the sea
you're rushing.
just take it a little bit slower.
talk to her a lot. and start callingheron the phone.
do not let the phone calls get awkward.
make her laugh A LOT.
and then in about a couple of weeks, if it seemslike shelikes you, ask her.
then wait a couple days and ask her out.
she didn't want to kiss because it was too soon.
=)
hope I helped!
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Hmm..does seem a lil confusing. It could mean anything but if shes willing to hold your hand than she must be interested. Next time u take her out make sure its just u 2. Dont bring friends along cuz that just shows that u guys are really nervous and scared. I say let her know how u feel and see what she says and base that on wanting to make her ur gf or not. good luck
Okay, bro, you gotta keep it chill. Just go up to her, look her deep in the eyes, and tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. If she seems happy, then you can proceed to ask her out. Suavely stroke your hair, and subtly ask ';So i herd u liek buttsecks?';
maybe she doesnt want to kiss on the first date? just ask her out AFTER the show because if she says no you will be bummed. if you held hands thats good. wait why would you even try to kiss her if you arent even going out?! what is she a whore?
I think she only wants to be your friend but then again i might be wrong since guys and girlz dont really hold hands if there friends so maybe she likes you. Just ask her out and if she says no then who cares go on with life she will still be your friend trust me.
while you were in the theatre yal were holding hands so if she ain't let go of your hand then my guess is that she likes you. I think you should go for it.Let her know what you are about. Or just ask her how she feels about you.
How old are you.
But (Im a girl) When a girl holds a guys hand in that sort of situation, it usually means a crush..
Whats there to loose ask her out..
In person, e-mail/text is a no no.
Hopefully that helped. I've never been asked out. But... lol.
she might not have wanted to kiss you because there were a lot of people around. just go for it! you'll regret it if you don't at least try. good luck :D
flirt some more and then read the signs, like if she flirts back then she likes you but you also cant ever really tell with girls cause she might be shy so you just have to take the chance and aask her out .
well you should probably start off by just asking her what she really thinks about you and if she says that she has feeling that are similar to yours then you can ask her to be ur gf.
well she likes you..i know that if i went with a person to a movie i know that i would have to be interested..id ask her out...
Maybe she is shy and doesn't want to be alone with you. Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090615194451AA8bnSs%26amp;r=w
There's a good chance that she likes you. Make a move and ask her! :)
haha heehehhehahhaha HO
well...seems insecure. i think you should ask her whatever you think you should ask and START OFF SLOW. from holding hands to hugs and then to kisses. she will feel much comfortable by then
go for it :)
she probably is in to it just as much as you are but doesn't want to open up so fast soooo. yeah.
ask her if she's interested in you and if yes ask her.
Sometimes girls need a little time. Wait a little bit and don't go to fast. talking and Communication is the best.
if she went on the date with you then she probably likes you. just go for it and ask her.
stop thinking about it so much, it shows and makes you seem insecure.
Why don't you tell her?
WHat if she dies tomorrow?
(not saying that she will)
What's the worst she can say, no?
Show your love today, man.
Sounds like she's pretty into u! I say go 4 it ! XD good luck!
ask her dont be afraid if she sais know dont get depressed move on.
Go for it!
You have to take chances in life!
well if u really like her u should ask her 2 go out with u
just ask her out and dont seem to ancxious
Guy advice please? I need help in getting a gorgeous guy!?
I am so tired of all the drama that comes with boys.... I need help with finding out what to do... I mean I love texting my guy buddies but there is this one guy I have a huge crush on and I need some help...I am a litttle shy but can be out going at times....I want him to notice me more. What can i do to help? I talk to him a lot but usually i dont know the right thing to say!Guy advice please? I need help in getting a gorgeous guy!?
Dry hump his leg like a poodle. You don't have to say a word. He will be yours forever.Guy advice please? I need help in getting a gorgeous guy!?
Step one you need to flirt with him. Compliment him, guys like that. Step two, get to know him know what he likes and what he doesn't. Step three, ask him to do stuff, if he says no, then wait a bit before you ask him. Don't seem desperate!natural facial
Dry hump his leg like a poodle. You don't have to say a word. He will be yours forever.Guy advice please? I need help in getting a gorgeous guy!?
Step one you need to flirt with him. Compliment him, guys like that. Step two, get to know him know what he likes and what he doesn't. Step three, ask him to do stuff, if he says no, then wait a bit before you ask him. Don't seem desperate!
My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
ok basically me and my now ex found out i was prego on fathers day. He went to the pool while I was at work and he met a female there (who is 20 yrs old and just got out of prison for dealing meth, she has no job no car no nothing) and basically did nothing but lie to me that entire week and sneak around with her (I later found out he slept with her in his car in a parking lot when he said he had to go save her 14 yr old sister from being raped and kissed me said he loved me and hed be home in a little bit). Friday the 26th he moved out to go be with her..and he still lied and said he was going to go out of state and be with his family. I found him that night and he wouldnt face me. (if it was really all worth it why couldnt he face me? atleast tell me the truth but when i talked to him earlier that day he still swore he hadnt touched her) He had someone else give me back his cell phone and he just yelled at me to leave (it was a complete crack shack hillbilly trailor park -10 dogs tied to the trees and everything) I dont understand why or how he could do this to me. He hasnt contacted me since (the police were called and they told him not to conact me or come near my home again) The baby was his idea. Our relationship was perfect before that week. We had a house jobs and a baby on the way. When I got his cell phone back I read the texts between him and her and on the 2nd day of knowing him she said she was falling in love with him! This girl is complete white trash and obviously has no respect for anyone. (i met her at the pool one day and she swore there was nothin going on and that she wasnt attracted to him at all and i told her i was carryin his child -after i got the phone bill i went through it and saw that she first texted him and texted him the entire time she was tellin me she didnt like him) Im so confused ...Im in shock, so is my family as everyone thought he was as close to perfect as you can get. His brother even couldnt believe he did this. I dont understand any of this and I dont know what to do. I dont want my child around him and especially that girl he ran off with. Do I go after him for child support? and let him be around my child (which he said the thursday night before he left was a mistake -he was with her when he said it and I think he was just trying to be a hard a** because again hes always wanted a baby) or just let it go and be a single mom ...
Oh and PS Im considered high risk due to blood clots and I have to stay calm and take meds and he knew this before we even decided to have a baby and he swore to me hed take care of me
oh and he also cleaned out my bank account on the tuesday night/wednesday morning after he met her and apparently spent it on her so should i sue him for that? also he had a lease agreement with my mom (the house is in her name) for proof of address should i have her sue him for that? around 5500My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
I would take that f**ker for every penney I could get. This guy made a human being and he is as responsible for this baby as you are. He would be a crappy example for a father. Good riddance.My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
You need to forget about him and focus on you and your baby. More than likely he's doing meth too. You and your baby don't need that kind of life.
I'm sorry about your health condition. I hope you have family who will help you during your pregnancy. Even though he wanted a baby and now that you're pregnant he's skipped out you still have a little miracle growing inside you who will always love you no matter what.
Even though you are hurting right now it's better you find out what he's really about now than later.
He can't clean out your bank account unless his name is on the account too.
Good luck hon! You may not see it now but it'll all work out for the best in the long run.
Edit: If you don't want him involved in the baby's life then don't put his name as the father on the birth certificate. If he's involved in your baby's life he will take your baby to that crack ridden trailer park. Not the best place for a baby.
Why would you ever decide to have a baby if it were a health problem for you? And to trust a guy you didn't know that well, too?
How did he get to clean out your bank account? Did he take your debit card? And did you give him your pin number?
You are not married so you could have charges placed for theft if you did not give him your card or tell him he could use it. However, if you were living with him at the time, the police may ignore that as it is a domestic dispute and retaliation for his behavior.
As to your mother, that is her business if she owns the house and if he signed a lease. Maybe you need to go back with Mom and rent out the house to someone else.
As to child support, yes, he is responsible, but I doubt you will get anything unless he gets more responsible.
If he is the father of the child, and you go after him for childsupport, and even if you don't, he could sue for visitation and might receive it as the father of the child. But not if he is a crack head or not as likely.
You need to decide what you want. Can you safely have this child? If you wish to you may place the child for adoption when it is born or keep it. Decide in the best interest of the child. You might have to have his signature as well to give it up.
Good luck in making good decisions for a change as to what to do at this time.
Good luck.
You have to sue him and file for child support. It sounds like he wont fight for visitation rights but if he does tell the judge the situation and make sure its documented that the woman he is with went to jail for dealing. Get your money back and make sure he pays for this child ...that alone will take stress off of you.Then be a happy single mom! It's hard put think of the millions of women out there doing it and that have did it. Stay strong.
OK, I only picked up this post because I thought it was about vertigo, but I am a counsellor so reading your story concerns me.
Ask yourself these questions, do you want this man as your baby's role model? Do you think that you deserve to have a relationship with a man that cheats on you and steals your money? Do you want your baby to spend weekends with him and his drugged up girlfriend? I am sure the answer is 'no'.
I'm not sure about the whole 'suing' thing I live in Australia and we don't really do that! You do however, have the most important job to do and that is look after yourself and your baby and be the best role model and Mum possible.
Well your choices are really only abortion, adoption, or single mom. This guy will be gone by the child's first birthday, I can guarantee it. You can take him for child support, but a loser like that won't have to pay much. A couple hundred bucks a month maybe. Which won't cover daycare even. So you'll be on state assistance and/or struggling to make ends meet for the next 18 years. I'd reconsider this whole thing if I were you.
You need to get a bulldog of an attorney. I'm a man too, but listen, you need to bend this guy over.
Keep the kids away from him if he's doing or selling meth. Make sure you gather evidence of him doing meth. Maybe you gather evidence and information before you drop the atom bomb through your attorney.
It sounds like there's zero chance of reconciling, if what you've said is true.
Oh and PS Im considered high risk due to blood clots and I have to stay calm and take meds and he knew this before we even decided to have a baby and he swore to me hed take care of me
oh and he also cleaned out my bank account on the tuesday night/wednesday morning after he met her and apparently spent it on her so should i sue him for that? also he had a lease agreement with my mom (the house is in her name) for proof of address should i have her sue him for that? around 5500My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
I would take that f**ker for every penney I could get. This guy made a human being and he is as responsible for this baby as you are. He would be a crappy example for a father. Good riddance.My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
You need to forget about him and focus on you and your baby. More than likely he's doing meth too. You and your baby don't need that kind of life.
I'm sorry about your health condition. I hope you have family who will help you during your pregnancy. Even though he wanted a baby and now that you're pregnant he's skipped out you still have a little miracle growing inside you who will always love you no matter what.
Even though you are hurting right now it's better you find out what he's really about now than later.
He can't clean out your bank account unless his name is on the account too.
Good luck hon! You may not see it now but it'll all work out for the best in the long run.
Edit: If you don't want him involved in the baby's life then don't put his name as the father on the birth certificate. If he's involved in your baby's life he will take your baby to that crack ridden trailer park. Not the best place for a baby.
Why would you ever decide to have a baby if it were a health problem for you? And to trust a guy you didn't know that well, too?
How did he get to clean out your bank account? Did he take your debit card? And did you give him your pin number?
You are not married so you could have charges placed for theft if you did not give him your card or tell him he could use it. However, if you were living with him at the time, the police may ignore that as it is a domestic dispute and retaliation for his behavior.
As to your mother, that is her business if she owns the house and if he signed a lease. Maybe you need to go back with Mom and rent out the house to someone else.
As to child support, yes, he is responsible, but I doubt you will get anything unless he gets more responsible.
If he is the father of the child, and you go after him for childsupport, and even if you don't, he could sue for visitation and might receive it as the father of the child. But not if he is a crack head or not as likely.
You need to decide what you want. Can you safely have this child? If you wish to you may place the child for adoption when it is born or keep it. Decide in the best interest of the child. You might have to have his signature as well to give it up.
Good luck in making good decisions for a change as to what to do at this time.
Good luck.
You have to sue him and file for child support. It sounds like he wont fight for visitation rights but if he does tell the judge the situation and make sure its documented that the woman he is with went to jail for dealing. Get your money back and make sure he pays for this child ...that alone will take stress off of you.Then be a happy single mom! It's hard put think of the millions of women out there doing it and that have did it. Stay strong.
OK, I only picked up this post because I thought it was about vertigo, but I am a counsellor so reading your story concerns me.
Ask yourself these questions, do you want this man as your baby's role model? Do you think that you deserve to have a relationship with a man that cheats on you and steals your money? Do you want your baby to spend weekends with him and his drugged up girlfriend? I am sure the answer is 'no'.
I'm not sure about the whole 'suing' thing I live in Australia and we don't really do that! You do however, have the most important job to do and that is look after yourself and your baby and be the best role model and Mum possible.
Well your choices are really only abortion, adoption, or single mom. This guy will be gone by the child's first birthday, I can guarantee it. You can take him for child support, but a loser like that won't have to pay much. A couple hundred bucks a month maybe. Which won't cover daycare even. So you'll be on state assistance and/or struggling to make ends meet for the next 18 years. I'd reconsider this whole thing if I were you.
You need to get a bulldog of an attorney. I'm a man too, but listen, you need to bend this guy over.
Keep the kids away from him if he's doing or selling meth. Make sure you gather evidence of him doing meth. Maybe you gather evidence and information before you drop the atom bomb through your attorney.
It sounds like there's zero chance of reconciling, if what you've said is true.
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I was making out with this guy I am seeing and then he said something like ';I just want to make out with my girl';
Does he probably think I am his gf now?
ThanksGUYS:WHAT DOES HE THINK?10 points for best advice!!?
lol, you were making out with him and you're worried cause it just might be possible that he thinks he's your boyfriend now. I'm guessin he thinks your involved now. Just roll with it. Let him make the next move if you don't wanna be involved with him, that way you avoid any unnecessary unpleasantness of having to dump someone who may not have to be dumped.GUYS:WHAT DOES HE THINK?10 points for best advice!!?
Nope, just means he knows his way into a girls pants... Good boy!
he refered to u as ';his girl'; so its pretty cut and dry i would say. i would def. say wants/ or thinks you and him are going out.
It depends on how he's reading you...
If he thinks you are looking for a boyfriend, then he's saying it to get into your pants...he's reinforcing the notion that your guys are already in a relationship as quickly as possible to make this possible.
If he's unsure of his status with you...he may be insecure and testing the water, then he's probably into you %26amp; wants to get into a relationship...and ultimately get into your pants.
Either way...best to stay ambiguous about what your status is...likely he is just trying to get some or could be just needy. Time will tell...trust me...just date a couple more times...if he's the former...he'll split if it's not an easy kill. sounds bad, but it's the truth.
i wouldnt say he already thinks u r his girl. but i would say he is just trying 2 make u his girlfriend but he is kinda shy 2 ask u.. i dont know that is how i feel.. waiting 4 the 10 points:)
It was just pillow talk baby! That's all. We get caught up in the heat of passion sometimes and say things. If you want him to be your boyfriend, ask him.
No, its a general statement he just said infront of you.
nope
to tell you the truth id sad its just sumthing he called/calls you now. You could ask him what it means and im sure hell be very up front about it :) Hope this helps
Can you give more details?
Did he stop kissing you and say that or did he keep on going while saying that?
Maybe but i once had a guy who said that 2 me and i seen him with another girl two days after i was devestated
if hes the confident type, then yea, he thinks that ur hes gf...
thats basically what he said
i think wen i first got with my bf
he said something like that
but he never really asked me out n e way
but he said thats lame n g's (or real dudes)
dont ask no more these days
either take it or leave it girl
dont let it go to far if you are not for it
but also make sure you bring it up to
his attention that you paid attention and
heard what he said so you both can have a clean understanding where you both are!! it will help greatly
you got USED! ****
Does he probably think I am his gf now?
ThanksGUYS:WHAT DOES HE THINK?10 points for best advice!!?
lol, you were making out with him and you're worried cause it just might be possible that he thinks he's your boyfriend now. I'm guessin he thinks your involved now. Just roll with it. Let him make the next move if you don't wanna be involved with him, that way you avoid any unnecessary unpleasantness of having to dump someone who may not have to be dumped.GUYS:WHAT DOES HE THINK?10 points for best advice!!?
Nope, just means he knows his way into a girls pants... Good boy!
he refered to u as ';his girl'; so its pretty cut and dry i would say. i would def. say wants/ or thinks you and him are going out.
It depends on how he's reading you...
If he thinks you are looking for a boyfriend, then he's saying it to get into your pants...he's reinforcing the notion that your guys are already in a relationship as quickly as possible to make this possible.
If he's unsure of his status with you...he may be insecure and testing the water, then he's probably into you %26amp; wants to get into a relationship...and ultimately get into your pants.
Either way...best to stay ambiguous about what your status is...likely he is just trying to get some or could be just needy. Time will tell...trust me...just date a couple more times...if he's the former...he'll split if it's not an easy kill. sounds bad, but it's the truth.
i wouldnt say he already thinks u r his girl. but i would say he is just trying 2 make u his girlfriend but he is kinda shy 2 ask u.. i dont know that is how i feel.. waiting 4 the 10 points:)
It was just pillow talk baby! That's all. We get caught up in the heat of passion sometimes and say things. If you want him to be your boyfriend, ask him.
No, its a general statement he just said infront of you.
nope
to tell you the truth id sad its just sumthing he called/calls you now. You could ask him what it means and im sure hell be very up front about it :) Hope this helps
Can you give more details?
Did he stop kissing you and say that or did he keep on going while saying that?
Maybe but i once had a guy who said that 2 me and i seen him with another girl two days after i was devestated
if hes the confident type, then yea, he thinks that ur hes gf...
thats basically what he said
i think wen i first got with my bf
he said something like that
but he never really asked me out n e way
but he said thats lame n g's (or real dudes)
dont ask no more these days
either take it or leave it girl
dont let it go to far if you are not for it
but also make sure you bring it up to
his attention that you paid attention and
heard what he said so you both can have a clean understanding where you both are!! it will help greatly
you got USED! ****
Another one for guys & girls: Single, 36, wanting to try new things in regards to dating & men. Advice?
lol what have you in mind?
my advice dont do nothing your not comfortable with..Another one for guys %26amp; girls: Single, 36, wanting to try new things in regards to dating %26amp; men. Advice?
be in control....Another one for guys %26amp; girls: Single, 36, wanting to try new things in regards to dating %26amp; men. Advice?
Go hard or go home lol.
goodluck!
Call me ;)
my advice dont do nothing your not comfortable with..Another one for guys %26amp; girls: Single, 36, wanting to try new things in regards to dating %26amp; men. Advice?
be in control....Another one for guys %26amp; girls: Single, 36, wanting to try new things in regards to dating %26amp; men. Advice?
Go hard or go home lol.
goodluck!
Call me ;)
Should i just stay away from dating guys for a while??? need some good advice :] thankks in advance?
Okay, everytime i get close to a guy even if its just a month relationship or something.. we slowly fall apart like i will feel like he hates me all the time and i will just break up with him.
my last relationship ended this way right after thanksgiving and he told his friends he didnt know what happened
im only 14;; but i feel like having a boyfriend keeps me together. im independent for the simple fact i do not need anybody to help me with life. i just love being with a guy that i know thinks im the hottest thing ever, and lieks me alot. guys can say it but i dont think it means much unless we are going out..
should i just stay away from guys for a while?
should i reject them until im older?
i feel bad being like noo.. but i dont
rlly know if its best for me or not.
%26amp;%26amp; i wanna know why im so attracted to jerks.
when guys get jelous of me talking to other guys
and wanting to kill them for talking 2 me.. i love it.
why is that?
thanks :]Should i just stay away from dating guys for a while??? need some good advice :] thankks in advance?
You sound like one fo my friends who has never gone a day without a boyfriend.
I think you should take a break because you are only 14 and it seems like you don't focus on yourself, but on the guy. I only fear that if you keep this up, you are going to fall into bad relationship after bad relationship. My friend is never happy in her relationships because she ends up talking to a new guy, and drifts away from her old boyfriend. Then all the guys get jealous because they want her. It kind of sounds like the problem you have now.
It might not be so bad now since your younger, but one you get into highschool it could cause some damage on you. You might be unhappy because you can't seem to get into a good relationship and you might get a reputation of being a tease, which could drive some guys away.
I'm not telling you to take a break exactly, but before you date someone, make sure that you really like them and that your relationship can last longer than a month. Don't just date a guy just to date them, make sure they treat you like a queen. Just slow down and think before you date.Should i just stay away from dating guys for a while??? need some good advice :] thankks in advance?
You luv attension thts true but let the boys come to you your only 14 hun, try goin on a few dates to get to know them first this way you may realise if it will work or not x
Haha
Hey hun, don't worry, i know the feeling. I feel like sometimes having a guy like me is the greatest. This is because you always feel that no matter how much u feel down, you always know theres somebody out there who likes you, and wants you. That would be why u always want a BF. But, let me tell you, that sometimes its not good breaking up and hooking up. Its just insercurity. You say your independant, and thats good, but part of it is being w.o a guy. Try stopping dating for a while, and take it slowly. Learn to be really independant, and not rely on a guy for security :] I hope that helps!
hun,
you like attention...its ok just be a little more judgemental and try to realize that they guys who don't want to kill a guy if you talk to him are the better guys for you...
my last relationship ended this way right after thanksgiving and he told his friends he didnt know what happened
im only 14;; but i feel like having a boyfriend keeps me together. im independent for the simple fact i do not need anybody to help me with life. i just love being with a guy that i know thinks im the hottest thing ever, and lieks me alot. guys can say it but i dont think it means much unless we are going out..
should i just stay away from guys for a while?
should i reject them until im older?
i feel bad being like noo.. but i dont
rlly know if its best for me or not.
%26amp;%26amp; i wanna know why im so attracted to jerks.
when guys get jelous of me talking to other guys
and wanting to kill them for talking 2 me.. i love it.
why is that?
thanks :]Should i just stay away from dating guys for a while??? need some good advice :] thankks in advance?
You sound like one fo my friends who has never gone a day without a boyfriend.
I think you should take a break because you are only 14 and it seems like you don't focus on yourself, but on the guy. I only fear that if you keep this up, you are going to fall into bad relationship after bad relationship. My friend is never happy in her relationships because she ends up talking to a new guy, and drifts away from her old boyfriend. Then all the guys get jealous because they want her. It kind of sounds like the problem you have now.
It might not be so bad now since your younger, but one you get into highschool it could cause some damage on you. You might be unhappy because you can't seem to get into a good relationship and you might get a reputation of being a tease, which could drive some guys away.
I'm not telling you to take a break exactly, but before you date someone, make sure that you really like them and that your relationship can last longer than a month. Don't just date a guy just to date them, make sure they treat you like a queen. Just slow down and think before you date.Should i just stay away from dating guys for a while??? need some good advice :] thankks in advance?
You luv attension thts true but let the boys come to you your only 14 hun, try goin on a few dates to get to know them first this way you may realise if it will work or not x
Haha
Hey hun, don't worry, i know the feeling. I feel like sometimes having a guy like me is the greatest. This is because you always feel that no matter how much u feel down, you always know theres somebody out there who likes you, and wants you. That would be why u always want a BF. But, let me tell you, that sometimes its not good breaking up and hooking up. Its just insercurity. You say your independant, and thats good, but part of it is being w.o a guy. Try stopping dating for a while, and take it slowly. Learn to be really independant, and not rely on a guy for security :] I hope that helps!
hun,
you like attention...its ok just be a little more judgemental and try to realize that they guys who don't want to kill a guy if you talk to him are the better guys for you...
Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
so, as a guy, if a girl that went to your school added you on facebook, and you had never talked to her and had no classes together, would that be creepy/weird??
and then if next school year you guys started hanging out and then he remembered that, would it be awkward??
there's this guy at school that i like but he's a grade ahead and i want to add him on facebook, but i'm afraid because i only ever see him in the halls...advice please???Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
OMG yeah I totally did that with this dude.
And then we had a class together (I added him berfore school year) and he was like
';I know you.. ..... from facebook.';
and it was sooo totally awkward..
But if you like him, you can add him. Facebook is a really good device for finding out about someone you like. You could talk to him in person too, after you've added him.Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
do it casue people that i dont talk to that goto my school have added me....
Don't add him as a FRIEND if you've never talked to him before. Adding people as FRIENDS on facebook is because they are your real life FRIENDS.
and then if next school year you guys started hanging out and then he remembered that, would it be awkward??
there's this guy at school that i like but he's a grade ahead and i want to add him on facebook, but i'm afraid because i only ever see him in the halls...advice please???Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
OMG yeah I totally did that with this dude.
And then we had a class together (I added him berfore school year) and he was like
';I know you.. ..... from facebook.';
and it was sooo totally awkward..
But if you like him, you can add him. Facebook is a really good device for finding out about someone you like. You could talk to him in person too, after you've added him.Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
do it casue people that i dont talk to that goto my school have added me....
Don't add him as a FRIEND if you've never talked to him before. Adding people as FRIENDS on facebook is because they are your real life FRIENDS.
Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
I like this girl, we went out on our first date but she didn't want to come alone, she came with some friends, same as me! we hold hands in the theatre but she didn't want a kiss or anything like that! I really like this girl but I don't know, it's like I have to say hello every time I see her in messenger and stuff... I say like '; your really pretty in this pic and she's like ';Thank youuu XD'; so I don't know. I want to make her my girlfriend this upcoming friday that I'm gonna play with my band! Right before I get on stage or after! but I don't know if she is that interested in me or I don't know... I don't wanna screw things up with her or anything because i really like her, she does want to go out with me again but I'm confused, should I ask her to be my girlfriend, or ask her if she is interested the same as me?
some tips please!
Thanks to all in Advance!Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
Hey:)
First off i'm a girl and I really like this guy who does the same stuff you do to me. He always tells me I'm pretty in my pictures and in person. I always just say thanks because I never know how to answer showing how I really feel. If this girl hung out with you with her friends she probably does like you ad she's just nervous. Try not going to such a public place for the first time that way she won't be embarrassed around strangers. I think you should tell her that you like her first (not ask her out right away) Then she can tell you how she feels. Maybe she feels the same way. I wish the guy I liked would just tell me he liked me. So i'm sure she likes you, any guy who flatters a girl will make a girl happy. She is probably just to shy to express her emotions.Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
No offense, but it is no use fretting about it. If she wants to go out with you again, it is likely she likes you a bit. Ask her out to some places and get to know her better if you like. I think you should ask her out though, I mean, there's no harm in trying. If she says know, it doesn't mean you can't still be friends. If she tells you that she doesn't want to be your friend after you ask her out, then she isn't really worth the time.
Just ask her if she is interested! From the way you describe it, it seems like she does like you, and if she wants to go on another date then go for it! Just because you didnt kiss on your first date doesnt mean that she doesnt like you it just means that she was unsure and didnt know enough about you! Go for it!
go ahead ask her and I would do it after u go on stage with yur band
if she says no then tell her it's alright maybe it would just be better if we were friends act strong it will be ok there are plenty of girls out there and one is bound to like you maybe that girl isn't the one
I Wish You Luck Though
:D
ask her to be your girlfriend. shes probably the conservative shy kind that doesnt always kiss on the first date. if you really feel that she likes you...GO FOR IT! if you dont your gonna be stuck with ';if then maybes'; seriously dude ask her. even if she says no? whoooo cares? theres PLEEENTY of fish in the sea
you're rushing.
just take it a little bit slower.
talk to her a lot. and start callingheron the phone.
do not let the phone calls get awkward.
make her laugh A LOT.
and then in about a couple of weeks, if it seemslike shelikes you, ask her.
then wait a couple days and ask her out.
she didn't want to kiss because it was too soon.
=)
hope I helped!
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Hmm..does seem a lil confusing. It could mean anything but if shes willing to hold your hand than she must be interested. Next time u take her out make sure its just u 2. Dont bring friends along cuz that just shows that u guys are really nervous and scared. I say let her know how u feel and see what she says and base that on wanting to make her ur gf or not. good luck
Okay, bro, you gotta keep it chill. Just go up to her, look her deep in the eyes, and tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. If she seems happy, then you can proceed to ask her out. Suavely stroke your hair, and subtly ask ';So i herd u liek buttsecks?';
maybe she doesnt want to kiss on the first date? just ask her out AFTER the show because if she says no you will be bummed. if you held hands thats good. wait why would you even try to kiss her if you arent even going out?! what is she a whore?
I think she only wants to be your friend but then again i might be wrong since guys and girlz dont really hold hands if there friends so maybe she likes you. Just ask her out and if she says no then who cares go on with life she will still be your friend trust me.
while you were in the theatre yal were holding hands so if she ain't let go of your hand then my guess is that she likes you. I think you should go for it.Let her know what you are about. Or just ask her how she feels about you.
How old are you.
But (Im a girl) When a girl holds a guys hand in that sort of situation, it usually means a crush..
Whats there to loose ask her out..
In person, e-mail/text is a no no.
Hopefully that helped. I've never been asked out. But... lol.
she might not have wanted to kiss you because there were a lot of people around. just go for it! you'll regret it if you don't at least try. good luck :D
flirt some more and then read the signs, like if she flirts back then she likes you but you also cant ever really tell with girls cause she might be shy so you just have to take the chance and aask her out .
well you should probably start off by just asking her what she really thinks about you and if she says that she has feeling that are similar to yours then you can ask her to be ur gf.
well she likes you..i know that if i went with a person to a movie i know that i would have to be interested..id ask her out...
Maybe she is shy and doesn't want to be alone with you. Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090615194451AA8bnSs%26amp;r=w
There's a good chance that she likes you. Make a move and ask her! :)
haha heehehhehahhaha HO
well...seems insecure. i think you should ask her whatever you think you should ask and START OFF SLOW. from holding hands to hugs and then to kisses. she will feel much comfortable by then
go for it :)
she probably is in to it just as much as you are but doesn't want to open up so fast soooo. yeah.
ask her if she's interested in you and if yes ask her.
Sometimes girls need a little time. Wait a little bit and don't go to fast. talking and Communication is the best.
if she went on the date with you then she probably likes you. just go for it and ask her.
stop thinking about it so much, it shows and makes you seem insecure.
Why don't you tell her?
WHat if she dies tomorrow?
(not saying that she will)
What's the worst she can say, no?
Show your love today, man.
Sounds like she's pretty into u! I say go 4 it ! XD good luck!
ask her dont be afraid if she sais know dont get depressed move on.
Go for it!
You have to take chances in life!
well if u really like her u should ask her 2 go out with u
just ask her out and dont seem to ancxiousnatural facial
some tips please!
Thanks to all in Advance!Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
Hey:)
First off i'm a girl and I really like this guy who does the same stuff you do to me. He always tells me I'm pretty in my pictures and in person. I always just say thanks because I never know how to answer showing how I really feel. If this girl hung out with you with her friends she probably does like you ad she's just nervous. Try not going to such a public place for the first time that way she won't be embarrassed around strangers. I think you should tell her that you like her first (not ask her out right away) Then she can tell you how she feels. Maybe she feels the same way. I wish the guy I liked would just tell me he liked me. So i'm sure she likes you, any guy who flatters a girl will make a girl happy. She is probably just to shy to express her emotions.Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
No offense, but it is no use fretting about it. If she wants to go out with you again, it is likely she likes you a bit. Ask her out to some places and get to know her better if you like. I think you should ask her out though, I mean, there's no harm in trying. If she says know, it doesn't mean you can't still be friends. If she tells you that she doesn't want to be your friend after you ask her out, then she isn't really worth the time.
Just ask her if she is interested! From the way you describe it, it seems like she does like you, and if she wants to go on another date then go for it! Just because you didnt kiss on your first date doesnt mean that she doesnt like you it just means that she was unsure and didnt know enough about you! Go for it!
go ahead ask her and I would do it after u go on stage with yur band
if she says no then tell her it's alright maybe it would just be better if we were friends act strong it will be ok there are plenty of girls out there and one is bound to like you maybe that girl isn't the one
I Wish You Luck Though
:D
ask her to be your girlfriend. shes probably the conservative shy kind that doesnt always kiss on the first date. if you really feel that she likes you...GO FOR IT! if you dont your gonna be stuck with ';if then maybes'; seriously dude ask her. even if she says no? whoooo cares? theres PLEEENTY of fish in the sea
you're rushing.
just take it a little bit slower.
talk to her a lot. and start callingheron the phone.
do not let the phone calls get awkward.
make her laugh A LOT.
and then in about a couple of weeks, if it seemslike shelikes you, ask her.
then wait a couple days and ask her out.
she didn't want to kiss because it was too soon.
=)
hope I helped!
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Hmm..does seem a lil confusing. It could mean anything but if shes willing to hold your hand than she must be interested. Next time u take her out make sure its just u 2. Dont bring friends along cuz that just shows that u guys are really nervous and scared. I say let her know how u feel and see what she says and base that on wanting to make her ur gf or not. good luck
Okay, bro, you gotta keep it chill. Just go up to her, look her deep in the eyes, and tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. If she seems happy, then you can proceed to ask her out. Suavely stroke your hair, and subtly ask ';So i herd u liek buttsecks?';
maybe she doesnt want to kiss on the first date? just ask her out AFTER the show because if she says no you will be bummed. if you held hands thats good. wait why would you even try to kiss her if you arent even going out?! what is she a whore?
I think she only wants to be your friend but then again i might be wrong since guys and girlz dont really hold hands if there friends so maybe she likes you. Just ask her out and if she says no then who cares go on with life she will still be your friend trust me.
while you were in the theatre yal were holding hands so if she ain't let go of your hand then my guess is that she likes you. I think you should go for it.Let her know what you are about. Or just ask her how she feels about you.
How old are you.
But (Im a girl) When a girl holds a guys hand in that sort of situation, it usually means a crush..
Whats there to loose ask her out..
In person, e-mail/text is a no no.
Hopefully that helped. I've never been asked out. But... lol.
she might not have wanted to kiss you because there were a lot of people around. just go for it! you'll regret it if you don't at least try. good luck :D
flirt some more and then read the signs, like if she flirts back then she likes you but you also cant ever really tell with girls cause she might be shy so you just have to take the chance and aask her out .
well you should probably start off by just asking her what she really thinks about you and if she says that she has feeling that are similar to yours then you can ask her to be ur gf.
well she likes you..i know that if i went with a person to a movie i know that i would have to be interested..id ask her out...
Maybe she is shy and doesn't want to be alone with you. Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090615194451AA8bnSs%26amp;r=w
There's a good chance that she likes you. Make a move and ask her! :)
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well...seems insecure. i think you should ask her whatever you think you should ask and START OFF SLOW. from holding hands to hugs and then to kisses. she will feel much comfortable by then
go for it :)
she probably is in to it just as much as you are but doesn't want to open up so fast soooo. yeah.
ask her if she's interested in you and if yes ask her.
Sometimes girls need a little time. Wait a little bit and don't go to fast. talking and Communication is the best.
if she went on the date with you then she probably likes you. just go for it and ask her.
stop thinking about it so much, it shows and makes you seem insecure.
Why don't you tell her?
WHat if she dies tomorrow?
(not saying that she will)
What's the worst she can say, no?
Show your love today, man.
Sounds like she's pretty into u! I say go 4 it ! XD good luck!
ask her dont be afraid if she sais know dont get depressed move on.
Go for it!
You have to take chances in life!
well if u really like her u should ask her 2 go out with u
just ask her out and dont seem to ancxious
Advice about a controlling egotistical hubby? Anyone? Guys' especially!!!?
My hubby is the most arrogant controlling man alive I think!! He has to be in charge of EVERYTHING!!! He came in for lunch talking about how his buddies have to have their wives ok everything. He says HE has to control our money b/c he doesn't screw things up! I over drafted once several years ago by mistake and he throws that up in my face anytime I say anything about it. The account is in MY name b/c his crackheaded mother stole his checks once and wrote alot of bad checks. He says he has to control everything b/c HE don't ';screw everything up!'; Everything's always MY fault and if something happens to be his fault,it's b/c of something I DID! We were separated a few years ago,he got a $700 a week meth habbit,blamed ME for it b/c he said he was so worried about me all the time and he didn't want to sleep b/c he ';dreamed'; about me all the time! What a load of sh*t!!!!! He's in collage,makes straight A's,and is a great worker. I'm afraid he's let this go to his head. Everyone tells him how great he is,and he IS a good worker and a smart guy,but he won't act like an *** when everyone else is around and I'm scared nobody will believe me. I was a waitress when we met and although I'm finishing up nursing this fall,he told me I COULD NOT pick up a part time waitressing job b/c......and I quote,';ALL waitresses are bar whores';. Guys (and girls) What is his problem?! Why does he act like this? He told me that right now it's ';his way or the highway';!!! I wish there was a way he could get a big dose of humility! Why is he like this and what can I do to tolerate him. Yes....I love him and he used to not be this way. He's a good guy and I told him he sounds so insecure but of course I';m wrong lol!! Can anyone help me? PLEASE?!Advice about a controlling egotistical hubby? Anyone? Guys' especially!!!?
Are you asking how to change him? Because, you can't. In life, the only people we have the power to change is ourselves. You picked an arrogant, controlling, egotistical man for a husband - too late now! I recommend you start ignoring the behavior you don't like and rewarding the behavior you do like. At least this would make you feel better about yourself.Advice about a controlling egotistical hubby? Anyone? Guys' especially!!!?
His placing the blame on you and your actually accepting it are two different things. Live life the way that you want to and if he doesn't accept that, then it is HIS fault. If one half of the couple refuses to communicate, then the couple as a whole will fail.
You said his mother was a drug addict. That being said he probably had a chaotic childhood. Due to the chaos he is compelled now, to maintain control over everyone and everything. He needs counseling.
Get on the highway as he says. And drive drive drive away. Meth is the end all. Speaking from experience. Open ur own account and realize that there are fantastic people in the world that would not be such a turd.
Gosh, he kind of sounds like a jerk....... I think you need to tell him how he behaves. Treat him the way he treats you- then maybe he will learn the good ol' quote : '; Treat others the way you want to be treated.';
Just tell him that you want some freedom, and discuss it with him, it sounds like he is good at what he does, why do you have to argue, cant you live happy without arguing?? Its not a control game
Can you say..Divorce? Why would you even think of staying with anyone who treated you like this? You need more self-esteem and deserve to be treated with love and respect! Get out before he lays hands on you! It will come!
he is an insecure man... don't take the time to call him a good guy... he is not.
if he wants to be so controlling then let him do it on his own.
he is insecure. anyone who demands control feels out of control. he is a child. good luck.
How much are you willing to put up with? That is the real question.
You need to look up verbal abuse on line. When your husband has no problem running you down, He is the problem. I don't care if he gets straight AA , A lot of people can get good grades, but they don't function well in the real world. I think I would clam up for awhile and, when he asks what wrong. I would tell him your just considering your options. When he asks ';what options'; say ';well you said it's your way or the highway'; and I'm just trying to think if I want to spend the rest of my life Not being allowed to have an opinion. Don't holler at him, just be real aloof. maybe he will start to think of what he stands to loose.
Just remember that verbal abuse often turns into physical abuse. Be careful .
jp
It sounds like he is a very insecure person and to treat you like a third class citizen, it feeds his insecurities, not to mention his ego, he has a need for power and control. As long as you allow him to have power and control over your life he will continue to do as he pleases. He needs a reality check, he gave you an option, ';his way or the highway'; if I were you I'd be on the pavement.
This sounds like a very sick and unhealthy relationship. Can anyone help you? Yes. YOU!
Nobody deserves to put up with this nonsense. He is unstable and has real problems. I bet the ';crackhead mother'; has a lot to do with why he is the way he is (sounds like he has issues with women because of her and he's taking it out on you.)
You need to put an end to this. There is no happily ever after in this situation. He needs serious counseling, and if he won't admit to having a problem in the first place, then nothing is going to change.
I really hope you realize that this is not healthy for you to live with. He's an abuser. Everything is not your fault, and saying it is because of one overdraft many years ago is idiotic. He sounds like he has VERY low self esteem, and makes up for it by belittling you.
STOP BEING HIS EMOTIONAL PUNCHING BAG!
You have job skills, and probably people that will love and support you even if you leave. If not, contact a womens group or shelter.
He is insecure and afraid he will not be able to live up to what everyone is saying. The help you seek must come from within yourself. You need to set some hard boundaries and not let him step over them. Stepping over, just once, that is the end of the relationship. Look at it this way, would you tolerate him having a affair even once, I thought not. That is the way you must view your boundaries. Like they say, men are like buses, there will be another one along in fifteen minutes.
You will be able to replace him faster than he can replace you. Let him know that you are willing to ';Upgrade.';
Dump the druggie and get on with your life. No one needs those kinds of put downson a daily basis. His mother sounds like a piece of work. Get out before you bring your dear children into this mess. You deserve a man who treats you with respect. If you can handle getting a nursing degree, you are NO SLOUCH in the intelligence department! Nurses have a huge amount of knowledge and skill.
Wow! Where does one start? I know! Now, I don't go for the bible thing much anymore but I do remember a lot of things from my earlier days. Some things are just universal and good rule. The bible says ';Wives obey your husbands';. Now, most people stop there (It's been used by men against women for years) but, read on. ';Husbands LOVE your wives';. Does it make you feel loved when he treats you like this? Is it really ';My way or the highway';? That doesn't sound like he loves you. You were seperated before and he behaved like a weak irresposnible child. He blamed his meth addiction on you?!!! Seriously?!! As for your feelings for him, I don't think it's love as much as it is hope and being used to him. You HOPE he'll stop treating you like this. You hope he'll be like he used to when you fell in love with him. You hope he won't murder you if you leave him. This is NOT a healthy relationship if it truly is how you described it. Life is too LONG to live as a slave and in humiliation. He doesn't take responsibility for his failures but takes all the glory if something goes right. One more thing. Not ALL waitresses are bar whores. Your husband is an ***. You should seriously consider getting counseling and out of this relationship for your safety.
Some women need a controlling man. My ex actually preferred that since she wasn't intelligent and had a hard time making decisions.
Are you asking how to change him? Because, you can't. In life, the only people we have the power to change is ourselves. You picked an arrogant, controlling, egotistical man for a husband - too late now! I recommend you start ignoring the behavior you don't like and rewarding the behavior you do like. At least this would make you feel better about yourself.Advice about a controlling egotistical hubby? Anyone? Guys' especially!!!?
His placing the blame on you and your actually accepting it are two different things. Live life the way that you want to and if he doesn't accept that, then it is HIS fault. If one half of the couple refuses to communicate, then the couple as a whole will fail.
You said his mother was a drug addict. That being said he probably had a chaotic childhood. Due to the chaos he is compelled now, to maintain control over everyone and everything. He needs counseling.
Get on the highway as he says. And drive drive drive away. Meth is the end all. Speaking from experience. Open ur own account and realize that there are fantastic people in the world that would not be such a turd.
Gosh, he kind of sounds like a jerk....... I think you need to tell him how he behaves. Treat him the way he treats you- then maybe he will learn the good ol' quote : '; Treat others the way you want to be treated.';
Just tell him that you want some freedom, and discuss it with him, it sounds like he is good at what he does, why do you have to argue, cant you live happy without arguing?? Its not a control game
Can you say..Divorce? Why would you even think of staying with anyone who treated you like this? You need more self-esteem and deserve to be treated with love and respect! Get out before he lays hands on you! It will come!
he is an insecure man... don't take the time to call him a good guy... he is not.
if he wants to be so controlling then let him do it on his own.
he is insecure. anyone who demands control feels out of control. he is a child. good luck.
How much are you willing to put up with? That is the real question.
You need to look up verbal abuse on line. When your husband has no problem running you down, He is the problem. I don't care if he gets straight AA , A lot of people can get good grades, but they don't function well in the real world. I think I would clam up for awhile and, when he asks what wrong. I would tell him your just considering your options. When he asks ';what options'; say ';well you said it's your way or the highway'; and I'm just trying to think if I want to spend the rest of my life Not being allowed to have an opinion. Don't holler at him, just be real aloof. maybe he will start to think of what he stands to loose.
Just remember that verbal abuse often turns into physical abuse. Be careful .
jp
It sounds like he is a very insecure person and to treat you like a third class citizen, it feeds his insecurities, not to mention his ego, he has a need for power and control. As long as you allow him to have power and control over your life he will continue to do as he pleases. He needs a reality check, he gave you an option, ';his way or the highway'; if I were you I'd be on the pavement.
This sounds like a very sick and unhealthy relationship. Can anyone help you? Yes. YOU!
Nobody deserves to put up with this nonsense. He is unstable and has real problems. I bet the ';crackhead mother'; has a lot to do with why he is the way he is (sounds like he has issues with women because of her and he's taking it out on you.)
You need to put an end to this. There is no happily ever after in this situation. He needs serious counseling, and if he won't admit to having a problem in the first place, then nothing is going to change.
I really hope you realize that this is not healthy for you to live with. He's an abuser. Everything is not your fault, and saying it is because of one overdraft many years ago is idiotic. He sounds like he has VERY low self esteem, and makes up for it by belittling you.
STOP BEING HIS EMOTIONAL PUNCHING BAG!
You have job skills, and probably people that will love and support you even if you leave. If not, contact a womens group or shelter.
He is insecure and afraid he will not be able to live up to what everyone is saying. The help you seek must come from within yourself. You need to set some hard boundaries and not let him step over them. Stepping over, just once, that is the end of the relationship. Look at it this way, would you tolerate him having a affair even once, I thought not. That is the way you must view your boundaries. Like they say, men are like buses, there will be another one along in fifteen minutes.
You will be able to replace him faster than he can replace you. Let him know that you are willing to ';Upgrade.';
Dump the druggie and get on with your life. No one needs those kinds of put downson a daily basis. His mother sounds like a piece of work. Get out before you bring your dear children into this mess. You deserve a man who treats you with respect. If you can handle getting a nursing degree, you are NO SLOUCH in the intelligence department! Nurses have a huge amount of knowledge and skill.
Wow! Where does one start? I know! Now, I don't go for the bible thing much anymore but I do remember a lot of things from my earlier days. Some things are just universal and good rule. The bible says ';Wives obey your husbands';. Now, most people stop there (It's been used by men against women for years) but, read on. ';Husbands LOVE your wives';. Does it make you feel loved when he treats you like this? Is it really ';My way or the highway';? That doesn't sound like he loves you. You were seperated before and he behaved like a weak irresposnible child. He blamed his meth addiction on you?!!! Seriously?!! As for your feelings for him, I don't think it's love as much as it is hope and being used to him. You HOPE he'll stop treating you like this. You hope he'll be like he used to when you fell in love with him. You hope he won't murder you if you leave him. This is NOT a healthy relationship if it truly is how you described it. Life is too LONG to live as a slave and in humiliation. He doesn't take responsibility for his failures but takes all the glory if something goes right. One more thing. Not ALL waitresses are bar whores. Your husband is an ***. You should seriously consider getting counseling and out of this relationship for your safety.
Some women need a controlling man. My ex actually preferred that since she wasn't intelligent and had a hard time making decisions.
Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
i am a 23 year old muslim male living in usa, and this girl who is almost 22 living in bangladesh, we r deeply in love with each other. we really want each other but unforetunetly she got nikah (married) not willingly with someone else, and now after 2 weeks she has to leave her house officially. and stay at her the new place. she is going crazy, she wants to be with me and i am going crazy as well, but we dont know what to do now, if we elope that would hurt our families, and its bound with family respects and all, but we cant live without each other thats for sure, now what can we do, what can i do. i have no idea, so plzz guys help me out give me ur best thoughts to overcome this nightmare.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
Married is married, willing or not. She is off limits now.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
have you ever met? face to face? do you know her personally, or over the internet?
unless you have a deep personal real life relationship with her, then please for your and her sake, let it go.
If you truly know each other, having actually met and spent real time (not internet time) together then you will have to either honor your and her traditions or forsake them.
I'm guessing that at the young ages you are both at, it would be best to let it go. Stop all contact for the sake of both of your emotional well-being. She cannot try to make a life if she is contacting you or if you are contacting her. You will not be able to mourn the relationship and move on if you are continuing to spend time with her in any way.
As a Muslim man you are bound by honor to do the right thing and look at the big picture.
To overcome the sadness, volunteer somewhere that gives you a sense of doing something positive. Do not focus on the ';what if's'; or the ';if onlys'; that will only bring you grief.
Move on....
It's hard, but it's the right thing to do.
Marriage is sacred.
If you dishonor her or if she dishonors her vows or her life she has, what sort of future would either of you have?
It will be hard, but you will have peace and pride in yourself knowing that you did the right thing.
Blessings to you....
pal you got problems where she.s married try going to miami you both my opion?
My friend...Listen to me carefully...This matter is not one to be dealt with lightly. It appears that the two of you love one another and you are in a great deal of pain dealing with her current situation.
The fact that she's in Bangladesh and you're here in the states make your situation difficult at best. I ask that you respect the tradition and wishes of her country and parents ';for now';...Honor the rich history surrounding this event in which she has entered. You must allow her to move forward...yes...Move forward with this arrangement. No were in your message did you say that she was willing to forsake her family for the rest of her life. So given this absolute, I must assume that she loves you but isn't willing to go against the traditional cultural arrangement of her native land.
Please give this matter some time...You're both so young and I do know that you care for this young woman. I'm not sure of how long you've been in this country or if you're native to the US but one things for sure, know what it is that you're messing with here. You need to do some soul searching and grow some more...don't look at her situation as out dated or behind the times...for the tradition of Nikah has existed for centuries.
Give it time okay......and...If you truly love her, you MUST give her some room...that means stay away, no contact...Give her time to adjust to this arrangement. If she wants to be with you and only you, then she'll need to make the decision...Not YOU...but...make no mistake about it...Her family will disown her for her actions...So tread carefully through these murky waters my friend.
Good luck
If you want to stay 'married' to your family then do nothing, pal!
If you want to still abide to ancient %26amp; foreign customs while residing in the US - well that's your problem.
Ask some cleric of your own faith to give you a solution.
Ever read ';Romeo %26amp; Juliet?'; Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. tell the family to goto hell and go get her dude.
well you guys are in deep situation this is really bad, i feel bad for you guys. well i dont think you guys have any options, but if you guys really want each other you guys have to sacrifice something either familiy or either each other, its upto you, but if u cant live without each other than i say stand for your love, for your life and get marrie and enjoy life, take care and good luck.
Married is married, willing or not. She is off limits now.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
have you ever met? face to face? do you know her personally, or over the internet?
unless you have a deep personal real life relationship with her, then please for your and her sake, let it go.
If you truly know each other, having actually met and spent real time (not internet time) together then you will have to either honor your and her traditions or forsake them.
I'm guessing that at the young ages you are both at, it would be best to let it go. Stop all contact for the sake of both of your emotional well-being. She cannot try to make a life if she is contacting you or if you are contacting her. You will not be able to mourn the relationship and move on if you are continuing to spend time with her in any way.
As a Muslim man you are bound by honor to do the right thing and look at the big picture.
To overcome the sadness, volunteer somewhere that gives you a sense of doing something positive. Do not focus on the ';what if's'; or the ';if onlys'; that will only bring you grief.
Move on....
It's hard, but it's the right thing to do.
Marriage is sacred.
If you dishonor her or if she dishonors her vows or her life she has, what sort of future would either of you have?
It will be hard, but you will have peace and pride in yourself knowing that you did the right thing.
Blessings to you....
pal you got problems where she.s married try going to miami you both my opion?
My friend...Listen to me carefully...This matter is not one to be dealt with lightly. It appears that the two of you love one another and you are in a great deal of pain dealing with her current situation.
The fact that she's in Bangladesh and you're here in the states make your situation difficult at best. I ask that you respect the tradition and wishes of her country and parents ';for now';...Honor the rich history surrounding this event in which she has entered. You must allow her to move forward...yes...Move forward with this arrangement. No were in your message did you say that she was willing to forsake her family for the rest of her life. So given this absolute, I must assume that she loves you but isn't willing to go against the traditional cultural arrangement of her native land.
Please give this matter some time...You're both so young and I do know that you care for this young woman. I'm not sure of how long you've been in this country or if you're native to the US but one things for sure, know what it is that you're messing with here. You need to do some soul searching and grow some more...don't look at her situation as out dated or behind the times...for the tradition of Nikah has existed for centuries.
Give it time okay......and...If you truly love her, you MUST give her some room...that means stay away, no contact...Give her time to adjust to this arrangement. If she wants to be with you and only you, then she'll need to make the decision...Not YOU...but...make no mistake about it...Her family will disown her for her actions...So tread carefully through these murky waters my friend.
Good luck
If you want to stay 'married' to your family then do nothing, pal!
If you want to still abide to ancient %26amp; foreign customs while residing in the US - well that's your problem.
Ask some cleric of your own faith to give you a solution.
Ever read ';Romeo %26amp; Juliet?'; Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. tell the family to goto hell and go get her dude.
well you guys are in deep situation this is really bad, i feel bad for you guys. well i dont think you guys have any options, but if you guys really want each other you guys have to sacrifice something either familiy or either each other, its upto you, but if u cant live without each other than i say stand for your love, for your life and get marrie and enjoy life, take care and good luck.
ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!! GIRLS would you be offended? GUYS should I do this??
I went on a casual informal first date with a girl I never met from my college. It went well and she IMed me and said we should hang out again. I called her and asked her to dinner and she said yes. We went to dinner and had a good time again. I didnt kiss her or anything because I wanted her to feel more comfortable with me. I can tell that she definitely likes me though. Were going on a third date in a few days to a scenic area. I really like her and I want to kiss her at the top of the mountain. Is this out of line on a third date? Girls would you be offended?ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!! GIRLS would you be offended? GUYS should I do this??
its the third date right? i think it would be ok. its good that you care what she wants and don't just assume she's ok with it. good luck with her, and rock on! =)ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!! GIRLS would you be offended? GUYS should I do this??
Kissing on the third date is totally fine. But dont go overboard ..if you know what i mean ;-]
No i wouldnt be offended at all, i would definitely kiss back and at the top of the mountain is a perfect spot and the perfect time....it would be so romantic, atleast to me it would be. I think you will be fine and it wont be out of line. good luck and dont worry, she'll like it.
i personally think its soo romantic to kiss a girl at the top of the mountain on ur 3rd date. =)
no i wouldnt be offended god me and my bf made out the second day =p maybe just a peck incase she doesnt want the make out thing yet or just kiss her cheek
i think you can always gave it a chance if you have been on 3 dates already im sure if you think you the kiss me vibe go for it
I say you should DEFINATELY kiss. I f she likes then you know it is ok to kiss her. But if she does not then just lay off. Oh and just give her a little kiss on the cheek. I would not be offended by this.
no. as your walking hold her hand.if she doesnt move it or pull away then you got the green light.
if she's really into you, and you like her, WHO CARES! you want to give her a kiss, GO FOR IT! third date is fine (i kissed my girlfriend on our first date, but then agian, i dont like to follow the rules, and she loved it) . word of advice though, dont take it further than a kiss. reason being is because, it'll build up anticipation and romance. it'll make her want more. keep it cool 'till your sixth date.
Good Luck!
3rd date, not at all offended. she is still dating you so she must feel something for you. Give it a try, it sounds very romantic.
Kiss her earlier or the cheek or something and if she doesn't mind then go right ahead
in my opinion i think that is real romantic.but be a gentleman ask her if it would be ok if you kiss her.she probably wants to kiss you too but is waiting for you to make the first move. good luck.
I think you should definately move in for the kiss. Choose your moment well and move slow. I hope all goes well.
John, if the moment is right you will know it... don't stress so much about it... years from now your going to get a good laugh out of this... silly
if i liked someone and some kissed me i woulnd't be offended... i would take him to the bedroom lol
Of course we would not. That is so romantic.
GO FOR IT! she will absolutly love it. that is so sweet.
if she really likes you then just go for it. but if it seems like she just wants to get over a guy, or just wants something like maybe a one night stand. then just leave her.
It would be romantic. Not offensive
no that would be so romantic!!!
its the third date right? i think it would be ok. its good that you care what she wants and don't just assume she's ok with it. good luck with her, and rock on! =)ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!! GIRLS would you be offended? GUYS should I do this??
Kissing on the third date is totally fine. But dont go overboard ..if you know what i mean ;-]
No i wouldnt be offended at all, i would definitely kiss back and at the top of the mountain is a perfect spot and the perfect time....it would be so romantic, atleast to me it would be. I think you will be fine and it wont be out of line. good luck and dont worry, she'll like it.
i personally think its soo romantic to kiss a girl at the top of the mountain on ur 3rd date. =)
no i wouldnt be offended god me and my bf made out the second day =p maybe just a peck incase she doesnt want the make out thing yet or just kiss her cheek
i think you can always gave it a chance if you have been on 3 dates already im sure if you think you the kiss me vibe go for it
I say you should DEFINATELY kiss. I f she likes then you know it is ok to kiss her. But if she does not then just lay off. Oh and just give her a little kiss on the cheek. I would not be offended by this.
no. as your walking hold her hand.if she doesnt move it or pull away then you got the green light.
if she's really into you, and you like her, WHO CARES! you want to give her a kiss, GO FOR IT! third date is fine (i kissed my girlfriend on our first date, but then agian, i dont like to follow the rules, and she loved it) . word of advice though, dont take it further than a kiss. reason being is because, it'll build up anticipation and romance. it'll make her want more. keep it cool 'till your sixth date.
Good Luck!
3rd date, not at all offended. she is still dating you so she must feel something for you. Give it a try, it sounds very romantic.
Kiss her earlier or the cheek or something and if she doesn't mind then go right ahead
in my opinion i think that is real romantic.but be a gentleman ask her if it would be ok if you kiss her.she probably wants to kiss you too but is waiting for you to make the first move. good luck.
I think you should definately move in for the kiss. Choose your moment well and move slow. I hope all goes well.
John, if the moment is right you will know it... don't stress so much about it... years from now your going to get a good laugh out of this... silly
if i liked someone and some kissed me i woulnd't be offended... i would take him to the bedroom lol
Of course we would not. That is so romantic.
GO FOR IT! she will absolutly love it. that is so sweet.
if she really likes you then just go for it. but if it seems like she just wants to get over a guy, or just wants something like maybe a one night stand. then just leave her.
It would be romantic. Not offensive
no that would be so romantic!!!
Advice about my future friend with benefits? guys answer too and see what you'd want a girl to tell?
my best friend, guy of course, has never made out and just confessed this to me the other day. I have so and wished I had had a guy best friend i couldve ';practiced on'; and so i asked if he wanted me to help him out ;) you know friends with benefits kind of thing. this guy and i's relationship has been always flirty, like we're the flirty best friends. there's always been some kind of chemistry there. so i know for a fact that it wont be awkward. and i also know that it wont ruin our friendship because at the same time we're so close. I'm basically teaching him how to make out so what kind of things should i say to him, advice, and what kind of things should i do, as in just show him how to makeout period or should i like tell him and show him what turns girls on, you know ext. making out advice and kissing please.Advice about my future friend with benefits? guys answer too and see what you'd want a girl to tell?
thats the sluttiest thing I ever heard.Advice about my future friend with benefits? guys answer too and see what you'd want a girl to tell?
its not slutty, you just dont want to be lonely, tell him all the stuff, but you guys will probably have sex very soon
okay your discusting and you keep this in mind and you tell him don't start liking men cause you both are going to go to hell
haha wow ok... well first off i think that makin out with him is gonna effect your friendship more than you think..i mean you already said that there was chemistry there and i think if yall start makin out, you wont be able 2 control that ';natural chemistry'; and not sayin thats a bad thing, but its gona totally effect your friendship, so you should be aware of that goin in 2 this. becuz ive been ther, ive dont that, an you knw wat, it effected my friendship with the guy big time!! but ur probly gona go thru with this anyway, so advice on makin out. keep it very friend like, i mean dont show him how 2 turn girls on, becuz then you'll get turned on and then things will just go downhill from there lol. so keep the makin out ';G'; rated lol. also i mean you gota consider how hes gona look at this '; makin out lesson'; 2. i mean what if he discovers that he likes you? then what are you gonna do? its just alot 2 think about it, and it WILL effect your relationship, becuz maken out is alot more serious than just flirten.. so either way good luck with your situation, i hope everything works out 4 the best:)
thats the sluttiest thing I ever heard.Advice about my future friend with benefits? guys answer too and see what you'd want a girl to tell?
its not slutty, you just dont want to be lonely, tell him all the stuff, but you guys will probably have sex very soon
okay your discusting and you keep this in mind and you tell him don't start liking men cause you both are going to go to hell
haha wow ok... well first off i think that makin out with him is gonna effect your friendship more than you think..i mean you already said that there was chemistry there and i think if yall start makin out, you wont be able 2 control that ';natural chemistry'; and not sayin thats a bad thing, but its gona totally effect your friendship, so you should be aware of that goin in 2 this. becuz ive been ther, ive dont that, an you knw wat, it effected my friendship with the guy big time!! but ur probly gona go thru with this anyway, so advice on makin out. keep it very friend like, i mean dont show him how 2 turn girls on, becuz then you'll get turned on and then things will just go downhill from there lol. so keep the makin out ';G'; rated lol. also i mean you gota consider how hes gona look at this '; makin out lesson'; 2. i mean what if he discovers that he likes you? then what are you gonna do? its just alot 2 think about it, and it WILL effect your relationship, becuz maken out is alot more serious than just flirten.. so either way good luck with your situation, i hope everything works out 4 the best:)
Guys.. i am in trouble.. i need ur advice.. my husband?
left me %26amp; staying with his mother. i am married since almost 3 years, since marriage, my mom-n-law was always there with us %26amp; it was never we 2, it was always we 3. i never had privacy, not even my words we use to speak in our private place use to stay with us. my husband is very much influenced by his mother %26amp; his borthernlaw. since all this time, we use to have lot of fight %26amp; everytime it was for mymom-nlaws matter %26amp; we husband %26amp; wife use ot end up fighting.
%26amp; recently say 15 days back, we had a major fight %26amp; my parents were asked to come, my momnlaw said, she doesnt want to stay with me %26amp; my husband didnt speak a word neither stopped me while my momnlaw sent me back to my mothers place.
%26amp; since then he hasnt called me nor contacted neither I.
My parents say.. i should be strong %26amp; forget wht happend, bcoz they dont belive my husband anymore nor neither me.. i doubt if i go again.. this will repeat.i am confused. %26amp; at presently only on concentrating on work tht's it !!! wht shud i doGuys.. i am in trouble.. i need ur advice.. my husband?
i won't leave you
hanlin47@yahoo.comGuys.. i am in trouble.. i need ur advice.. my husband?
Both of you need to stand on your own, without your parents. Parents are great for guidence,but you need to be able to solve your marriage issues without them. This is between you and your husband. Your mother-in-law needs to move out and you and your husband need to talk things out...alone. I would suggest trying a marriage counselor to point you in the right direction.
If you cannot reach him right now, wait until he contacts you (he will eventually). Suggest counseling and living without inlaws. It does take two to make it work so you both need to agree to try again before much progress can be made.
your husband has to understand that when he married U you became 1st everyone else became 2nd. don't go and beg him stay w/ your parents when he understands he truly luvs U and wants the marriage to work he will have to put you 1st any other way will continue to cause problems
while i know were you are coming from my mother in law tore my wife away from me and talked my wife in to wanting to divorce me we have been seprated now for 4 months and i told my wife if she wanted a divorce then she could help pay for at least half and her mother said that she is not paying for a dime of it i say to u that u need to be strong and tell him that he needs to pick you or his mother it should not have to come to that but it happens and it hella sucks
Marriage is a matter of two; unfortunately, your husband has not grown up and is still mamma's boy; he needs to grow some balls and stand for his family which is you and him; if you had problems with him for the same reasons, then i guess it is your fault too. People never change at least not from one day to another; sometimes we need to do something dramatic to realize what we are losing. If you want to really work things out, you and your husband need to move from that house and away from mom's skirt so he can grow up a little. He needs to make up his mind if he really loves you. You are his family now.
I dont think your husband was ready to get married. He should stand up and break away from mommy and lead his own family. Mom will get over it. If you truly love him he will need counseling. God will help you if you ask.
Forget about ole sissy boy and get yourself a real man!!!!!!!
Hi SK Well this is just to help you with your enormous problem.what i think you should is just take some time out and discuss this issue with you husband.you can decide to go for an out and share how you feel about his mom.you can also decide to move out(you and him) so that you can live separate lives from his mom.one of the problems that breaks family relationships is lack of communication.so take chance ,if you really love ur husband it takes everything not to lose him.a wife is the backbone to any family.
time to run in the other direction - drop this loser.
It seems like part of the problem was the lack of any space between your mother-in-law and you %26amp; your husband. Do what you feel is best.
leave the momma`s boy, and find a man ,your husband sounds like he can`t live with out his mommie. you need to live your own life , with out the stress the marriage is causing get divorced.
it`s the only way out...........
%26lt;Sigh%26gt; So many mother in laws have destroyed their sons marriages cuz they r jealous of their son loving the wife. isn't that just horrible!!! i'm so sorry u r in this situation, i see how frustrated u r from ur question. i would do one of 2 things, leave him and start over with a man whos not still attached to his mommies titty, or talk to my husband, see if he wants to stay married and if he does move far, far away from his screwed up mommy. But please do what your heart tells you, that is the answer to all of this.
Well it will just happen again. To many mother in laws cause trouble that way. My mother in law tried to control me. Never worked though. Do you all have any children? If so, he might just want to get them from you. Or he just might want to keep from paying child support if you all were to get a divorce.
I am not a guy but I can relate. I have had my share of problems and I love my mother in law. No man wants to hear you bash his mother, first off. What you need to do is make her your best friend. Remember, keep your friends and family close but keep your enemies closer. Once you make her your friend your husband will be open to having interventions with her. Remember, if a man treats his mom great most likely he will learn to treat you the same way. If you act like her. Become her.
Stay with your parents. Your husband is not ready to be a man. The Bible says that when a man marries, he has to leave his parents and go with his wife. You can wait for him to grow up or find a real man to marry.
it sounds like your mother-in-law is much too involved and worse, your husband allowed this to happen. I'm sorry. This is a very hard situation for you. Do you love him? Try to take this time to think about what YOU really want and then do it. If it is to be away from him, then do it for you and your happiness. But if you love him and want to be with him, you need to tell him what you want and expect of him. Good luck with this.
%26amp; recently say 15 days back, we had a major fight %26amp; my parents were asked to come, my momnlaw said, she doesnt want to stay with me %26amp; my husband didnt speak a word neither stopped me while my momnlaw sent me back to my mothers place.
%26amp; since then he hasnt called me nor contacted neither I.
My parents say.. i should be strong %26amp; forget wht happend, bcoz they dont belive my husband anymore nor neither me.. i doubt if i go again.. this will repeat.i am confused. %26amp; at presently only on concentrating on work tht's it !!! wht shud i doGuys.. i am in trouble.. i need ur advice.. my husband?
i won't leave you
hanlin47@yahoo.comGuys.. i am in trouble.. i need ur advice.. my husband?
Both of you need to stand on your own, without your parents. Parents are great for guidence,but you need to be able to solve your marriage issues without them. This is between you and your husband. Your mother-in-law needs to move out and you and your husband need to talk things out...alone. I would suggest trying a marriage counselor to point you in the right direction.
If you cannot reach him right now, wait until he contacts you (he will eventually). Suggest counseling and living without inlaws. It does take two to make it work so you both need to agree to try again before much progress can be made.
your husband has to understand that when he married U you became 1st everyone else became 2nd. don't go and beg him stay w/ your parents when he understands he truly luvs U and wants the marriage to work he will have to put you 1st any other way will continue to cause problems
while i know were you are coming from my mother in law tore my wife away from me and talked my wife in to wanting to divorce me we have been seprated now for 4 months and i told my wife if she wanted a divorce then she could help pay for at least half and her mother said that she is not paying for a dime of it i say to u that u need to be strong and tell him that he needs to pick you or his mother it should not have to come to that but it happens and it hella sucks
Marriage is a matter of two; unfortunately, your husband has not grown up and is still mamma's boy; he needs to grow some balls and stand for his family which is you and him; if you had problems with him for the same reasons, then i guess it is your fault too. People never change at least not from one day to another; sometimes we need to do something dramatic to realize what we are losing. If you want to really work things out, you and your husband need to move from that house and away from mom's skirt so he can grow up a little. He needs to make up his mind if he really loves you. You are his family now.
I dont think your husband was ready to get married. He should stand up and break away from mommy and lead his own family. Mom will get over it. If you truly love him he will need counseling. God will help you if you ask.
Forget about ole sissy boy and get yourself a real man!!!!!!!
Hi SK Well this is just to help you with your enormous problem.what i think you should is just take some time out and discuss this issue with you husband.you can decide to go for an out and share how you feel about his mom.you can also decide to move out(you and him) so that you can live separate lives from his mom.one of the problems that breaks family relationships is lack of communication.so take chance ,if you really love ur husband it takes everything not to lose him.a wife is the backbone to any family.
time to run in the other direction - drop this loser.
It seems like part of the problem was the lack of any space between your mother-in-law and you %26amp; your husband. Do what you feel is best.
leave the momma`s boy, and find a man ,your husband sounds like he can`t live with out his mommie. you need to live your own life , with out the stress the marriage is causing get divorced.
it`s the only way out...........
%26lt;Sigh%26gt; So many mother in laws have destroyed their sons marriages cuz they r jealous of their son loving the wife. isn't that just horrible!!! i'm so sorry u r in this situation, i see how frustrated u r from ur question. i would do one of 2 things, leave him and start over with a man whos not still attached to his mommies titty, or talk to my husband, see if he wants to stay married and if he does move far, far away from his screwed up mommy. But please do what your heart tells you, that is the answer to all of this.
Well it will just happen again. To many mother in laws cause trouble that way. My mother in law tried to control me. Never worked though. Do you all have any children? If so, he might just want to get them from you. Or he just might want to keep from paying child support if you all were to get a divorce.
I am not a guy but I can relate. I have had my share of problems and I love my mother in law. No man wants to hear you bash his mother, first off. What you need to do is make her your best friend. Remember, keep your friends and family close but keep your enemies closer. Once you make her your friend your husband will be open to having interventions with her. Remember, if a man treats his mom great most likely he will learn to treat you the same way. If you act like her. Become her.
Stay with your parents. Your husband is not ready to be a man. The Bible says that when a man marries, he has to leave his parents and go with his wife. You can wait for him to grow up or find a real man to marry.
it sounds like your mother-in-law is much too involved and worse, your husband allowed this to happen. I'm sorry. This is a very hard situation for you. Do you love him? Try to take this time to think about what YOU really want and then do it. If it is to be away from him, then do it for you and your happiness. But if you love him and want to be with him, you need to tell him what you want and expect of him. Good luck with this.
This Question is for the girls, but guys answer if you have any good advice.?
I have recently moved out to South Africa to live with my father, who I haven鈥檛 seen since I was two, but that a different story鈥?
I have been seeing a girl out here, who I met on my father鈥檚 stag party. We hit it off and I took her number and she mine, and shortly after I took her out a few times you know fancy restaurants, cinema, bars and clubs. She even came to me fathers wedding and seemed really happy to meet family etc.
Now everything seemed to be going so well, when we had an argument about her going out (Which I was more than happy about as I鈥檓 not the control freak type). But her friends managed to twist the argument, which was on the phone, so that is sounded like I was saying she couldn鈥檛 go out. I denied that and told her to tell them, which she refused to do. So surprise, surprise, they now don鈥檛 like me.
Later that week with no contact at all with her, she and I had a long conversation on the phone and she asked to be friends for a while so she could get her life in order and give her self space. She denies it but I think she is trying to get over her Ex-boyfriend, who treated her awfully, and now she has trust issues. I took this as she didn鈥檛 want me as anything but a friend and that ill move on. She was upset and said that why couldn鈥檛 I wait, I said that I would if she wanted me to and she replied I didn鈥檛 have too. But I know she wanted me to.
So I said that I wasn鈥檛 happy with the arrangement, but respected her wishes, and backed off. So I gave her, her space and talked to her on the phone minimally. She phones me after a week of almost complete silence my end and short answers to her texts, asking me why I鈥檝e been ignoring and that I鈥檓 being immature. Not impressed at that point I told her I was giving her space as she asked for. She then said that she still wants to talk, it鈥檚 the physical side that she wanted to put on hold. Well it鈥檚 been a rocky few weeks and I have been thinking of her a lot and chatting.
But over the last week I have been getting more agitated about this situation. I don鈥檛 like having to stew over this. So I was on the verge of just throwing in the towel. When she phoned me and we were talking away when she started getting emotional and talking about how her friends were using her (They are) and I sat and listened, giving my advice as I have been in her situation before. The subjects go by and eventually they we come to the where we are. She says to me that she thinks I鈥檓 unhappy that the relationship isn鈥檛 moving forward, and I insensitively answer that we have gone no where! Please note I had been a passenger involved in a car crash 24 hours earlier and I am still pity banged up.
She gets upset saying that she is opening up to me and that we are making progress, as she before the break wouldn鈥檛 open up to me. So I apologize and think about what I said over the night. So today I鈥檓 sitting here in the office and I鈥檝e herd my friends and colleagues opinions on the whole thing and some think she鈥檚 messing me around and others say she obviously cares and to wait. Now I鈥檓 writing in, because I鈥檝e had it up to here with all this. I like her a lot and she says so to, but I鈥檝e never been in this situation before and I could really do with some non-bios advice on how to go about this.
Do you think she is messing me around? Does she seem like she cares? (I know she does about my well being as she went mad when she found out about the car crash). But really I just want to decide if she is worth all this (I think she is, but many others don鈥檛) have you seen this before? Does it end well?
This Question is for the girls, but guys answer if you have any good advice.?
You both are going thru a lot, and probably had different expectations of each other. Going forward in a relationship does not only mean physically. It's great, but it's more important to get to know each other. If you want to be bf and gf, you need to see each other, even if its just chilling out somewhere, or doing something fun. Not seeing each other is like saying you're free to see others. This girl has trust issues, and she's not and independent thinker yet if she is so easily influenced by her friends. She may have had a rough home life since she allows bf and friends to treat her badly. Do you have to be so serious? Just date her and get to know each other more. But you won't get to know each other if you don't get together. You both have a lot of maturing to do, it can end well, but you don't know a lot...like how your life is going to be getting to know your father and living in South Africa, like how is she going to get over her grief with her ex and learn have good friends. Tell her your needs, like if you're going to be exclusive you need to see her more so you can get to know each other and support each other more. She may not be emotionally ready for years. This may be a subconscious test to see if you'll abandon her. It's a hard thing to deal with someone who has games they need to play, even if they don't realize they're doing it. I would ask for a more regular relationship (doesn't have to mean sex) or else you're just casually dating and you can see others. Be friendly, take care of yourself too. good luck.This Question is for the girls, but guys answer if you have any good advice.?
apparently, she is indecisive. so just allow her reasonable time. after six moths propose marriage. if she doesn't decide, end relation.
I am a girl so I am giving you the female perspective. I am not sure how old you both are -- they would make a difference in my evaluation of the situation. Also, your personalities would make a difference.
This girl sounds a bit immature and indecisive to me. Unless you are willing to endure a relationship that is always filled with drama, you ought to move on. Regardless of whatever disagreements she has with her friends at the moment, they will always be a major influence in her life and they will always cause trouble in your relationship with her.
Setting aside the negative influences of other people, why do you even want to get involved in a relationship built on such rocky foundation? The best part of dating relationships tend to be the beginning when you are discovering each other. From day one (figuratively, of course), you are already on a rocky path. Why do you think that it will get better with time? It seems like it will get worse.
I don't think that she is messing with you per se. I think that she has her own issues to work out before she is ready for a relationship with you (or anyone else for that matter). I have seen this before and I highly doubt that it will end well for the reasons stated above (she sounds immature, influence of friends, etc.). I agree with your friends. Move on and find someone who you can get to know and not someone who you have to help to work out their emotional and psychological issue. You owe it to yourself. Try to resist the urge to get hung up on her because of the ';you always want what you can't have'; factor. The issues that you are facing with her now will get tiring once you have conquered her and your life will be much worse then than it is walking away from her now. Think of it as taking one step backward and two forward.
All the best to you. Keep us posted on what you decide. : )
So, I'm reading this from beginning to end, so it's kind of split up in this weird way. ;)
Wow. To tell the truth, she seems like the kind of girl who LIKES drama in a relationship, and doesn't want to admit it (not that it's particularly BAD, just something to think about). I know a lot of girls like that, though I am not like that myself. The beginning part, about her friend's not liking you... Her friends seem like girly biotches who live off gossip, and you get the short end of the stick 'cause guess what? In girl world, girlfriends come before boyfriends, no matter what. Even if the girls are feeding her false information. And that's why she wants to be friends, because she likes you and doesn't want to let you go, but girlfriends come before boyfriends. If you REALLY think this girl is trying to get over her ex, don't let her use you as a rebound. Be nice and be there for her, but don't let this girl just walk over you! Be a man, dude! Oh, not to mention she's asking for space but suddenly she's wondering why you are ignoring her. That means one thing. No offense, but she WANTS you to run after her or something! Like, the whole dramatic 'need space' thing, and now she's like, 'wait, why isn't he asking for me to come back or pulling up a fight?' so that would explain that. Now that she figures out her friends are using her, your back in number 1 but she doesn't want to come running back to YOU. She doesn't want to seem pathetic. And really, that wasn't insensitive. Friends open up to each other, and that's not what you're waiting around for. If I were you, I would have dropped it by now. Face the facts, you don't want to be friends with benifits, and she obviously can't make up her mind. I really don't think it's worth all of your time. And if she's an emotional girl with drama issues, it probably won't end well. Hope that helps.
Advice on finding someone from girls and guys?
I'm a 23 yr old grad student. I have an ok job that I work at while going to school. I have a nice new car, don't smoke, drink, or mess with any drugs. I have a nice personality and can be really funny. However, the only thing I am missing is that right girl. I am not looking to find someone to marry, but find someone to date and possibly be with in a relationship. However, it seems like all that I find is married or too young girls.
Where can I find someone that would like a guy that isn't a thug, but a young, highly educated professional with a bright future that is just looking for someone to get to know and go from there. It seems impossible at times.
At my main job, everyone there is quite a bit older than me. At my Saturday(part time) job at Macy's everyone's either high school age or nearly my parents'. I don't live in a huge city with tons to do, either. After working 2 full time jobs to save up and pay for school this past fall (07), it seems hard to get back into the gameAdvice on finding someone from girls and guys?
you sound like the perfect guy to me! I donno how you cant find an awesome girl!Advice on finding someone from girls and guys?
dude u shulda been thinking about that in college or hs even.....but dunt give up im sure theyre sum juicy girl grad students? mmm best of luck
Where can I find someone that would like a guy that isn't a thug, but a young, highly educated professional with a bright future that is just looking for someone to get to know and go from there. It seems impossible at times.
At my main job, everyone there is quite a bit older than me. At my Saturday(part time) job at Macy's everyone's either high school age or nearly my parents'. I don't live in a huge city with tons to do, either. After working 2 full time jobs to save up and pay for school this past fall (07), it seems hard to get back into the gameAdvice on finding someone from girls and guys?
you sound like the perfect guy to me! I donno how you cant find an awesome girl!Advice on finding someone from girls and guys?
dude u shulda been thinking about that in college or hs even.....but dunt give up im sure theyre sum juicy girl grad students? mmm best of luck
Advice needed!! Men are impossible to understand- guys any input?
Ok, so a little bit of background- a year ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years after he did something very unforgivable. By the time I broke up with him, I had no more positive feelings towards him.
Not too long after that I met up with an old classmate of mine, and things started going really well. He would tell me that I was the best girl he ever met, and in the 5 months we dated he even started mentioning marriage. Understandably, I did not want to rush things. I let him know that I cared, but just being out of something else, I didn't want to let things happen too fast.
And then we had an argument (we'd argued before, and this wasn't a particularly bad disagreement), and out of the blue he broke up with me. I am confused as to why, because he kept changing his reasons. Some of them very conflicting. So here is confusion number one.
It's been 2 weeks now, and whenever he texts me and I say that I've been out, he will start accusing me of finding other men/flirting/etc (untrue, but he was always on the jealous side). I don't play along, and don't dignify his accusations, but when I confront him about it he says that he is sticking by his decision, he doesn't want to be with me. So confusion number two, why does he get so jealous about my whereabouts?
Guess I just need some perspective. Thanks guys!Advice needed!! Men are impossible to understand- guys any input?
He loves you, and is insecure about you and at the same time he is confused that whether to keep the relationship going or not. So i suggest you to have a talk to him face to face and correct all your misunderstandings. I am sure you will work out good.Advice needed!! Men are impossible to understand- guys any input?
#1- watch out he may have someone on the side and he's triing to keep you around just in case that one is a flop. #2- jealousey=insecuraty neather of witch you need. eather take some time off from guys and get over the old breakup , or go fishing , there's plenty of good one's out there
because he cares he just does not know exactly how to express his self. you need to get in front of him and look him in the face and say what do you really want? this is your last chance and take whatever he tells you and run with it. tell him if he does not want to be with you then don't ask you where you have been, plain and simple
He is in limbo. He regrets breaking up with you but doesn't completely regret it. It's unfair of you to generalize from this that ';men are impossible to understand.'; Women's feelings end up in limbo all the time. Find a less jealous, less erratic man.
he just really liked you and then when you said you wanted to take it slow he gpt all mad and sad and hurt so he broke up with you he's jealous cuz he wants you back but is scared you won't take him back and he thinks that you didn't care about him and all other baby bull crap
Easy answer. HE'S CRAZY. Just tell him to piss off and don't talk to him anymore. I bet he's a stalker though... sorry he just sounds like a major crazy *** mother ******. And obviously he broke up with you because he's crazy. Just egnore him.
tell him if he doesn't want to be with you then your whereabouts ir what you're doing is none of his business. if I were you I'd stop replying to his texts or calls, he'll get the hint.
a hard one this,
He definitely has some feelings for you still however maybe he feels that he wasn't ready for a relationship but doesn't want to admit it.
hmm..it kinda sounds like he wants to own you, but yet wants to be on his own without you.
i think you should just start to move on..if he really cares and loves you, he'll come back. :)
tell him to piss off
you're not with him any more and your life is non of his business
and then tell him to shove it. ( I can't stand jealous guys)
Hi there
i see two perspective in this
case 1
he is afraid about your relationship with him he tried to guard himself from what he believes is breakup. and before you trying to breakup with him he creates a scenario that he really doesn't care about you anymore (this attitude is always with men to show the outside world that they are like a rock but within they feel really bad if what he had with you was a genuine relationship). he thinks you have changed a lot when you first met you and now and this change is due to some external relationship so he has broken up with you may one possible solution would be you trying be patient and make realize that you always care about him instead of reacting to whatever he said
case 2
he was seeing someone and because of that he staged aa breakup with you by false stuff about you.
if it is the first case i would still like you try and talk to him and make him realize your feelings because men always suffer from great deal of prejudice especially with girls
my best friend was in this problem too, confusion one, u said ';i have been out';, that's not a good answer, u should say exactly where u are.(Evan though its not his business) to guys saying ';i have been out';, it's like ur hiding something. confusion number 2, you might be the only girl hes dated in a while. so he might think that u want someone new but don't want to hurt him. i hope this helps.
ermm yea he crazy and insecure... i broke up with an ex and she does wot he is doing.. he likes u but is just insecure bout things maybe has some personal dought i still love my ex to pieces but there were somthings bout her that ment i had to break it off ..... phone him ... say ok i wana know whats up with you an me... he will start off by going what you mean getting all defensive.. then u say shh shh i wana talk be calm... then he will be calm after a few... then you say ok tell me whats up he will get all upty again while giving u a reason.. you say calmly .. he will say then .. you will say is tht the real reason i want honesty i admire honesty... maybe he will then change wot he says if he dosent... then try to explain the reason he gave you ...
Not too long after that I met up with an old classmate of mine, and things started going really well. He would tell me that I was the best girl he ever met, and in the 5 months we dated he even started mentioning marriage. Understandably, I did not want to rush things. I let him know that I cared, but just being out of something else, I didn't want to let things happen too fast.
And then we had an argument (we'd argued before, and this wasn't a particularly bad disagreement), and out of the blue he broke up with me. I am confused as to why, because he kept changing his reasons. Some of them very conflicting. So here is confusion number one.
It's been 2 weeks now, and whenever he texts me and I say that I've been out, he will start accusing me of finding other men/flirting/etc (untrue, but he was always on the jealous side). I don't play along, and don't dignify his accusations, but when I confront him about it he says that he is sticking by his decision, he doesn't want to be with me. So confusion number two, why does he get so jealous about my whereabouts?
Guess I just need some perspective. Thanks guys!Advice needed!! Men are impossible to understand- guys any input?
He loves you, and is insecure about you and at the same time he is confused that whether to keep the relationship going or not. So i suggest you to have a talk to him face to face and correct all your misunderstandings. I am sure you will work out good.Advice needed!! Men are impossible to understand- guys any input?
#1- watch out he may have someone on the side and he's triing to keep you around just in case that one is a flop. #2- jealousey=insecuraty neather of witch you need. eather take some time off from guys and get over the old breakup , or go fishing , there's plenty of good one's out there
because he cares he just does not know exactly how to express his self. you need to get in front of him and look him in the face and say what do you really want? this is your last chance and take whatever he tells you and run with it. tell him if he does not want to be with you then don't ask you where you have been, plain and simple
He is in limbo. He regrets breaking up with you but doesn't completely regret it. It's unfair of you to generalize from this that ';men are impossible to understand.'; Women's feelings end up in limbo all the time. Find a less jealous, less erratic man.
he just really liked you and then when you said you wanted to take it slow he gpt all mad and sad and hurt so he broke up with you he's jealous cuz he wants you back but is scared you won't take him back and he thinks that you didn't care about him and all other baby bull crap
Easy answer. HE'S CRAZY. Just tell him to piss off and don't talk to him anymore. I bet he's a stalker though... sorry he just sounds like a major crazy *** mother ******. And obviously he broke up with you because he's crazy. Just egnore him.
tell him if he doesn't want to be with you then your whereabouts ir what you're doing is none of his business. if I were you I'd stop replying to his texts or calls, he'll get the hint.
a hard one this,
He definitely has some feelings for you still however maybe he feels that he wasn't ready for a relationship but doesn't want to admit it.
hmm..it kinda sounds like he wants to own you, but yet wants to be on his own without you.
i think you should just start to move on..if he really cares and loves you, he'll come back. :)
tell him to piss off
you're not with him any more and your life is non of his business
and then tell him to shove it. ( I can't stand jealous guys)
Hi there
i see two perspective in this
case 1
he is afraid about your relationship with him he tried to guard himself from what he believes is breakup. and before you trying to breakup with him he creates a scenario that he really doesn't care about you anymore (this attitude is always with men to show the outside world that they are like a rock but within they feel really bad if what he had with you was a genuine relationship). he thinks you have changed a lot when you first met you and now and this change is due to some external relationship so he has broken up with you may one possible solution would be you trying be patient and make realize that you always care about him instead of reacting to whatever he said
case 2
he was seeing someone and because of that he staged aa breakup with you by false stuff about you.
if it is the first case i would still like you try and talk to him and make him realize your feelings because men always suffer from great deal of prejudice especially with girls
my best friend was in this problem too, confusion one, u said ';i have been out';, that's not a good answer, u should say exactly where u are.(Evan though its not his business) to guys saying ';i have been out';, it's like ur hiding something. confusion number 2, you might be the only girl hes dated in a while. so he might think that u want someone new but don't want to hurt him. i hope this helps.
ermm yea he crazy and insecure... i broke up with an ex and she does wot he is doing.. he likes u but is just insecure bout things maybe has some personal dought i still love my ex to pieces but there were somthings bout her that ment i had to break it off ..... phone him ... say ok i wana know whats up with you an me... he will start off by going what you mean getting all defensive.. then u say shh shh i wana talk be calm... then he will be calm after a few... then you say ok tell me whats up he will get all upty again while giving u a reason.. you say calmly .. he will say then .. you will say is tht the real reason i want honesty i admire honesty... maybe he will then change wot he says if he dosent... then try to explain the reason he gave you ...
Ive been seeing this guy thats alot younger then I am. Need some advice on whether I should keep seeing him?
I dont know if I should keep seeing him or not, I really like him, maybe even more then a friend I dont want to hurt him because he told me he loves me and I didnt know what to say. A little advice would be much appreciated. Should I keep seeing him?Ive been seeing this guy thats alot younger then I am. Need some advice on whether I should keep seeing him?
Age doesn't matter at all. It just depends how you feel inside.
Age doesn't matter at all. It just depends how you feel inside.
Hey guys, i'm headed off to this chicas house and i need some advice..?
well she is my best friends sister, and i'm going up there to watch the nba finals game 5. i like her and i am about 85 percent sure she likes me. if there is a situation where we are alone, what can i do to manuever the conversation over to who she likes? what other things can i look at to find out if she likes me?Hey guys, i'm headed off to this chicas house and i need some advice..?
go with the flow and just let what happens, happens.Hey guys, i'm headed off to this chicas house and i need some advice..?
Body language. Body language. Body Language. Look into her eyes. Watch for a flirty smile. Don't ask her who she likes. Show interest in her. Sit next to her. when talking to her look her in the eyes and hopefully she will keep her eyes on you or if she isn't the type to keep eye contact then she might be talking and looking away at you but at absolutely nothing. If the tv is on and she is not paying attention to it that is a good sign too. and if you think that things are going good, ask her to hang out a few days from now. ask her out to dinner. not a movie. that is lame. you cant talk to her there. take her to dinner and plan something else... A good way is to take her to dinner and then a cool party. Then she hangs around you all night and thinks your the sweetest guy ever, that is if you impress her and pay for her dinner. Just play it cool
just talk to her normally and she what body expressions she gives you. look in her eyes as you talk. the eyes always give it away. maybe ask her if she wants to go watch a movie one night and see what she say's there is no harm in asking
Sit next to her and give her extra attention, and see how she reacts to it. If she goes along with it, she probably likes you.
if she likes you, you should know it by half time lol
just slide over and stick your tongue down her throat... that will tell you if she really does like you
gd luck!
pay attention to her body language n how much she talks to u
if these r good she likes u so just tell her or give her obvious clues so she'll get da hit
if your are alone and she tries to get close to you go for the move!
that mean shes into yu!
go with the flow and just let what happens, happens.Hey guys, i'm headed off to this chicas house and i need some advice..?
Body language. Body language. Body Language. Look into her eyes. Watch for a flirty smile. Don't ask her who she likes. Show interest in her. Sit next to her. when talking to her look her in the eyes and hopefully she will keep her eyes on you or if she isn't the type to keep eye contact then she might be talking and looking away at you but at absolutely nothing. If the tv is on and she is not paying attention to it that is a good sign too. and if you think that things are going good, ask her to hang out a few days from now. ask her out to dinner. not a movie. that is lame. you cant talk to her there. take her to dinner and plan something else... A good way is to take her to dinner and then a cool party. Then she hangs around you all night and thinks your the sweetest guy ever, that is if you impress her and pay for her dinner. Just play it cool
just talk to her normally and she what body expressions she gives you. look in her eyes as you talk. the eyes always give it away. maybe ask her if she wants to go watch a movie one night and see what she say's there is no harm in asking
Sit next to her and give her extra attention, and see how she reacts to it. If she goes along with it, she probably likes you.
if she likes you, you should know it by half time lol
just slide over and stick your tongue down her throat... that will tell you if she really does like you
gd luck!
pay attention to her body language n how much she talks to u
if these r good she likes u so just tell her or give her obvious clues so she'll get da hit
if your are alone and she tries to get close to you go for the move!
that mean shes into yu!
This is to all the guys. please answer this question i really need some advice.?
I like this guy right, and how can i find out if he likes me?i mean hes the kind of guy that when you ask him who he likes he nods as if hes telling u y do u care.what are some of the things some guys just like him do when you like a girl? Do u Show it O keep it 2 urself bcuz your afraid.........Does it make sense?This is to all the guys. please answer this question i really need some advice.?
Do you like yourself? Seriously... if you're worried about whether this guy likes you, maybe you should consider how important you are to yourself. Do you deserve to be ignored? Because odds are that if this guy dated you, he'd treat you the same way he does now.
Please consider WHY you're attracted to him.
Also, mentally healthy, straight guys are attracted to confident girls; try NOT needing his attention.
:^This is to all the guys. please answer this question i really need some advice.?
|he is wise
just buck up and tell him
just ask him trust me im a guy in the reverse situation but im scared to ask her
hey just ask that dumb *** directly if he likes you or not jsut simple just dont waste you time on this fella if he nods again.
YOU WALK UP TO HIM AND SAY I LIKE YOU DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT FOR COFFEE TEA MCDONALDS WHATEVER%26gt; JUST ASK HIM OUT
Do you like yourself? Seriously... if you're worried about whether this guy likes you, maybe you should consider how important you are to yourself. Do you deserve to be ignored? Because odds are that if this guy dated you, he'd treat you the same way he does now.
Please consider WHY you're attracted to him.
Also, mentally healthy, straight guys are attracted to confident girls; try NOT needing his attention.
:^This is to all the guys. please answer this question i really need some advice.?
|he is wise
just buck up and tell him
just ask him trust me im a guy in the reverse situation but im scared to ask her
hey just ask that dumb *** directly if he likes you or not jsut simple just dont waste you time on this fella if he nods again.
YOU WALK UP TO HIM AND SAY I LIKE YOU DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT FOR COFFEE TEA MCDONALDS WHATEVER%26gt; JUST ASK HIM OUT
GIRLS: what would you think? GUYS: what does this mean? ... I NEED ADVICE!?
okay so i've been talking to this guy and today, on the phone, he told me he was really confused on alot of different aspects of his life. One of the things he said was, ';I don't know if I want a girlfriend, or if I just want to mess around.'; I kinda brushed this statement off and continued the conversation normally. After we hung up I texted him and said, ';Am i confusing you?'; and he said, ';no not at all, i like what we have goin on?'; ...what does this mean?
keep in mind that him and i have only talked on the phone and through texting. our sisters are best friends, and we've met before but he's been in another state for 6 months.GIRLS: what would you think? GUYS: what does this mean? ... I NEED ADVICE!?
He just wants to fool around with you without any commitment.GIRLS: what would you think? GUYS: what does this mean? ... I NEED ADVICE!?
Well it appears, what you have is a pen pal, except using texting and phone calls.
But as he's in another State, I would wait until he gets back to your home State, before getting into anything serious.
If he's confused, it's hard to know which way he's headed.
And confused about what?
well basically this mean that he dont want any serious relationships he just wants to smash...yo get me he just wana hit it an quit dats it...
He means he is cool with how you and him are getting along.
just see how it goes and go with the flow.
it means he likes what ya have going on..whatever it is.
the friendship maybenatural facial
keep in mind that him and i have only talked on the phone and through texting. our sisters are best friends, and we've met before but he's been in another state for 6 months.GIRLS: what would you think? GUYS: what does this mean? ... I NEED ADVICE!?
He just wants to fool around with you without any commitment.GIRLS: what would you think? GUYS: what does this mean? ... I NEED ADVICE!?
Well it appears, what you have is a pen pal, except using texting and phone calls.
But as he's in another State, I would wait until he gets back to your home State, before getting into anything serious.
If he's confused, it's hard to know which way he's headed.
And confused about what?
well basically this mean that he dont want any serious relationships he just wants to smash...yo get me he just wana hit it an quit dats it...
He means he is cool with how you and him are getting along.
just see how it goes and go with the flow.
it means he likes what ya have going on..whatever it is.
the friendship maybe
GUYS!!! Trying to unlock the mystery that is man, I need advice...?
Say you are going out with a girl you like. She is everything that you have always wanted. You let her know that and that you want to marry her and have babies with her. But you call only when you feel like it. Sometimes you tell her that you'll call her but then you don't. She invites you to go to the movies and you never call her about a time that works for you. And when she calls you to see what's up and to make sure that your not dead (after not hearing from you in days) you tell her that, ';Oh I can't go out today cause my cars having trouble, I'll call you later'; and then don't call her. Why would you do that, what does that mean?GUYS!!! Trying to unlock the mystery that is man, I need advice...?
no mystery see other post where i unlock the secretsGUYS!!! Trying to unlock the mystery that is man, I need advice...?
dude has another woman........no sh.t.....
I'm sorry to say, but that's what I've done with girls that I wasn't really interested in, and didn't have enough courage to just break it off with them. Perhaps, there's alot that he does like about you, but not quite enough for him to have as much attention on you as you'd like. You should just sit him down and ask, ';Do you really want to be with me, or would you rather find someone else?'; This kinda guy might give you a PR (public relations) answer which he doesn't really mean. You'll have to dig for the truth, even saying, ';Tell me the truth.'; If a girl told me that, that would pull the truth out of me.
To me, it means he is taking advantage of you, knowing you will be at his beck and call whenever he wants you.
that he lied and is not intrested and does not know how to tell you.
it means she isnt everything and you dont want to marry her or probably cant be bothered turning up anyway. babies? ha! ill come see them when my car isnt troubling me
it means that he's not interested in you like you are in him. you should look for someone else, it will be hard but its best
He's BS'ing you.Find a real man.
It means that he is shallow, callous, and doesn't know what love is. He is more concerned about what his needs are while you are like a convenience store to him. The great thing is that you realize this before you settle down with him or have a baby by him. Suppose you got pregnant, don't try to fool yourself into thinking that it will suddenly change his ways. If he is selfish now, he will be even more selfish later. But he isn't alone. Many people are like that. You sound like a sweet, caring, and intelligent young lady. You think with your head and feel with your heart, and that will help you know when you have found the right guy. You should pat yourself on the back for recognizing the weakness in your boyfriend and how it keeps your relationship in a poor state. Have faith in yourself.
Let me guess. He pursued you and pursued you. You finally said yes, and now he's acting like a jerk.
But truth is, he didn't turn into a jerk. He was always one. But you didn't see it because he was treating you so sweetly at one point and was determined to win you over. He told you he loved you, and painted pictures of a future with you. You most likely told him to slow down, take it easy, and pointed out things you were scared or unsure about. But he convinced you that he wasn't going anywhere, and that he loved you. At first you were unimpressed. You had been through this before. Men chasing after you, sending flowers, bringing you your favorite icecream, etc., etc. But he seemed to really be sticking to his word. He didn't seem to be going anywhere. You saw him as different from anyone you'd ever met. Feeling safe, you decided to push your fears aside and go for it, right? Then you fell in love with him, and accepted him for who he was- flaws and all. You probably put everything, all of yourself, all of your energy into loving him.
But wait, then he saw that. He saw that you were a dedicated, sweet, beautiful woman! Everything he thought he always wanted. And if you were somewhat adventurous, he probably felt like he tamed you a little bit. Then he decided you were now a little too tame. Why? Because you loved him. He needs another challenge to restock his manliness.
Wait, if he finally won you over, who else could he win over? Or maybe he could play around with you a little bit, see if he can get into your mind and make you ask yourself questions like, ';Did he ever really love me? Was it all a game? Is he possibly just scared and needs some time?'; All I can say is BOY IS HE ENJOYING THIS. It gives him so much power. He loves that the once independent woman who didn't want to give him a chance is wrought with worry over losing him.
find another man because he is cheating on you!!!!!!!!!
ive told you already he isnt interested,find another guy
It sounds like he does not put you as a top priority.I would tell him if he wants you in his life he needs to call you more often and respect your time the same way he wants you to respect his.
hes playing you like no other. you need to forget about him because he doesnt want you he wants your pants, more specifically whats inside them.
Let it be said that he likes you as a person but nothing more. If you stop having sex with him you will see the whole picture and realize how tight your eyes were closed to the situation.
that he is just playing with you and he is a quick that wants everything but then kick it aside later on
There is no mystery about men. They are what they are. Men only say what you want to hear.
no mystery see other post where i unlock the secretsGUYS!!! Trying to unlock the mystery that is man, I need advice...?
dude has another woman........no sh.t.....
I'm sorry to say, but that's what I've done with girls that I wasn't really interested in, and didn't have enough courage to just break it off with them. Perhaps, there's alot that he does like about you, but not quite enough for him to have as much attention on you as you'd like. You should just sit him down and ask, ';Do you really want to be with me, or would you rather find someone else?'; This kinda guy might give you a PR (public relations) answer which he doesn't really mean. You'll have to dig for the truth, even saying, ';Tell me the truth.'; If a girl told me that, that would pull the truth out of me.
To me, it means he is taking advantage of you, knowing you will be at his beck and call whenever he wants you.
that he lied and is not intrested and does not know how to tell you.
it means she isnt everything and you dont want to marry her or probably cant be bothered turning up anyway. babies? ha! ill come see them when my car isnt troubling me
it means that he's not interested in you like you are in him. you should look for someone else, it will be hard but its best
He's BS'ing you.Find a real man.
It means that he is shallow, callous, and doesn't know what love is. He is more concerned about what his needs are while you are like a convenience store to him. The great thing is that you realize this before you settle down with him or have a baby by him. Suppose you got pregnant, don't try to fool yourself into thinking that it will suddenly change his ways. If he is selfish now, he will be even more selfish later. But he isn't alone. Many people are like that. You sound like a sweet, caring, and intelligent young lady. You think with your head and feel with your heart, and that will help you know when you have found the right guy. You should pat yourself on the back for recognizing the weakness in your boyfriend and how it keeps your relationship in a poor state. Have faith in yourself.
Let me guess. He pursued you and pursued you. You finally said yes, and now he's acting like a jerk.
But truth is, he didn't turn into a jerk. He was always one. But you didn't see it because he was treating you so sweetly at one point and was determined to win you over. He told you he loved you, and painted pictures of a future with you. You most likely told him to slow down, take it easy, and pointed out things you were scared or unsure about. But he convinced you that he wasn't going anywhere, and that he loved you. At first you were unimpressed. You had been through this before. Men chasing after you, sending flowers, bringing you your favorite icecream, etc., etc. But he seemed to really be sticking to his word. He didn't seem to be going anywhere. You saw him as different from anyone you'd ever met. Feeling safe, you decided to push your fears aside and go for it, right? Then you fell in love with him, and accepted him for who he was- flaws and all. You probably put everything, all of yourself, all of your energy into loving him.
But wait, then he saw that. He saw that you were a dedicated, sweet, beautiful woman! Everything he thought he always wanted. And if you were somewhat adventurous, he probably felt like he tamed you a little bit. Then he decided you were now a little too tame. Why? Because you loved him. He needs another challenge to restock his manliness.
Wait, if he finally won you over, who else could he win over? Or maybe he could play around with you a little bit, see if he can get into your mind and make you ask yourself questions like, ';Did he ever really love me? Was it all a game? Is he possibly just scared and needs some time?'; All I can say is BOY IS HE ENJOYING THIS. It gives him so much power. He loves that the once independent woman who didn't want to give him a chance is wrought with worry over losing him.
find another man because he is cheating on you!!!!!!!!!
ive told you already he isnt interested,find another guy
It sounds like he does not put you as a top priority.I would tell him if he wants you in his life he needs to call you more often and respect your time the same way he wants you to respect his.
hes playing you like no other. you need to forget about him because he doesnt want you he wants your pants, more specifically whats inside them.
Let it be said that he likes you as a person but nothing more. If you stop having sex with him you will see the whole picture and realize how tight your eyes were closed to the situation.
that he is just playing with you and he is a quick that wants everything but then kick it aside later on
There is no mystery about men. They are what they are. Men only say what you want to hear.
Bi guys out there? Advice on coming out?
Okay so I'm bi like I said earlier... I'm thinking of coming out to relieve me of the stress I'm feeling about trying to hide... My mom's not the kind of person who just accepts things as they are and she's kind of like a control freak... She's not narrow-minded about certain things but it's mostly because she's just given up... She can be very narrow-minded about things like her beliefs and principles and sexuality... She's quite a gay-basher sometimes... I have a cousin who's bi and she thinks that he's having a psychological problem... I need to know a good way to break this to her and not be a cause of her nervous breakdown where she'll say that I will be the cause of her untimely death and blame me for it, not that I care in the least of what she'll say or think but it will be hard to do damage control with the kind of personality that she has... My dad was enough of a problem when he was still alive and he was so against gays and bis... He even disapproved of his own bi nephew...Bi guys out there? Advice on coming out?
Well, hearing how your mother's opinion towards homosexuality and bisexuality is, I would seriously council against coming out until your old enough to move out. If you were to come out, the most probable thing that could happen is your life being a hell hole. But then again, you say your stressed out about it. So its kinda of a lose-lose situation. I'd say give it a few more years, but in the end its your own decision.Bi guys out there? Advice on coming out?
I agree with Ed. I know this must be hard keeping to yourself, but I think it's important to try. If you're depending on your mom to support you until you move out, you might find that really hard to do if she threatens to kick you out or take away privileges until you 'go straight'. And if she's that much of a basher, she probably will try some tricks to get you to change your mind.
Besides this, look at it this way. Do straight kids come out and tell their parents they're straight? No, I don't believe most do. They just are what they are and that's the end of it. It only becomes a problem if the daughter comes home pregnant or with some other similar problem.
I suggest waiting until you're older or more independant, then tell her straight out and leave. There is no easy way to tell her. You'll just have to spit it out and hope for the best.
Good luck. Hope it works out.
Well, hearing how your mother's opinion towards homosexuality and bisexuality is, I would seriously council against coming out until your old enough to move out. If you were to come out, the most probable thing that could happen is your life being a hell hole. But then again, you say your stressed out about it. So its kinda of a lose-lose situation. I'd say give it a few more years, but in the end its your own decision.Bi guys out there? Advice on coming out?
I agree with Ed. I know this must be hard keeping to yourself, but I think it's important to try. If you're depending on your mom to support you until you move out, you might find that really hard to do if she threatens to kick you out or take away privileges until you 'go straight'. And if she's that much of a basher, she probably will try some tricks to get you to change your mind.
Besides this, look at it this way. Do straight kids come out and tell their parents they're straight? No, I don't believe most do. They just are what they are and that's the end of it. It only becomes a problem if the daughter comes home pregnant or with some other similar problem.
I suggest waiting until you're older or more independant, then tell her straight out and leave. There is no easy way to tell her. You'll just have to spit it out and hope for the best.
Good luck. Hope it works out.
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