My boyfriend loves to make jokes and sometime i dont exactly find his jokes to be very funny...for instance he'll say we're not dating if i bring up a memory and atart it with since we've been together... He also doesn't tell me he misses me and he loves me as much as he used to. Could this be because he doesn't anymore or just to keep me interested?Guys plz... all ur answers welcome girls i need serious advice?
Not knowing the guy it's hard to say for sure. However, I would guess that he doesn't know the jokes are hurting your feelings (which you need to tell him) and the i-love-yous and whatever is because he's gotten comfortable with you and doesn't feel the need to prove it anymore. So if these are the only things wrong I would try not to worry. HOWEVER. If there are other things wrong too then these things can be a symptom. Basically, by themselves they're not a big deal, but compounded with things like being more distant, breaking plans, not wanting to see you as much, just acting weird around you, picking fights, staying angry longer, etc...be careful.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Guys? Gurls? please read this and give me some advice please!?
Okey so i hang around a lot of juniors and im a freshman girl. and they are all guys. but they are the goood kind of people. THey get good grades, they are very kind, they treat me with the utmost respect and they are sooo nice. I feel i should be hanging out with people my own age but they are soo nice i dont want to not be friends with them. they make me feel special and good about myself. I feel that im rly cool to hang out with the older kids. not like it makes a difference but it really makes me feel good. but i like hanging around them. SHould i hang out with people my own age? i have girls that i hang around that are my own age but guyS? And what if i develop a crush on one of these guys???? help pleaseGuys? Gurls? please read this and give me some advice please!?
Well, you don always haf to hang out with them, maybe a lil mix because i do that sometimes and hang out with sophmores and seniors when i was a freshmen. now i am a junior and i hang aroun with both upper and lower class to get to know everyone in each grade. I can help them and the upper class can help me. So depends on you, if you want to stay with the juniors, you should have some of your girls hang out with you, either way, you can decide on what is better for you..
Well, you don always haf to hang out with them, maybe a lil mix because i do that sometimes and hang out with sophmores and seniors when i was a freshmen. now i am a junior and i hang aroun with both upper and lower class to get to know everyone in each grade. I can help them and the upper class can help me. So depends on you, if you want to stay with the juniors, you should have some of your girls hang out with you, either way, you can decide on what is better for you..
Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
On our date he asked me if I think he is more interesting now than 3 days ago when we met in the club.
Is he asking me if I am interested in him? Or is it something else?
What do u think?
I know I posted this question before but I only got 1 response. I need more.
Thanks.Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
well it seems he is asking if you like him... He wants to know if you acutally like his personality or if you dont want to talk to him anymore. I think you should tell him how you feel so he knows because he is definitely interested. It seems like he wants to know if he is boring you or if you enjoy talking/hanging out with him.Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
yes simply he is..
Seems to me that this guy is insecure if he is seeking your approval so openly as that, rather like a small child who needs assurance from his mother that he is a good boy.
he is just asking if you are more into him then when you first met
like do you think ';it'; is going somewhere
hmm.. i think he is interested in you. :)
yes I think he does
Well since it's your first date, he is probably asking how he did. You were able to get to know him more so he is asking how you think of him and if your interested or not.
Is he asking me if I am interested in him? Or is it something else?
What do u think?
I know I posted this question before but I only got 1 response. I need more.
Thanks.Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
well it seems he is asking if you like him... He wants to know if you acutally like his personality or if you dont want to talk to him anymore. I think you should tell him how you feel so he knows because he is definitely interested. It seems like he wants to know if he is boring you or if you enjoy talking/hanging out with him.Guys: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?10 POINTS FOR UR ADVICE! PLEASE HELP!!!?
yes simply he is..
Seems to me that this guy is insecure if he is seeking your approval so openly as that, rather like a small child who needs assurance from his mother that he is a good boy.
he is just asking if you are more into him then when you first met
like do you think ';it'; is going somewhere
hmm.. i think he is interested in you. :)
yes I think he does
Well since it's your first date, he is probably asking how he did. You were able to get to know him more so he is asking how you think of him and if your interested or not.
Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
i am a 23 year old muslim male living in usa, and this girl who is almost 22 living in bangladesh, we r deeply in love with each other. we really want each other but unforetunetly she got nikah (married) not willingly with someone else, and now after 2 weeks she has to leave her house officially. and stay at her the new place. she is going crazy, she wants to be with me and i am going crazy as well, but we dont know what to do now, if we elope that would hurt our families, and its bound with family respects and all, but we cant live without each other thats for sure, now what can we do, what can i do. i have no idea, so plzz guys help me out give me ur best thoughts to overcome this nightmare.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
Married is married, willing or not. She is off limits now.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
have you ever met? face to face? do you know her personally, or over the internet?
unless you have a deep personal real life relationship with her, then please for your and her sake, let it go.
If you truly know each other, having actually met and spent real time (not internet time) together then you will have to either honor your and her traditions or forsake them.
I'm guessing that at the young ages you are both at, it would be best to let it go. Stop all contact for the sake of both of your emotional well-being. She cannot try to make a life if she is contacting you or if you are contacting her. You will not be able to mourn the relationship and move on if you are continuing to spend time with her in any way.
As a Muslim man you are bound by honor to do the right thing and look at the big picture.
To overcome the sadness, volunteer somewhere that gives you a sense of doing something positive. Do not focus on the ';what if's'; or the ';if onlys'; that will only bring you grief.
Move on....
It's hard, but it's the right thing to do.
Marriage is sacred.
If you dishonor her or if she dishonors her vows or her life she has, what sort of future would either of you have?
It will be hard, but you will have peace and pride in yourself knowing that you did the right thing.
Blessings to you....
pal you got problems where she.s married try going to miami you both my opion?
My friend...Listen to me carefully...This matter is not one to be dealt with lightly. It appears that the two of you love one another and you are in a great deal of pain dealing with her current situation.
The fact that she's in Bangladesh and you're here in the states make your situation difficult at best. I ask that you respect the tradition and wishes of her country and parents ';for now';...Honor the rich history surrounding this event in which she has entered. You must allow her to move forward...yes...Move forward with this arrangement. No were in your message did you say that she was willing to forsake her family for the rest of her life. So given this absolute, I must assume that she loves you but isn't willing to go against the traditional cultural arrangement of her native land.
Please give this matter some time...You're both so young and I do know that you care for this young woman. I'm not sure of how long you've been in this country or if you're native to the US but one things for sure, know what it is that you're messing with here. You need to do some soul searching and grow some more...don't look at her situation as out dated or behind the times...for the tradition of Nikah has existed for centuries.
Give it time okay......and...If you truly love her, you MUST give her some room...that means stay away, no contact...Give her time to adjust to this arrangement. If she wants to be with you and only you, then she'll need to make the decision...Not YOU...but...make no mistake about it...Her family will disown her for her actions...So tread carefully through these murky waters my friend.
Good luck
If you want to stay 'married' to your family then do nothing, pal!
If you want to still abide to ancient %26amp; foreign customs while residing in the US - well that's your problem.
Ask some cleric of your own faith to give you a solution.
Ever read ';Romeo %26amp; Juliet?'; Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. tell the family to goto hell and go get her dude.
well you guys are in deep situation this is really bad, i feel bad for you guys. well i dont think you guys have any options, but if you guys really want each other you guys have to sacrifice something either familiy or either each other, its upto you, but if u cant live without each other than i say stand for your love, for your life and get marrie and enjoy life, take care and good luck.
Married is married, willing or not. She is off limits now.Moment of truth, guys we are at last stage, help me out with positive or negative advice?
have you ever met? face to face? do you know her personally, or over the internet?
unless you have a deep personal real life relationship with her, then please for your and her sake, let it go.
If you truly know each other, having actually met and spent real time (not internet time) together then you will have to either honor your and her traditions or forsake them.
I'm guessing that at the young ages you are both at, it would be best to let it go. Stop all contact for the sake of both of your emotional well-being. She cannot try to make a life if she is contacting you or if you are contacting her. You will not be able to mourn the relationship and move on if you are continuing to spend time with her in any way.
As a Muslim man you are bound by honor to do the right thing and look at the big picture.
To overcome the sadness, volunteer somewhere that gives you a sense of doing something positive. Do not focus on the ';what if's'; or the ';if onlys'; that will only bring you grief.
Move on....
It's hard, but it's the right thing to do.
Marriage is sacred.
If you dishonor her or if she dishonors her vows or her life she has, what sort of future would either of you have?
It will be hard, but you will have peace and pride in yourself knowing that you did the right thing.
Blessings to you....
pal you got problems where she.s married try going to miami you both my opion?
My friend...Listen to me carefully...This matter is not one to be dealt with lightly. It appears that the two of you love one another and you are in a great deal of pain dealing with her current situation.
The fact that she's in Bangladesh and you're here in the states make your situation difficult at best. I ask that you respect the tradition and wishes of her country and parents ';for now';...Honor the rich history surrounding this event in which she has entered. You must allow her to move forward...yes...Move forward with this arrangement. No were in your message did you say that she was willing to forsake her family for the rest of her life. So given this absolute, I must assume that she loves you but isn't willing to go against the traditional cultural arrangement of her native land.
Please give this matter some time...You're both so young and I do know that you care for this young woman. I'm not sure of how long you've been in this country or if you're native to the US but one things for sure, know what it is that you're messing with here. You need to do some soul searching and grow some more...don't look at her situation as out dated or behind the times...for the tradition of Nikah has existed for centuries.
Give it time okay......and...If you truly love her, you MUST give her some room...that means stay away, no contact...Give her time to adjust to this arrangement. If she wants to be with you and only you, then she'll need to make the decision...Not YOU...but...make no mistake about it...Her family will disown her for her actions...So tread carefully through these murky waters my friend.
Good luck
If you want to stay 'married' to your family then do nothing, pal!
If you want to still abide to ancient %26amp; foreign customs while residing in the US - well that's your problem.
Ask some cleric of your own faith to give you a solution.
Ever read ';Romeo %26amp; Juliet?'; Well, I wouldn't go THAT far. tell the family to goto hell and go get her dude.
well you guys are in deep situation this is really bad, i feel bad for you guys. well i dont think you guys have any options, but if you guys really want each other you guys have to sacrifice something either familiy or either each other, its upto you, but if u cant live without each other than i say stand for your love, for your life and get marrie and enjoy life, take care and good luck.
Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
I like this girl, we went out on our first date but she didn't want to come alone, she came with some friends, same as me! we hold hands in the theatre but she didn't want a kiss or anything like that! I really like this girl but I don't know, it's like I have to say hello every time I see her in messenger and stuff... I say like '; your really pretty in this pic and she's like ';Thank youuu XD'; so I don't know. I want to make her my girlfriend this upcoming friday that I'm gonna play with my band! Right before I get on stage or after! but I don't know if she is that interested in me or I don't know... I don't wanna screw things up with her or anything because i really like her, she does want to go out with me again but I'm confused, should I ask her to be my girlfriend, or ask her if she is interested the same as me?
some tips please!
Thanks to all in Advance!Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
Hey:)
First off i'm a girl and I really like this guy who does the same stuff you do to me. He always tells me I'm pretty in my pictures and in person. I always just say thanks because I never know how to answer showing how I really feel. If this girl hung out with you with her friends she probably does like you ad she's just nervous. Try not going to such a public place for the first time that way she won't be embarrassed around strangers. I think you should tell her that you like her first (not ask her out right away) Then she can tell you how she feels. Maybe she feels the same way. I wish the guy I liked would just tell me he liked me. So i'm sure she likes you, any guy who flatters a girl will make a girl happy. She is probably just to shy to express her emotions.Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
No offense, but it is no use fretting about it. If she wants to go out with you again, it is likely she likes you a bit. Ask her out to some places and get to know her better if you like. I think you should ask her out though, I mean, there's no harm in trying. If she says know, it doesn't mean you can't still be friends. If she tells you that she doesn't want to be your friend after you ask her out, then she isn't really worth the time.
Just ask her if she is interested! From the way you describe it, it seems like she does like you, and if she wants to go on another date then go for it! Just because you didnt kiss on your first date doesnt mean that she doesnt like you it just means that she was unsure and didnt know enough about you! Go for it!
go ahead ask her and I would do it after u go on stage with yur band
if she says no then tell her it's alright maybe it would just be better if we were friends act strong it will be ok there are plenty of girls out there and one is bound to like you maybe that girl isn't the one
I Wish You Luck Though
:D
ask her to be your girlfriend. shes probably the conservative shy kind that doesnt always kiss on the first date. if you really feel that she likes you...GO FOR IT! if you dont your gonna be stuck with ';if then maybes'; seriously dude ask her. even if she says no? whoooo cares? theres PLEEENTY of fish in the sea
you're rushing.
just take it a little bit slower.
talk to her a lot. and start callingheron the phone.
do not let the phone calls get awkward.
make her laugh A LOT.
and then in about a couple of weeks, if it seemslike shelikes you, ask her.
then wait a couple days and ask her out.
she didn't want to kiss because it was too soon.
=)
hope I helped!
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Hmm..does seem a lil confusing. It could mean anything but if shes willing to hold your hand than she must be interested. Next time u take her out make sure its just u 2. Dont bring friends along cuz that just shows that u guys are really nervous and scared. I say let her know how u feel and see what she says and base that on wanting to make her ur gf or not. good luck
Okay, bro, you gotta keep it chill. Just go up to her, look her deep in the eyes, and tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. If she seems happy, then you can proceed to ask her out. Suavely stroke your hair, and subtly ask ';So i herd u liek buttsecks?';
maybe she doesnt want to kiss on the first date? just ask her out AFTER the show because if she says no you will be bummed. if you held hands thats good. wait why would you even try to kiss her if you arent even going out?! what is she a whore?
I think she only wants to be your friend but then again i might be wrong since guys and girlz dont really hold hands if there friends so maybe she likes you. Just ask her out and if she says no then who cares go on with life she will still be your friend trust me.
while you were in the theatre yal were holding hands so if she ain't let go of your hand then my guess is that she likes you. I think you should go for it.Let her know what you are about. Or just ask her how she feels about you.
How old are you.
But (Im a girl) When a girl holds a guys hand in that sort of situation, it usually means a crush..
Whats there to loose ask her out..
In person, e-mail/text is a no no.
Hopefully that helped. I've never been asked out. But... lol.
she might not have wanted to kiss you because there were a lot of people around. just go for it! you'll regret it if you don't at least try. good luck :D
flirt some more and then read the signs, like if she flirts back then she likes you but you also cant ever really tell with girls cause she might be shy so you just have to take the chance and aask her out .
well you should probably start off by just asking her what she really thinks about you and if she says that she has feeling that are similar to yours then you can ask her to be ur gf.
well she likes you..i know that if i went with a person to a movie i know that i would have to be interested..id ask her out...
Maybe she is shy and doesn't want to be alone with you. Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090615194451AA8bnSs%26amp;r=w
There's a good chance that she likes you. Make a move and ask her! :)
haha heehehhehahhaha HO
well...seems insecure. i think you should ask her whatever you think you should ask and START OFF SLOW. from holding hands to hugs and then to kisses. she will feel much comfortable by then
go for it :)
she probably is in to it just as much as you are but doesn't want to open up so fast soooo. yeah.
ask her if she's interested in you and if yes ask her.
Sometimes girls need a little time. Wait a little bit and don't go to fast. talking and Communication is the best.
if she went on the date with you then she probably likes you. just go for it and ask her.
stop thinking about it so much, it shows and makes you seem insecure.
Why don't you tell her?
WHat if she dies tomorrow?
(not saying that she will)
What's the worst she can say, no?
Show your love today, man.
Sounds like she's pretty into u! I say go 4 it ! XD good luck!
ask her dont be afraid if she sais know dont get depressed move on.
Go for it!
You have to take chances in life!
well if u really like her u should ask her 2 go out with u
just ask her out and dont seem to ancxious
some tips please!
Thanks to all in Advance!Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
Hey:)
First off i'm a girl and I really like this guy who does the same stuff you do to me. He always tells me I'm pretty in my pictures and in person. I always just say thanks because I never know how to answer showing how I really feel. If this girl hung out with you with her friends she probably does like you ad she's just nervous. Try not going to such a public place for the first time that way she won't be embarrassed around strangers. I think you should tell her that you like her first (not ask her out right away) Then she can tell you how she feels. Maybe she feels the same way. I wish the guy I liked would just tell me he liked me. So i'm sure she likes you, any guy who flatters a girl will make a girl happy. She is probably just to shy to express her emotions.Advice on This Girl I Really Like! Guys and Girls Help?
No offense, but it is no use fretting about it. If she wants to go out with you again, it is likely she likes you a bit. Ask her out to some places and get to know her better if you like. I think you should ask her out though, I mean, there's no harm in trying. If she says know, it doesn't mean you can't still be friends. If she tells you that she doesn't want to be your friend after you ask her out, then she isn't really worth the time.
Just ask her if she is interested! From the way you describe it, it seems like she does like you, and if she wants to go on another date then go for it! Just because you didnt kiss on your first date doesnt mean that she doesnt like you it just means that she was unsure and didnt know enough about you! Go for it!
go ahead ask her and I would do it after u go on stage with yur band
if she says no then tell her it's alright maybe it would just be better if we were friends act strong it will be ok there are plenty of girls out there and one is bound to like you maybe that girl isn't the one
I Wish You Luck Though
:D
ask her to be your girlfriend. shes probably the conservative shy kind that doesnt always kiss on the first date. if you really feel that she likes you...GO FOR IT! if you dont your gonna be stuck with ';if then maybes'; seriously dude ask her. even if she says no? whoooo cares? theres PLEEENTY of fish in the sea
you're rushing.
just take it a little bit slower.
talk to her a lot. and start callingheron the phone.
do not let the phone calls get awkward.
make her laugh A LOT.
and then in about a couple of weeks, if it seemslike shelikes you, ask her.
then wait a couple days and ask her out.
she didn't want to kiss because it was too soon.
=)
hope I helped!
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Hmm..does seem a lil confusing. It could mean anything but if shes willing to hold your hand than she must be interested. Next time u take her out make sure its just u 2. Dont bring friends along cuz that just shows that u guys are really nervous and scared. I say let her know how u feel and see what she says and base that on wanting to make her ur gf or not. good luck
Okay, bro, you gotta keep it chill. Just go up to her, look her deep in the eyes, and tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. If she seems happy, then you can proceed to ask her out. Suavely stroke your hair, and subtly ask ';So i herd u liek buttsecks?';
maybe she doesnt want to kiss on the first date? just ask her out AFTER the show because if she says no you will be bummed. if you held hands thats good. wait why would you even try to kiss her if you arent even going out?! what is she a whore?
I think she only wants to be your friend but then again i might be wrong since guys and girlz dont really hold hands if there friends so maybe she likes you. Just ask her out and if she says no then who cares go on with life she will still be your friend trust me.
while you were in the theatre yal were holding hands so if she ain't let go of your hand then my guess is that she likes you. I think you should go for it.Let her know what you are about. Or just ask her how she feels about you.
How old are you.
But (Im a girl) When a girl holds a guys hand in that sort of situation, it usually means a crush..
Whats there to loose ask her out..
In person, e-mail/text is a no no.
Hopefully that helped. I've never been asked out. But... lol.
she might not have wanted to kiss you because there were a lot of people around. just go for it! you'll regret it if you don't at least try. good luck :D
flirt some more and then read the signs, like if she flirts back then she likes you but you also cant ever really tell with girls cause she might be shy so you just have to take the chance and aask her out .
well you should probably start off by just asking her what she really thinks about you and if she says that she has feeling that are similar to yours then you can ask her to be ur gf.
well she likes you..i know that if i went with a person to a movie i know that i would have to be interested..id ask her out...
Maybe she is shy and doesn't want to be alone with you. Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090615194451AA8bnSs%26amp;r=w
There's a good chance that she likes you. Make a move and ask her! :)
haha heehehhehahhaha HO
well...seems insecure. i think you should ask her whatever you think you should ask and START OFF SLOW. from holding hands to hugs and then to kisses. she will feel much comfortable by then
go for it :)
she probably is in to it just as much as you are but doesn't want to open up so fast soooo. yeah.
ask her if she's interested in you and if yes ask her.
Sometimes girls need a little time. Wait a little bit and don't go to fast. talking and Communication is the best.
if she went on the date with you then she probably likes you. just go for it and ask her.
stop thinking about it so much, it shows and makes you seem insecure.
Why don't you tell her?
WHat if she dies tomorrow?
(not saying that she will)
What's the worst she can say, no?
Show your love today, man.
Sounds like she's pretty into u! I say go 4 it ! XD good luck!
ask her dont be afraid if she sais know dont get depressed move on.
Go for it!
You have to take chances in life!
well if u really like her u should ask her 2 go out with u
just ask her out and dont seem to ancxious
Guy advice please? I need help in getting a gorgeous guy!?
I am so tired of all the drama that comes with boys.... I need help with finding out what to do... I mean I love texting my guy buddies but there is this one guy I have a huge crush on and I need some help...I am a litttle shy but can be out going at times....I want him to notice me more. What can i do to help? I talk to him a lot but usually i dont know the right thing to say!Guy advice please? I need help in getting a gorgeous guy!?
Dry hump his leg like a poodle. You don't have to say a word. He will be yours forever.Guy advice please? I need help in getting a gorgeous guy!?
Step one you need to flirt with him. Compliment him, guys like that. Step two, get to know him know what he likes and what he doesn't. Step three, ask him to do stuff, if he says no, then wait a bit before you ask him. Don't seem desperate!natural facial
Dry hump his leg like a poodle. You don't have to say a word. He will be yours forever.Guy advice please? I need help in getting a gorgeous guy!?
Step one you need to flirt with him. Compliment him, guys like that. Step two, get to know him know what he likes and what he doesn't. Step three, ask him to do stuff, if he says no, then wait a bit before you ask him. Don't seem desperate!
My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
ok basically me and my now ex found out i was prego on fathers day. He went to the pool while I was at work and he met a female there (who is 20 yrs old and just got out of prison for dealing meth, she has no job no car no nothing) and basically did nothing but lie to me that entire week and sneak around with her (I later found out he slept with her in his car in a parking lot when he said he had to go save her 14 yr old sister from being raped and kissed me said he loved me and hed be home in a little bit). Friday the 26th he moved out to go be with her..and he still lied and said he was going to go out of state and be with his family. I found him that night and he wouldnt face me. (if it was really all worth it why couldnt he face me? atleast tell me the truth but when i talked to him earlier that day he still swore he hadnt touched her) He had someone else give me back his cell phone and he just yelled at me to leave (it was a complete crack shack hillbilly trailor park -10 dogs tied to the trees and everything) I dont understand why or how he could do this to me. He hasnt contacted me since (the police were called and they told him not to conact me or come near my home again) The baby was his idea. Our relationship was perfect before that week. We had a house jobs and a baby on the way. When I got his cell phone back I read the texts between him and her and on the 2nd day of knowing him she said she was falling in love with him! This girl is complete white trash and obviously has no respect for anyone. (i met her at the pool one day and she swore there was nothin going on and that she wasnt attracted to him at all and i told her i was carryin his child -after i got the phone bill i went through it and saw that she first texted him and texted him the entire time she was tellin me she didnt like him) Im so confused ...Im in shock, so is my family as everyone thought he was as close to perfect as you can get. His brother even couldnt believe he did this. I dont understand any of this and I dont know what to do. I dont want my child around him and especially that girl he ran off with. Do I go after him for child support? and let him be around my child (which he said the thursday night before he left was a mistake -he was with her when he said it and I think he was just trying to be a hard a** because again hes always wanted a baby) or just let it go and be a single mom ...
Oh and PS Im considered high risk due to blood clots and I have to stay calm and take meds and he knew this before we even decided to have a baby and he swore to me hed take care of me
oh and he also cleaned out my bank account on the tuesday night/wednesday morning after he met her and apparently spent it on her so should i sue him for that? also he had a lease agreement with my mom (the house is in her name) for proof of address should i have her sue him for that? around 5500My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
I would take that f**ker for every penney I could get. This guy made a human being and he is as responsible for this baby as you are. He would be a crappy example for a father. Good riddance.My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
You need to forget about him and focus on you and your baby. More than likely he's doing meth too. You and your baby don't need that kind of life.
I'm sorry about your health condition. I hope you have family who will help you during your pregnancy. Even though he wanted a baby and now that you're pregnant he's skipped out you still have a little miracle growing inside you who will always love you no matter what.
Even though you are hurting right now it's better you find out what he's really about now than later.
He can't clean out your bank account unless his name is on the account too.
Good luck hon! You may not see it now but it'll all work out for the best in the long run.
Edit: If you don't want him involved in the baby's life then don't put his name as the father on the birth certificate. If he's involved in your baby's life he will take your baby to that crack ridden trailer park. Not the best place for a baby.
Why would you ever decide to have a baby if it were a health problem for you? And to trust a guy you didn't know that well, too?
How did he get to clean out your bank account? Did he take your debit card? And did you give him your pin number?
You are not married so you could have charges placed for theft if you did not give him your card or tell him he could use it. However, if you were living with him at the time, the police may ignore that as it is a domestic dispute and retaliation for his behavior.
As to your mother, that is her business if she owns the house and if he signed a lease. Maybe you need to go back with Mom and rent out the house to someone else.
As to child support, yes, he is responsible, but I doubt you will get anything unless he gets more responsible.
If he is the father of the child, and you go after him for childsupport, and even if you don't, he could sue for visitation and might receive it as the father of the child. But not if he is a crack head or not as likely.
You need to decide what you want. Can you safely have this child? If you wish to you may place the child for adoption when it is born or keep it. Decide in the best interest of the child. You might have to have his signature as well to give it up.
Good luck in making good decisions for a change as to what to do at this time.
Good luck.
You have to sue him and file for child support. It sounds like he wont fight for visitation rights but if he does tell the judge the situation and make sure its documented that the woman he is with went to jail for dealing. Get your money back and make sure he pays for this child ...that alone will take stress off of you.Then be a happy single mom! It's hard put think of the millions of women out there doing it and that have did it. Stay strong.
OK, I only picked up this post because I thought it was about vertigo, but I am a counsellor so reading your story concerns me.
Ask yourself these questions, do you want this man as your baby's role model? Do you think that you deserve to have a relationship with a man that cheats on you and steals your money? Do you want your baby to spend weekends with him and his drugged up girlfriend? I am sure the answer is 'no'.
I'm not sure about the whole 'suing' thing I live in Australia and we don't really do that! You do however, have the most important job to do and that is look after yourself and your baby and be the best role model and Mum possible.
Well your choices are really only abortion, adoption, or single mom. This guy will be gone by the child's first birthday, I can guarantee it. You can take him for child support, but a loser like that won't have to pay much. A couple hundred bucks a month maybe. Which won't cover daycare even. So you'll be on state assistance and/or struggling to make ends meet for the next 18 years. I'd reconsider this whole thing if I were you.
You need to get a bulldog of an attorney. I'm a man too, but listen, you need to bend this guy over.
Keep the kids away from him if he's doing or selling meth. Make sure you gather evidence of him doing meth. Maybe you gather evidence and information before you drop the atom bomb through your attorney.
It sounds like there's zero chance of reconciling, if what you've said is true.
Oh and PS Im considered high risk due to blood clots and I have to stay calm and take meds and he knew this before we even decided to have a baby and he swore to me hed take care of me
oh and he also cleaned out my bank account on the tuesday night/wednesday morning after he met her and apparently spent it on her so should i sue him for that? also he had a lease agreement with my mom (the house is in her name) for proof of address should i have her sue him for that? around 5500My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
I would take that f**ker for every penney I could get. This guy made a human being and he is as responsible for this baby as you are. He would be a crappy example for a father. Good riddance.My head is still spinning! Im in shock please i need as much advice as possible..what do you guys think?
You need to forget about him and focus on you and your baby. More than likely he's doing meth too. You and your baby don't need that kind of life.
I'm sorry about your health condition. I hope you have family who will help you during your pregnancy. Even though he wanted a baby and now that you're pregnant he's skipped out you still have a little miracle growing inside you who will always love you no matter what.
Even though you are hurting right now it's better you find out what he's really about now than later.
He can't clean out your bank account unless his name is on the account too.
Good luck hon! You may not see it now but it'll all work out for the best in the long run.
Edit: If you don't want him involved in the baby's life then don't put his name as the father on the birth certificate. If he's involved in your baby's life he will take your baby to that crack ridden trailer park. Not the best place for a baby.
Why would you ever decide to have a baby if it were a health problem for you? And to trust a guy you didn't know that well, too?
How did he get to clean out your bank account? Did he take your debit card? And did you give him your pin number?
You are not married so you could have charges placed for theft if you did not give him your card or tell him he could use it. However, if you were living with him at the time, the police may ignore that as it is a domestic dispute and retaliation for his behavior.
As to your mother, that is her business if she owns the house and if he signed a lease. Maybe you need to go back with Mom and rent out the house to someone else.
As to child support, yes, he is responsible, but I doubt you will get anything unless he gets more responsible.
If he is the father of the child, and you go after him for childsupport, and even if you don't, he could sue for visitation and might receive it as the father of the child. But not if he is a crack head or not as likely.
You need to decide what you want. Can you safely have this child? If you wish to you may place the child for adoption when it is born or keep it. Decide in the best interest of the child. You might have to have his signature as well to give it up.
Good luck in making good decisions for a change as to what to do at this time.
Good luck.
You have to sue him and file for child support. It sounds like he wont fight for visitation rights but if he does tell the judge the situation and make sure its documented that the woman he is with went to jail for dealing. Get your money back and make sure he pays for this child ...that alone will take stress off of you.Then be a happy single mom! It's hard put think of the millions of women out there doing it and that have did it. Stay strong.
OK, I only picked up this post because I thought it was about vertigo, but I am a counsellor so reading your story concerns me.
Ask yourself these questions, do you want this man as your baby's role model? Do you think that you deserve to have a relationship with a man that cheats on you and steals your money? Do you want your baby to spend weekends with him and his drugged up girlfriend? I am sure the answer is 'no'.
I'm not sure about the whole 'suing' thing I live in Australia and we don't really do that! You do however, have the most important job to do and that is look after yourself and your baby and be the best role model and Mum possible.
Well your choices are really only abortion, adoption, or single mom. This guy will be gone by the child's first birthday, I can guarantee it. You can take him for child support, but a loser like that won't have to pay much. A couple hundred bucks a month maybe. Which won't cover daycare even. So you'll be on state assistance and/or struggling to make ends meet for the next 18 years. I'd reconsider this whole thing if I were you.
You need to get a bulldog of an attorney. I'm a man too, but listen, you need to bend this guy over.
Keep the kids away from him if he's doing or selling meth. Make sure you gather evidence of him doing meth. Maybe you gather evidence and information before you drop the atom bomb through your attorney.
It sounds like there's zero chance of reconciling, if what you've said is true.
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