Okay, everytime i get close to a guy even if its just a month relationship or something.. we slowly fall apart like i will feel like he hates me all the time and i will just break up with him.
my last relationship ended this way right after thanksgiving and he told his friends he didnt know what happened
im only 14;; but i feel like having a boyfriend keeps me together. im independent for the simple fact i do not need anybody to help me with life. i just love being with a guy that i know thinks im the hottest thing ever, and lieks me alot. guys can say it but i dont think it means much unless we are going out..
should i just stay away from guys for a while?
should i reject them until im older?
i feel bad being like noo.. but i dont
rlly know if its best for me or not.
%26amp;%26amp; i wanna know why im so attracted to jerks.
when guys get jelous of me talking to other guys
and wanting to kill them for talking 2 me.. i love it.
why is that?
thanks :]Should i just stay away from dating guys for a while??? need some good advice :] thankks in advance?
You sound like one fo my friends who has never gone a day without a boyfriend.
I think you should take a break because you are only 14 and it seems like you don't focus on yourself, but on the guy. I only fear that if you keep this up, you are going to fall into bad relationship after bad relationship. My friend is never happy in her relationships because she ends up talking to a new guy, and drifts away from her old boyfriend. Then all the guys get jealous because they want her. It kind of sounds like the problem you have now.
It might not be so bad now since your younger, but one you get into highschool it could cause some damage on you. You might be unhappy because you can't seem to get into a good relationship and you might get a reputation of being a tease, which could drive some guys away.
I'm not telling you to take a break exactly, but before you date someone, make sure that you really like them and that your relationship can last longer than a month. Don't just date a guy just to date them, make sure they treat you like a queen. Just slow down and think before you date.Should i just stay away from dating guys for a while??? need some good advice :] thankks in advance?
You luv attension thts true but let the boys come to you your only 14 hun, try goin on a few dates to get to know them first this way you may realise if it will work or not x
Haha
Hey hun, don't worry, i know the feeling. I feel like sometimes having a guy like me is the greatest. This is because you always feel that no matter how much u feel down, you always know theres somebody out there who likes you, and wants you. That would be why u always want a BF. But, let me tell you, that sometimes its not good breaking up and hooking up. Its just insercurity. You say your independant, and thats good, but part of it is being w.o a guy. Try stopping dating for a while, and take it slowly. Learn to be really independant, and not rely on a guy for security :] I hope that helps!
hun,
you like attention...its ok just be a little more judgemental and try to realize that they guys who don't want to kill a guy if you talk to him are the better guys for you...
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
so, as a guy, if a girl that went to your school added you on facebook, and you had never talked to her and had no classes together, would that be creepy/weird??
and then if next school year you guys started hanging out and then he remembered that, would it be awkward??
there's this guy at school that i like but he's a grade ahead and i want to add him on facebook, but i'm afraid because i only ever see him in the halls...advice please???Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
OMG yeah I totally did that with this dude.
And then we had a class together (I added him berfore school year) and he was like
';I know you.. ..... from facebook.';
and it was sooo totally awkward..
But if you like him, you can add him. Facebook is a really good device for finding out about someone you like. You could talk to him in person too, after you've added him.Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
do it casue people that i dont talk to that goto my school have added me....
Don't add him as a FRIEND if you've never talked to him before. Adding people as FRIENDS on facebook is because they are your real life FRIENDS.
and then if next school year you guys started hanging out and then he remembered that, would it be awkward??
there's this guy at school that i like but he's a grade ahead and i want to add him on facebook, but i'm afraid because i only ever see him in the halls...advice please???Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
OMG yeah I totally did that with this dude.
And then we had a class together (I added him berfore school year) and he was like
';I know you.. ..... from facebook.';
and it was sooo totally awkward..
But if you like him, you can add him. Facebook is a really good device for finding out about someone you like. You could talk to him in person too, after you've added him.Adding someone on facebook: is it cool? ?? (GUYS) and girls too if they have advice...?
do it casue people that i dont talk to that goto my school have added me....
Don't add him as a FRIEND if you've never talked to him before. Adding people as FRIENDS on facebook is because they are your real life FRIENDS.
Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
I like this girl, we went out on our first date but she didn't want to come alone, she came with some friends, same as me! we hold hands in the theatre but she didn't want a kiss or anything like that! I really like this girl but I don't know, it's like I have to say hello every time I see her in messenger and stuff... I say like '; your really pretty in this pic and she's like ';Thank youuu XD'; so I don't know. I want to make her my girlfriend this upcoming friday that I'm gonna play with my band! Right before I get on stage or after! but I don't know if she is that interested in me or I don't know... I don't wanna screw things up with her or anything because i really like her, she does want to go out with me again but I'm confused, should I ask her to be my girlfriend, or ask her if she is interested the same as me?
some tips please!
Thanks to all in Advance!Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
Hey:)
First off i'm a girl and I really like this guy who does the same stuff you do to me. He always tells me I'm pretty in my pictures and in person. I always just say thanks because I never know how to answer showing how I really feel. If this girl hung out with you with her friends she probably does like you ad she's just nervous. Try not going to such a public place for the first time that way she won't be embarrassed around strangers. I think you should tell her that you like her first (not ask her out right away) Then she can tell you how she feels. Maybe she feels the same way. I wish the guy I liked would just tell me he liked me. So i'm sure she likes you, any guy who flatters a girl will make a girl happy. She is probably just to shy to express her emotions.Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
No offense, but it is no use fretting about it. If she wants to go out with you again, it is likely she likes you a bit. Ask her out to some places and get to know her better if you like. I think you should ask her out though, I mean, there's no harm in trying. If she says know, it doesn't mean you can't still be friends. If she tells you that she doesn't want to be your friend after you ask her out, then she isn't really worth the time.
Just ask her if she is interested! From the way you describe it, it seems like she does like you, and if she wants to go on another date then go for it! Just because you didnt kiss on your first date doesnt mean that she doesnt like you it just means that she was unsure and didnt know enough about you! Go for it!
go ahead ask her and I would do it after u go on stage with yur band
if she says no then tell her it's alright maybe it would just be better if we were friends act strong it will be ok there are plenty of girls out there and one is bound to like you maybe that girl isn't the one
I Wish You Luck Though
:D
ask her to be your girlfriend. shes probably the conservative shy kind that doesnt always kiss on the first date. if you really feel that she likes you...GO FOR IT! if you dont your gonna be stuck with ';if then maybes'; seriously dude ask her. even if she says no? whoooo cares? theres PLEEENTY of fish in the sea
you're rushing.
just take it a little bit slower.
talk to her a lot. and start callingheron the phone.
do not let the phone calls get awkward.
make her laugh A LOT.
and then in about a couple of weeks, if it seemslike shelikes you, ask her.
then wait a couple days and ask her out.
she didn't want to kiss because it was too soon.
=)
hope I helped!
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Hmm..does seem a lil confusing. It could mean anything but if shes willing to hold your hand than she must be interested. Next time u take her out make sure its just u 2. Dont bring friends along cuz that just shows that u guys are really nervous and scared. I say let her know how u feel and see what she says and base that on wanting to make her ur gf or not. good luck
Okay, bro, you gotta keep it chill. Just go up to her, look her deep in the eyes, and tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. If she seems happy, then you can proceed to ask her out. Suavely stroke your hair, and subtly ask ';So i herd u liek buttsecks?';
maybe she doesnt want to kiss on the first date? just ask her out AFTER the show because if she says no you will be bummed. if you held hands thats good. wait why would you even try to kiss her if you arent even going out?! what is she a whore?
I think she only wants to be your friend but then again i might be wrong since guys and girlz dont really hold hands if there friends so maybe she likes you. Just ask her out and if she says no then who cares go on with life she will still be your friend trust me.
while you were in the theatre yal were holding hands so if she ain't let go of your hand then my guess is that she likes you. I think you should go for it.Let her know what you are about. Or just ask her how she feels about you.
How old are you.
But (Im a girl) When a girl holds a guys hand in that sort of situation, it usually means a crush..
Whats there to loose ask her out..
In person, e-mail/text is a no no.
Hopefully that helped. I've never been asked out. But... lol.
she might not have wanted to kiss you because there were a lot of people around. just go for it! you'll regret it if you don't at least try. good luck :D
flirt some more and then read the signs, like if she flirts back then she likes you but you also cant ever really tell with girls cause she might be shy so you just have to take the chance and aask her out .
well you should probably start off by just asking her what she really thinks about you and if she says that she has feeling that are similar to yours then you can ask her to be ur gf.
well she likes you..i know that if i went with a person to a movie i know that i would have to be interested..id ask her out...
Maybe she is shy and doesn't want to be alone with you. Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090615194451AA8bnSs%26amp;r=w
There's a good chance that she likes you. Make a move and ask her! :)
haha heehehhehahhaha HO
well...seems insecure. i think you should ask her whatever you think you should ask and START OFF SLOW. from holding hands to hugs and then to kisses. she will feel much comfortable by then
go for it :)
she probably is in to it just as much as you are but doesn't want to open up so fast soooo. yeah.
ask her if she's interested in you and if yes ask her.
Sometimes girls need a little time. Wait a little bit and don't go to fast. talking and Communication is the best.
if she went on the date with you then she probably likes you. just go for it and ask her.
stop thinking about it so much, it shows and makes you seem insecure.
Why don't you tell her?
WHat if she dies tomorrow?
(not saying that she will)
What's the worst she can say, no?
Show your love today, man.
Sounds like she's pretty into u! I say go 4 it ! XD good luck!
ask her dont be afraid if she sais know dont get depressed move on.
Go for it!
You have to take chances in life!
well if u really like her u should ask her 2 go out with u
just ask her out and dont seem to ancxiousnatural facial
some tips please!
Thanks to all in Advance!Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
Hey:)
First off i'm a girl and I really like this guy who does the same stuff you do to me. He always tells me I'm pretty in my pictures and in person. I always just say thanks because I never know how to answer showing how I really feel. If this girl hung out with you with her friends she probably does like you ad she's just nervous. Try not going to such a public place for the first time that way she won't be embarrassed around strangers. I think you should tell her that you like her first (not ask her out right away) Then she can tell you how she feels. Maybe she feels the same way. I wish the guy I liked would just tell me he liked me. So i'm sure she likes you, any guy who flatters a girl will make a girl happy. She is probably just to shy to express her emotions.Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
No offense, but it is no use fretting about it. If she wants to go out with you again, it is likely she likes you a bit. Ask her out to some places and get to know her better if you like. I think you should ask her out though, I mean, there's no harm in trying. If she says know, it doesn't mean you can't still be friends. If she tells you that she doesn't want to be your friend after you ask her out, then she isn't really worth the time.
Just ask her if she is interested! From the way you describe it, it seems like she does like you, and if she wants to go on another date then go for it! Just because you didnt kiss on your first date doesnt mean that she doesnt like you it just means that she was unsure and didnt know enough about you! Go for it!
go ahead ask her and I would do it after u go on stage with yur band
if she says no then tell her it's alright maybe it would just be better if we were friends act strong it will be ok there are plenty of girls out there and one is bound to like you maybe that girl isn't the one
I Wish You Luck Though
:D
ask her to be your girlfriend. shes probably the conservative shy kind that doesnt always kiss on the first date. if you really feel that she likes you...GO FOR IT! if you dont your gonna be stuck with ';if then maybes'; seriously dude ask her. even if she says no? whoooo cares? theres PLEEENTY of fish in the sea
you're rushing.
just take it a little bit slower.
talk to her a lot. and start callingheron the phone.
do not let the phone calls get awkward.
make her laugh A LOT.
and then in about a couple of weeks, if it seemslike shelikes you, ask her.
then wait a couple days and ask her out.
she didn't want to kiss because it was too soon.
=)
hope I helped!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?…
Hmm..does seem a lil confusing. It could mean anything but if shes willing to hold your hand than she must be interested. Next time u take her out make sure its just u 2. Dont bring friends along cuz that just shows that u guys are really nervous and scared. I say let her know how u feel and see what she says and base that on wanting to make her ur gf or not. good luck
Okay, bro, you gotta keep it chill. Just go up to her, look her deep in the eyes, and tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. If she seems happy, then you can proceed to ask her out. Suavely stroke your hair, and subtly ask ';So i herd u liek buttsecks?';
maybe she doesnt want to kiss on the first date? just ask her out AFTER the show because if she says no you will be bummed. if you held hands thats good. wait why would you even try to kiss her if you arent even going out?! what is she a whore?
I think she only wants to be your friend but then again i might be wrong since guys and girlz dont really hold hands if there friends so maybe she likes you. Just ask her out and if she says no then who cares go on with life she will still be your friend trust me.
while you were in the theatre yal were holding hands so if she ain't let go of your hand then my guess is that she likes you. I think you should go for it.Let her know what you are about. Or just ask her how she feels about you.
How old are you.
But (Im a girl) When a girl holds a guys hand in that sort of situation, it usually means a crush..
Whats there to loose ask her out..
In person, e-mail/text is a no no.
Hopefully that helped. I've never been asked out. But... lol.
she might not have wanted to kiss you because there were a lot of people around. just go for it! you'll regret it if you don't at least try. good luck :D
flirt some more and then read the signs, like if she flirts back then she likes you but you also cant ever really tell with girls cause she might be shy so you just have to take the chance and aask her out .
well you should probably start off by just asking her what she really thinks about you and if she says that she has feeling that are similar to yours then you can ask her to be ur gf.
well she likes you..i know that if i went with a person to a movie i know that i would have to be interested..id ask her out...
Maybe she is shy and doesn't want to be alone with you. Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090615194451AA8bnSs%26amp;r=w
There's a good chance that she likes you. Make a move and ask her! :)
haha heehehhehahhaha HO
well...seems insecure. i think you should ask her whatever you think you should ask and START OFF SLOW. from holding hands to hugs and then to kisses. she will feel much comfortable by then
go for it :)
she probably is in to it just as much as you are but doesn't want to open up so fast soooo. yeah.
ask her if she's interested in you and if yes ask her.
Sometimes girls need a little time. Wait a little bit and don't go to fast. talking and Communication is the best.
if she went on the date with you then she probably likes you. just go for it and ask her.
stop thinking about it so much, it shows and makes you seem insecure.
Why don't you tell her?
WHat if she dies tomorrow?
(not saying that she will)
What's the worst she can say, no?
Show your love today, man.
Sounds like she's pretty into u! I say go 4 it ! XD good luck!
ask her dont be afraid if she sais know dont get depressed move on.
Go for it!
You have to take chances in life!
well if u really like her u should ask her 2 go out with u
just ask her out and dont seem to ancxious
Advice about a controlling egotistical hubby? Anyone? Guys' especially!!!?
My hubby is the most arrogant controlling man alive I think!! He has to be in charge of EVERYTHING!!! He came in for lunch talking about how his buddies have to have their wives ok everything. He says HE has to control our money b/c he doesn't screw things up! I over drafted once several years ago by mistake and he throws that up in my face anytime I say anything about it. The account is in MY name b/c his crackheaded mother stole his checks once and wrote alot of bad checks. He says he has to control everything b/c HE don't ';screw everything up!'; Everything's always MY fault and if something happens to be his fault,it's b/c of something I DID! We were separated a few years ago,he got a $700 a week meth habbit,blamed ME for it b/c he said he was so worried about me all the time and he didn't want to sleep b/c he ';dreamed'; about me all the time! What a load of sh*t!!!!! He's in collage,makes straight A's,and is a great worker. I'm afraid he's let this go to his head. Everyone tells him how great he is,and he IS a good worker and a smart guy,but he won't act like an *** when everyone else is around and I'm scared nobody will believe me. I was a waitress when we met and although I'm finishing up nursing this fall,he told me I COULD NOT pick up a part time waitressing job b/c......and I quote,';ALL waitresses are bar whores';. Guys (and girls) What is his problem?! Why does he act like this? He told me that right now it's ';his way or the highway';!!! I wish there was a way he could get a big dose of humility! Why is he like this and what can I do to tolerate him. Yes....I love him and he used to not be this way. He's a good guy and I told him he sounds so insecure but of course I';m wrong lol!! Can anyone help me? PLEASE?!Advice about a controlling egotistical hubby? Anyone? Guys' especially!!!?
Are you asking how to change him? Because, you can't. In life, the only people we have the power to change is ourselves. You picked an arrogant, controlling, egotistical man for a husband - too late now! I recommend you start ignoring the behavior you don't like and rewarding the behavior you do like. At least this would make you feel better about yourself.Advice about a controlling egotistical hubby? Anyone? Guys' especially!!!?
His placing the blame on you and your actually accepting it are two different things. Live life the way that you want to and if he doesn't accept that, then it is HIS fault. If one half of the couple refuses to communicate, then the couple as a whole will fail.
You said his mother was a drug addict. That being said he probably had a chaotic childhood. Due to the chaos he is compelled now, to maintain control over everyone and everything. He needs counseling.
Get on the highway as he says. And drive drive drive away. Meth is the end all. Speaking from experience. Open ur own account and realize that there are fantastic people in the world that would not be such a turd.
Gosh, he kind of sounds like a jerk....... I think you need to tell him how he behaves. Treat him the way he treats you- then maybe he will learn the good ol' quote : '; Treat others the way you want to be treated.';
Just tell him that you want some freedom, and discuss it with him, it sounds like he is good at what he does, why do you have to argue, cant you live happy without arguing?? Its not a control game
Can you say..Divorce? Why would you even think of staying with anyone who treated you like this? You need more self-esteem and deserve to be treated with love and respect! Get out before he lays hands on you! It will come!
he is an insecure man... don't take the time to call him a good guy... he is not.
if he wants to be so controlling then let him do it on his own.
he is insecure. anyone who demands control feels out of control. he is a child. good luck.
How much are you willing to put up with? That is the real question.
You need to look up verbal abuse on line. When your husband has no problem running you down, He is the problem. I don't care if he gets straight AA , A lot of people can get good grades, but they don't function well in the real world. I think I would clam up for awhile and, when he asks what wrong. I would tell him your just considering your options. When he asks ';what options'; say ';well you said it's your way or the highway'; and I'm just trying to think if I want to spend the rest of my life Not being allowed to have an opinion. Don't holler at him, just be real aloof. maybe he will start to think of what he stands to loose.
Just remember that verbal abuse often turns into physical abuse. Be careful .
jp
It sounds like he is a very insecure person and to treat you like a third class citizen, it feeds his insecurities, not to mention his ego, he has a need for power and control. As long as you allow him to have power and control over your life he will continue to do as he pleases. He needs a reality check, he gave you an option, ';his way or the highway'; if I were you I'd be on the pavement.
This sounds like a very sick and unhealthy relationship. Can anyone help you? Yes. YOU!
Nobody deserves to put up with this nonsense. He is unstable and has real problems. I bet the ';crackhead mother'; has a lot to do with why he is the way he is (sounds like he has issues with women because of her and he's taking it out on you.)
You need to put an end to this. There is no happily ever after in this situation. He needs serious counseling, and if he won't admit to having a problem in the first place, then nothing is going to change.
I really hope you realize that this is not healthy for you to live with. He's an abuser. Everything is not your fault, and saying it is because of one overdraft many years ago is idiotic. He sounds like he has VERY low self esteem, and makes up for it by belittling you.
STOP BEING HIS EMOTIONAL PUNCHING BAG!
You have job skills, and probably people that will love and support you even if you leave. If not, contact a womens group or shelter.
He is insecure and afraid he will not be able to live up to what everyone is saying. The help you seek must come from within yourself. You need to set some hard boundaries and not let him step over them. Stepping over, just once, that is the end of the relationship. Look at it this way, would you tolerate him having a affair even once, I thought not. That is the way you must view your boundaries. Like they say, men are like buses, there will be another one along in fifteen minutes.
You will be able to replace him faster than he can replace you. Let him know that you are willing to ';Upgrade.';
Dump the druggie and get on with your life. No one needs those kinds of put downson a daily basis. His mother sounds like a piece of work. Get out before you bring your dear children into this mess. You deserve a man who treats you with respect. If you can handle getting a nursing degree, you are NO SLOUCH in the intelligence department! Nurses have a huge amount of knowledge and skill.
Wow! Where does one start? I know! Now, I don't go for the bible thing much anymore but I do remember a lot of things from my earlier days. Some things are just universal and good rule. The bible says ';Wives obey your husbands';. Now, most people stop there (It's been used by men against women for years) but, read on. ';Husbands LOVE your wives';. Does it make you feel loved when he treats you like this? Is it really ';My way or the highway';? That doesn't sound like he loves you. You were seperated before and he behaved like a weak irresposnible child. He blamed his meth addiction on you?!!! Seriously?!! As for your feelings for him, I don't think it's love as much as it is hope and being used to him. You HOPE he'll stop treating you like this. You hope he'll be like he used to when you fell in love with him. You hope he won't murder you if you leave him. This is NOT a healthy relationship if it truly is how you described it. Life is too LONG to live as a slave and in humiliation. He doesn't take responsibility for his failures but takes all the glory if something goes right. One more thing. Not ALL waitresses are bar whores. Your husband is an ***. You should seriously consider getting counseling and out of this relationship for your safety.
Some women need a controlling man. My ex actually preferred that since she wasn't intelligent and had a hard time making decisions.
Are you asking how to change him? Because, you can't. In life, the only people we have the power to change is ourselves. You picked an arrogant, controlling, egotistical man for a husband - too late now! I recommend you start ignoring the behavior you don't like and rewarding the behavior you do like. At least this would make you feel better about yourself.Advice about a controlling egotistical hubby? Anyone? Guys' especially!!!?
His placing the blame on you and your actually accepting it are two different things. Live life the way that you want to and if he doesn't accept that, then it is HIS fault. If one half of the couple refuses to communicate, then the couple as a whole will fail.
You said his mother was a drug addict. That being said he probably had a chaotic childhood. Due to the chaos he is compelled now, to maintain control over everyone and everything. He needs counseling.
Get on the highway as he says. And drive drive drive away. Meth is the end all. Speaking from experience. Open ur own account and realize that there are fantastic people in the world that would not be such a turd.
Gosh, he kind of sounds like a jerk....... I think you need to tell him how he behaves. Treat him the way he treats you- then maybe he will learn the good ol' quote : '; Treat others the way you want to be treated.';
Just tell him that you want some freedom, and discuss it with him, it sounds like he is good at what he does, why do you have to argue, cant you live happy without arguing?? Its not a control game
Can you say..Divorce? Why would you even think of staying with anyone who treated you like this? You need more self-esteem and deserve to be treated with love and respect! Get out before he lays hands on you! It will come!
he is an insecure man... don't take the time to call him a good guy... he is not.
if he wants to be so controlling then let him do it on his own.
he is insecure. anyone who demands control feels out of control. he is a child. good luck.
How much are you willing to put up with? That is the real question.
You need to look up verbal abuse on line. When your husband has no problem running you down, He is the problem. I don't care if he gets straight AA , A lot of people can get good grades, but they don't function well in the real world. I think I would clam up for awhile and, when he asks what wrong. I would tell him your just considering your options. When he asks ';what options'; say ';well you said it's your way or the highway'; and I'm just trying to think if I want to spend the rest of my life Not being allowed to have an opinion. Don't holler at him, just be real aloof. maybe he will start to think of what he stands to loose.
Just remember that verbal abuse often turns into physical abuse. Be careful .
jp
It sounds like he is a very insecure person and to treat you like a third class citizen, it feeds his insecurities, not to mention his ego, he has a need for power and control. As long as you allow him to have power and control over your life he will continue to do as he pleases. He needs a reality check, he gave you an option, ';his way or the highway'; if I were you I'd be on the pavement.
This sounds like a very sick and unhealthy relationship. Can anyone help you? Yes. YOU!
Nobody deserves to put up with this nonsense. He is unstable and has real problems. I bet the ';crackhead mother'; has a lot to do with why he is the way he is (sounds like he has issues with women because of her and he's taking it out on you.)
You need to put an end to this. There is no happily ever after in this situation. He needs serious counseling, and if he won't admit to having a problem in the first place, then nothing is going to change.
I really hope you realize that this is not healthy for you to live with. He's an abuser. Everything is not your fault, and saying it is because of one overdraft many years ago is idiotic. He sounds like he has VERY low self esteem, and makes up for it by belittling you.
STOP BEING HIS EMOTIONAL PUNCHING BAG!
You have job skills, and probably people that will love and support you even if you leave. If not, contact a womens group or shelter.
He is insecure and afraid he will not be able to live up to what everyone is saying. The help you seek must come from within yourself. You need to set some hard boundaries and not let him step over them. Stepping over, just once, that is the end of the relationship. Look at it this way, would you tolerate him having a affair even once, I thought not. That is the way you must view your boundaries. Like they say, men are like buses, there will be another one along in fifteen minutes.
You will be able to replace him faster than he can replace you. Let him know that you are willing to ';Upgrade.';
Dump the druggie and get on with your life. No one needs those kinds of put downson a daily basis. His mother sounds like a piece of work. Get out before you bring your dear children into this mess. You deserve a man who treats you with respect. If you can handle getting a nursing degree, you are NO SLOUCH in the intelligence department! Nurses have a huge amount of knowledge and skill.
Wow! Where does one start? I know! Now, I don't go for the bible thing much anymore but I do remember a lot of things from my earlier days. Some things are just universal and good rule. The bible says ';Wives obey your husbands';. Now, most people stop there (It's been used by men against women for years) but, read on. ';Husbands LOVE your wives';. Does it make you feel loved when he treats you like this? Is it really ';My way or the highway';? That doesn't sound like he loves you. You were seperated before and he behaved like a weak irresposnible child. He blamed his meth addiction on you?!!! Seriously?!! As for your feelings for him, I don't think it's love as much as it is hope and being used to him. You HOPE he'll stop treating you like this. You hope he'll be like he used to when you fell in love with him. You hope he won't murder you if you leave him. This is NOT a healthy relationship if it truly is how you described it. Life is too LONG to live as a slave and in humiliation. He doesn't take responsibility for his failures but takes all the glory if something goes right. One more thing. Not ALL waitresses are bar whores. Your husband is an ***. You should seriously consider getting counseling and out of this relationship for your safety.
Some women need a controlling man. My ex actually preferred that since she wasn't intelligent and had a hard time making decisions.
Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
i am a 23 year old muslim male living in usa, and this girl who is almost 22 living in bangladesh, we r deeply in love with each other. we really want each other but unforetunetly she got nikah (married) not willingly with someone else, and now after 2 weeks she has to leave her house officially. and stay at her the new place. she is going crazy, she wants to be with me and i am going crazy as well, but we dont know what to do now, if we elope that would hurt our families, and its bound with family respects and all, but we cant live without each other thats for sure, now what can we do, what can i do. i have no idea, so plzz guys help me out give me ur best thoughts to overcome this nightmare.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
Married is married, willing or not. She is off limits now.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
have you ever met? face to face? do you know her personally, or over the internet?
unless you have a deep personal real life relationship with her, then please for your and her sake, let it go.
If you truly know each other, having actually met and spent real time (not internet time) together then you will have to either honor your and her traditions or forsake them.
I'm guessing that at the young ages you are both at, it would be best to let it go. Stop all contact for the sake of both of your emotional well-being. She cannot try to make a life if she is contacting you or if you are contacting her. You will not be able to mourn the relationship and move on if you are continuing to spend time with her in any way.
As a Muslim man you are bound by honor to do the right thing and look at the big picture.
To overcome the sadness, volunteer somewhere that gives you a sense of doing something positive. Do not focus on the ';what if's'; or the ';if onlys'; that will only bring you grief.
Move on....
It's hard, but it's the right thing to do.
Marriage is sacred.
If you dishonor her or if she dishonors her vows or her life she has, what sort of future would either of you have?
It will be hard, but you will have peace and pride in yourself knowing that you did the right thing.
Blessings to you....
pal you got problems where she.s married try going to miami you both my opion?
My friend...Listen to me carefully...This matter is not one to be dealt with lightly. It appears that the two of you love one another and you are in a great deal of pain dealing with her current situation.
The fact that she's in Bangladesh and you're here in the states make your situation difficult at best. I ask that you respect the tradition and wishes of her country and parents ';for now';...Honor the rich history surrounding this event in which she has entered. You must allow her to move forward...yes...Move forward with this arrangement. No were in your message did you say that she was willing to forsake her family for the rest of her life. So given this absolute, I must assume that she loves you but isn't willing to go against the traditional cultural arrangement of her native land.
Please give this matter some time...You're both so young and I do know that you care for this young woman. I'm not sure of how long you've been in this country or if you're native to the US but one things for sure, know what it is that you're messing with here. You need to do some soul searching and grow some more...don't look at her situation as out dated or behind the times...for the tradition of Nikah has existed for centuries.
Give it time okay......and...If you truly love her, you MUST give her some room...that means stay away, no contact...Give her time to adjust to this arrangement. If she wants to be with you and only you, then she'll need to make the decision...Not YOU...but...make no mistake about it...Her family will disown her for her actions...So tread carefully through these murky waters my friend.
Good luck
If you want to stay 'married' to your family then do nothing, pal!
If you want to still abide to ancient %26amp; foreign customs while residing in the US - well that's your problem.
Ask some cleric of your own faith to give you a solution.
Ever read ';Romeo %26amp; Juliet?'; Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. tell the family to goto hell and go get her dude.
well you guys are in deep situation this is really bad, i feel bad for you guys. well i dont think you guys have any options, but if you guys really want each other you guys have to sacrifice something either familiy or either each other, its upto you, but if u cant live without each other than i say stand for your love, for your life and get marrie and enjoy life, take care and good luck.
Married is married, willing or not. She is off limits now.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
have you ever met? face to face? do you know her personally, or over the internet?
unless you have a deep personal real life relationship with her, then please for your and her sake, let it go.
If you truly know each other, having actually met and spent real time (not internet time) together then you will have to either honor your and her traditions or forsake them.
I'm guessing that at the young ages you are both at, it would be best to let it go. Stop all contact for the sake of both of your emotional well-being. She cannot try to make a life if she is contacting you or if you are contacting her. You will not be able to mourn the relationship and move on if you are continuing to spend time with her in any way.
As a Muslim man you are bound by honor to do the right thing and look at the big picture.
To overcome the sadness, volunteer somewhere that gives you a sense of doing something positive. Do not focus on the ';what if's'; or the ';if onlys'; that will only bring you grief.
Move on....
It's hard, but it's the right thing to do.
Marriage is sacred.
If you dishonor her or if she dishonors her vows or her life she has, what sort of future would either of you have?
It will be hard, but you will have peace and pride in yourself knowing that you did the right thing.
Blessings to you....
pal you got problems where she.s married try going to miami you both my opion?
My friend...Listen to me carefully...This matter is not one to be dealt with lightly. It appears that the two of you love one another and you are in a great deal of pain dealing with her current situation.
The fact that she's in Bangladesh and you're here in the states make your situation difficult at best. I ask that you respect the tradition and wishes of her country and parents ';for now';...Honor the rich history surrounding this event in which she has entered. You must allow her to move forward...yes...Move forward with this arrangement. No were in your message did you say that she was willing to forsake her family for the rest of her life. So given this absolute, I must assume that she loves you but isn't willing to go against the traditional cultural arrangement of her native land.
Please give this matter some time...You're both so young and I do know that you care for this young woman. I'm not sure of how long you've been in this country or if you're native to the US but one things for sure, know what it is that you're messing with here. You need to do some soul searching and grow some more...don't look at her situation as out dated or behind the times...for the tradition of Nikah has existed for centuries.
Give it time okay......and...If you truly love her, you MUST give her some room...that means stay away, no contact...Give her time to adjust to this arrangement. If she wants to be with you and only you, then she'll need to make the decision...Not YOU...but...make no mistake about it...Her family will disown her for her actions...So tread carefully through these murky waters my friend.
Good luck
If you want to stay 'married' to your family then do nothing, pal!
If you want to still abide to ancient %26amp; foreign customs while residing in the US - well that's your problem.
Ask some cleric of your own faith to give you a solution.
Ever read ';Romeo %26amp; Juliet?'; Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. tell the family to goto hell and go get her dude.
well you guys are in deep situation this is really bad, i feel bad for you guys. well i dont think you guys have any options, but if you guys really want each other you guys have to sacrifice something either familiy or either each other, its upto you, but if u cant live without each other than i say stand for your love, for your life and get marrie and enjoy life, take care and good luck.
ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!! GIRLS would you be offended? GUYS should I do this??
I went on a casual informal first date with a girl I never met from my college. It went well and she IMed me and said we should hang out again. I called her and asked her to dinner and she said yes. We went to dinner and had a good time again. I didnt kiss her or anything because I wanted her to feel more comfortable with me. I can tell that she definitely likes me though. Were going on a third date in a few days to a scenic area. I really like her and I want to kiss her at the top of the mountain. Is this out of line on a third date? Girls would you be offended?ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!! GIRLS would you be offended? GUYS should I do this??
its the third date right? i think it would be ok. its good that you care what she wants and don't just assume she's ok with it. good luck with her, and rock on! =)ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!! GIRLS would you be offended? GUYS should I do this??
Kissing on the third date is totally fine. But dont go overboard ..if you know what i mean ;-]
No i wouldnt be offended at all, i would definitely kiss back and at the top of the mountain is a perfect spot and the perfect time....it would be so romantic, atleast to me it would be. I think you will be fine and it wont be out of line. good luck and dont worry, she'll like it.
i personally think its soo romantic to kiss a girl at the top of the mountain on ur 3rd date. =)
no i wouldnt be offended god me and my bf made out the second day =p maybe just a peck incase she doesnt want the make out thing yet or just kiss her cheek
i think you can always gave it a chance if you have been on 3 dates already im sure if you think you the kiss me vibe go for it
I say you should DEFINATELY kiss. I f she likes then you know it is ok to kiss her. But if she does not then just lay off. Oh and just give her a little kiss on the cheek. I would not be offended by this.
no. as your walking hold her hand.if she doesnt move it or pull away then you got the green light.
if she's really into you, and you like her, WHO CARES! you want to give her a kiss, GO FOR IT! third date is fine (i kissed my girlfriend on our first date, but then agian, i dont like to follow the rules, and she loved it) . word of advice though, dont take it further than a kiss. reason being is because, it'll build up anticipation and romance. it'll make her want more. keep it cool 'till your sixth date.
Good Luck!
3rd date, not at all offended. she is still dating you so she must feel something for you. Give it a try, it sounds very romantic.
Kiss her earlier or the cheek or something and if she doesn't mind then go right ahead
in my opinion i think that is real romantic.but be a gentleman ask her if it would be ok if you kiss her.she probably wants to kiss you too but is waiting for you to make the first move. good luck.
I think you should definately move in for the kiss. Choose your moment well and move slow. I hope all goes well.
John, if the moment is right you will know it... don't stress so much about it... years from now your going to get a good laugh out of this... silly
if i liked someone and some kissed me i woulnd't be offended... i would take him to the bedroom lol
Of course we would not. That is so romantic.
GO FOR IT! she will absolutly love it. that is so sweet.
if she really likes you then just go for it. but if it seems like she just wants to get over a guy, or just wants something like maybe a one night stand. then just leave her.
It would be romantic. Not offensive
no that would be so romantic!!!
its the third date right? i think it would be ok. its good that you care what she wants and don't just assume she's ok with it. good luck with her, and rock on! =)ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!! GIRLS would you be offended? GUYS should I do this??
Kissing on the third date is totally fine. But dont go overboard ..if you know what i mean ;-]
No i wouldnt be offended at all, i would definitely kiss back and at the top of the mountain is a perfect spot and the perfect time....it would be so romantic, atleast to me it would be. I think you will be fine and it wont be out of line. good luck and dont worry, she'll like it.
i personally think its soo romantic to kiss a girl at the top of the mountain on ur 3rd date. =)
no i wouldnt be offended god me and my bf made out the second day =p maybe just a peck incase she doesnt want the make out thing yet or just kiss her cheek
i think you can always gave it a chance if you have been on 3 dates already im sure if you think you the kiss me vibe go for it
I say you should DEFINATELY kiss. I f she likes then you know it is ok to kiss her. But if she does not then just lay off. Oh and just give her a little kiss on the cheek. I would not be offended by this.
no. as your walking hold her hand.if she doesnt move it or pull away then you got the green light.
if she's really into you, and you like her, WHO CARES! you want to give her a kiss, GO FOR IT! third date is fine (i kissed my girlfriend on our first date, but then agian, i dont like to follow the rules, and she loved it) . word of advice though, dont take it further than a kiss. reason being is because, it'll build up anticipation and romance. it'll make her want more. keep it cool 'till your sixth date.
Good Luck!
3rd date, not at all offended. she is still dating you so she must feel something for you. Give it a try, it sounds very romantic.
Kiss her earlier or the cheek or something and if she doesn't mind then go right ahead
in my opinion i think that is real romantic.but be a gentleman ask her if it would be ok if you kiss her.she probably wants to kiss you too but is waiting for you to make the first move. good luck.
I think you should definately move in for the kiss. Choose your moment well and move slow. I hope all goes well.
John, if the moment is right you will know it... don't stress so much about it... years from now your going to get a good laugh out of this... silly
if i liked someone and some kissed me i woulnd't be offended... i would take him to the bedroom lol
Of course we would not. That is so romantic.
GO FOR IT! she will absolutly love it. that is so sweet.
if she really likes you then just go for it. but if it seems like she just wants to get over a guy, or just wants something like maybe a one night stand. then just leave her.
It would be romantic. Not offensive
no that would be so romantic!!!
Advice about my future friend with benefits? guys answer too and see what you'd want a girl to tell?
my best friend, guy of course, has never made out and just confessed this to me the other day. I have so and wished I had had a guy best friend i couldve ';practiced on'; and so i asked if he wanted me to help him out ;) you know friends with benefits kind of thing. this guy and i's relationship has been always flirty, like we're the flirty best friends. there's always been some kind of chemistry there. so i know for a fact that it wont be awkward. and i also know that it wont ruin our friendship because at the same time we're so close. I'm basically teaching him how to make out so what kind of things should i say to him, advice, and what kind of things should i do, as in just show him how to makeout period or should i like tell him and show him what turns girls on, you know ext. making out advice and kissing please.Advice about my future friend with benefits? guys answer too and see what you'd want a girl to tell?
thats the sluttiest thing I ever heard.Advice about my future friend with benefits? guys answer too and see what you'd want a girl to tell?
its not slutty, you just dont want to be lonely, tell him all the stuff, but you guys will probably have sex very soon
okay your discusting and you keep this in mind and you tell him don't start liking men cause you both are going to go to hell
haha wow ok... well first off i think that makin out with him is gonna effect your friendship more than you think..i mean you already said that there was chemistry there and i think if yall start makin out, you wont be able 2 control that ';natural chemistry'; and not sayin thats a bad thing, but its gona totally effect your friendship, so you should be aware of that goin in 2 this. becuz ive been ther, ive dont that, an you knw wat, it effected my friendship with the guy big time!! but ur probly gona go thru with this anyway, so advice on makin out. keep it very friend like, i mean dont show him how 2 turn girls on, becuz then you'll get turned on and then things will just go downhill from there lol. so keep the makin out ';G'; rated lol. also i mean you gota consider how hes gona look at this '; makin out lesson'; 2. i mean what if he discovers that he likes you? then what are you gonna do? its just alot 2 think about it, and it WILL effect your relationship, becuz maken out is alot more serious than just flirten.. so either way good luck with your situation, i hope everything works out 4 the best:)
thats the sluttiest thing I ever heard.Advice about my future friend with benefits? guys answer too and see what you'd want a girl to tell?
its not slutty, you just dont want to be lonely, tell him all the stuff, but you guys will probably have sex very soon
okay your discusting and you keep this in mind and you tell him don't start liking men cause you both are going to go to hell
haha wow ok... well first off i think that makin out with him is gonna effect your friendship more than you think..i mean you already said that there was chemistry there and i think if yall start makin out, you wont be able 2 control that ';natural chemistry'; and not sayin thats a bad thing, but its gona totally effect your friendship, so you should be aware of that goin in 2 this. becuz ive been ther, ive dont that, an you knw wat, it effected my friendship with the guy big time!! but ur probly gona go thru with this anyway, so advice on makin out. keep it very friend like, i mean dont show him how 2 turn girls on, becuz then you'll get turned on and then things will just go downhill from there lol. so keep the makin out ';G'; rated lol. also i mean you gota consider how hes gona look at this '; makin out lesson'; 2. i mean what if he discovers that he likes you? then what are you gonna do? its just alot 2 think about it, and it WILL effect your relationship, becuz maken out is alot more serious than just flirten.. so either way good luck with your situation, i hope everything works out 4 the best:)
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